From a black woman married to a white man:
So I joined Reddit for the group. I’ve been at my wits end trying to explain what happened to my marriage to my family. Their advice is that “there are just some things you don’t talk about in a marriage”. But what was going on absolutely needed to be addressed. I just need to get this off my chest. Anyway, I was happily married for five years. We were together for 13 years if you include the time we dated. In 2016 he started watching Alex Jones and following all of the various conspiracy theories. Over a four year period it escalated from casual “Did you hear that.....” to “You’ve been brain washed by....”. But that wasn’t even the most painful part. When the BLM protest were happening he said that people needed to verbally express their concerns and not be violent. I explained that people have expressed concerns for years but it has seemed as if no one is listening. So he ask me if I’ve ever experienced anything. For context I am a Black/African-American woman and he is caucasian. So I told him about the numerous times I have been discriminated against. One story in particular happened while I was in college in 2006. I was told that I was not allowed into a particular bar because they “didn’t want my kind” there. I told my husband that barring entry based on race is racist. He said “I hear what you’re saying, but where’s your proof that this was racist?” He then went on to say how he doesn’t believe racism exists and that it’s all just personal preference. I felt so betrayed and heart broken. I feel there is no coming back from a comment like that. So after nine years of marriage we are currently separated and going through a divorce.
*Not going to lie. I chuckled a little bit.
So I joined Reddit for the group. I’ve been at my wits end trying to explain what happened to my marriage to my family. Their advice is that “there are just some things you don’t talk about in a marriage”. But what was going on absolutely needed to be addressed. I just need to get this off my chest. Anyway, I was happily married for five years. We were together for 13 years if you include the time we dated. In 2016 he started watching Alex Jones and following all of the various conspiracy theories. Over a four year period it escalated from casual “Did you hear that.....” to “You’ve been brain washed by....”. But that wasn’t even the most painful part. When the BLM protest were happening he said that people needed to verbally express their concerns and not be violent. I explained that people have expressed concerns for years but it has seemed as if no one is listening. So he ask me if I’ve ever experienced anything. For context I am a Black/African-American woman and he is caucasian. So I told him about the numerous times I have been discriminated against. One story in particular happened while I was in college in 2006. I was told that I was not allowed into a particular bar because they “didn’t want my kind” there. I told my husband that barring entry based on race is racist. He said “I hear what you’re saying, but where’s your proof that this was racist?” He then went on to say how he doesn’t believe racism exists and that it’s all just personal preference. I felt so betrayed and heart broken. I feel there is no coming back from a comment like that. So after nine years of marriage we are currently separated and going through a divorce.
*Not going to lie. I chuckled a little bit.
