My wife and I are white evangelicals. Here’s why we chose to give birth to black triplets.

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This White Woman Gave Birth To Three Black Babies And Her White Husband Encouraged It






By, Jen Nicole


So, this happened: Aaron Halbert and his wife Rachel self-described White Evangelicals who live in Mississippi gave birth to Black Triplets and her husband Aaron encouraged it.

Aaron was a child of evangelical missionaries in Honduras, who was very aware of racial diversity because he was the blue-eyed White kid, who stuck out like a sore thumb, but all the while said he felt deeply connected to the people there, even though he looked very different. Meanwhile Rachel grew up in thedelta of Mississippi and Aaron says “It wasn’t until she took a few trips to Haiti that the veil of racial prejudice was lifted from her eyes.”

When they were still dating, a common bond that drew them together was the fact that he and Rachel both wanted to adopt. So they did, they adopted a 3-year-old Black boy and a 2-year-old biracial girl from their home state of Mississippi. They adopted Black kids because they said that Black kids don’t get adopted at the rate that White Kids do. I understand that. This next thing, I don’t understand. So the couple said they wanted their adopted kids to relate to any kids theybirthed, so they went to National Embryo Donation Center, a Christian embryo bankand created 3 Black triplets from in-vitro fertilization.

So now this White couple has 5 Black children.

Aaron said “Grasping diversity will make the world stronger as we marvel at God’s creative genius on display through His people’s varying pigments, personalities and proficiencies. Our differences are cause for celebration, not scorn.”

Aaron who wrote about this in the Washington Post also said things like:

“There is something beautiful and enriching being the only white face sitting and chatting with some of my African-American friends as my son gets his hair cut on a Saturday morning.”

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“I felt sheer delight during this pregnancy watching my son and daughter, with his dark brown skin and her with the ringlet hair and slightly tan skin, kiss my white wife’s growing belly.”

So, am I the only person who is disturbed by this?

When did it become okay for White couplesto start giving birth to Black babies because they feel like it? This is my opinion– but everything about this story screams these people are off their rocker lol. If a Black woman and her Black husband went to an embryo bank and got in-vitro fertilization from a White man and had triplets, wouldn’t that be strange to you?

I understand that they wanted to adopt Black kids because they don’t get adopted as often as Whites BUT actually birthing Black babies is going overboard.

Aaron’s exact words were: “We wanted additional siblings to feel connected to our first two children racially, and asked the team at the NEDC if we could be matched with African-American embryos. They agreed with our thoughts about our kids matching each other racially and were supportive of the decision to select African American embryos.”

But the fact that they are adopted by White parents, makes them feel connected?

What I am getting at is, regardless if they gave birth to Black babies, White babies or Purple babies, at the end of the day their adopted kids are going to feel some type of way because these triplets are the mother-Rachel’s birth children, and they are not. Even though they are all Black, you better believe there will still be sibling rivalry, the birthed kids versus the adopted kids.

Does anyone else feel like this good “White Evangelical” couple could have ulterior motives?

Having Black babies is not a fad or something you can just do because you want to give back and help Black people.

If you are a White couple and want to help Black people, give birth to White kids and raise them with morals and to not be racist or prejudice. Teach your White children real American history which includes Black history and to love, appreciate and value ALL people. Thats what we need more of.We don’t need White couples having Black babies, lets save that for Black couples.
 

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My wife and I are white evangelicals. Here’s why we chose to give birth to black triplets.



I grew up as a child of evangelical missionaries in Honduras, very aware of racial diversity because I was the blue-eyed, cotton-topped white kid who stuck out like a sore thumb, but all the while felt deeply connected to the people there, even though we looked very different. My wife, on the other hand, grew up in the delta of Mississippi and it wasn’t until she took a few trips to Haiti that the veil of racial prejudice was lifted from her eyes. One of the central themes of Christianity is, after all, that God, through His Son, is calling people from every tongue, tribe and nation. Grasping diversity will make the world stronger as we marvel at God’s creative genius on display through His people’s varying pigments, personalities and proficiencies. Our differences are cause for celebration, not scorn.

When we were still dating, a common bond that drew us together was the fact that Rachel and I both wanted to adopt. While we were fertile, we were both deeply convicted that one of the ways to be pro-life is to involve ourselves in adoption. Several years into our marriage, even as we were pursuing the idea of returning to Honduras as missionaries with the Presbyterian Church in America, we visited an adoption agency in Mississippi, where we were living at the time. We were also trying at the time to conceive naturally. Knowing that it is often more challenging to find adoptive homes in the United States for non-Caucasian children we informed the agency that we were willing to accept any child except a fully Caucasian child. We did this with the deeply held conviction that if the Lord wanted us to have a fully Caucasian child my wife would conceive naturally.

We see protection of children not as charity, nor as part of a political agenda, but as something near to the heart of God. Because every human life bears his image, all life –no matter how young or old, no matter the stages of development — has inherent dignity and value. The Scriptures testify that God has always pleaded for the protection of his most helpless and needy image-bearers. Another prevalent theme of the Bible is that God adopts believers into his own family. When we adopt, we are echoing his own compassionate work, giving the world a glimpse of the truth and beauty of the gospel.

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When we began the adoption process we knew race could play a major role in our family dynamics, which led us to ponder deeply what a racially diverse family would look like. We believe when you look into any human’s eyes, you look into the face of an image-bearer of God – into the eyes of a person whose soul is eternal. While that is the common thread of all humanity, it doesn’t mean our racial differences are insignificant. We see the human family’s varying physical characteristics as awesome reminders of God’s creative brilliance. It’s not that we think race doesn’t exist, or that we don’t see it. In fact, it’s the opposite – we see it, and we embrace it.

There is something beautiful and enriching being the only white face sitting and chatting with some of my African-American friends as my son gets his hair cut on a Saturday morning. There is also something wonderful in the relationship that is built as my wife asks a black friend on Facebook how to care for our little biracial daughter’s hair. The beauty of a multi-ethnic family is found there, in the fact that the differences are the very thing that make ours richer and fuller. It forces you to think in a new way about the way you think, speak, act and live.

But, we knew, especially in the South, that a white couple with non-white children would draw a myriad of different reactions. There will always be the older white woman in Walmart who stared at us with sheer disgust, or the African-American mother who looked at us and just shook her head. However, there was also the young black girl who wept when we told her this little boy with her skin color was our son, and the older white doctor who lovingly prayed over him and held him so tenderly. These latter experiences were rays of hope reminding us how far our country had come, while the former experiences reminded us how far we still need to go.


It was our commitment to the protection of the unborn and to the idea of continuing to add to our family that led us, last year, to the National Embryo Donation Center, a Christian embryo bank. With our adopted children keeping us busy, we hadn’t been exactly looking for anything to add to our already-full plate. However we had recently run into a couple who highly encouraged us to look into embryo adoption. We were deeply moved by the idea of adding more children to our family by rescuing these tiny lives created from in-vitro fertilization, and intrigued by the thought of Rachel getting to experience pregnancy.

We live in a world with hundreds of thousands of embryos frozen in the United States alone. Most who aren’t selected by their biological parents are donated to science or destroyed or kept frozen. If Christians – or others – really believe life begins at conception, it follows that we should respond by being willing to support embryo adoption and even take part in it ourselves.

When we met with the NEDC, we were again faced with the question of what ethnicity we would choose for our adopted embryos. We wanted additional siblings to feel connected to our first two children racially, and asked the team at the NEDC if we could be matched with African-American embryos. They agreed with our thoughts about our kids matching each other racially and were supportive of the decision to select African American embryos.

In September of last year, we had two embryos implanted and began the long wait to see whether the transfer was successful. The day to visit the doctor could not come fast enough. Six weeks after the transfer we made a very nervous trip to the local hospital in Honduras, where we were serving as full-time missionaries. We began to describe everything to our doctor in Spanish (broken Spanish, that is). He asked us a few times if we were sure that we had transferred two embryos. Yes, of course we were sure, we said. However, one of those embryos had split in two inside Rachel’s womb. She was indeed pregnant- not only with twins, but triplets!

It’s been heartening to see virtually all of our friends and family express overwhelming support for our family and the unusual ways we’ve built it. In our minds, we are just living out our dream. A dream that may not look like the average family, but one that we are thankful could come true in light of our country’s history. It’s especially encouraging to see so many of our fellow millennial evangelicals now placing a high priority on life, adoption and multi-ethnic families.

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I felt sheer delight during this pregnancy watching my son and daughter, with his dark brown skin and her with the ringlet hair and slightly tan skin, kiss my white wife’s growing belly. Each evening they said good night to those three growing little girls in her belly, and now they get to finally say sweet dreams to their baby sisters — face-to-adorable-face.

This is not the way we planned it 12 years ago when we were dating and talking about adoption, but oh, how thankful we are for God blessing us with these sweet little ones He has placed in our care. I can remember a friend going through the adoption process telling me he had always wanted his family to look like a little United Nations. As I look at my growing family, I prefer to take it a step further, daring to hope that our family picture is a little hint of Heaven.

Aaron Halbert is a missionary serving in Tegucigalpa, Honduras.
 

DJCandle

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"If a Black woman and her Black husband went to an embryo bank and got in-vitro fertilization from a White man and had triplets, wouldn’t that be strange to you?"

Not at all. As long as there's love in the child's life, why does it matter?

There's a wealth of mixed babies in the world today. This is no different.
 

Mrfreddygoodbud

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I dont have a problem with that.. the only problem I have is them raising

them children in fucked up mississippi, too many fucked up rednecks that

know they on stolen property and how it was ill gotten, the guilt conscience

is driving them insane...
 

ORIGINAL NATION

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Original is the thing that seems to be destroyed generation after generation. Jesus told other blacks like him you can do these and greater works. Take away blacks ability to be natural and themselves. As long as we are raising our kids the way they do. More to dilute the idea of total separation., What do we have to preserve that is original and natural?
 
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