I'm going to tell the story before, but I'll tell it again.
When I was in the Navy, I met a guy who was going through something similar. His son was 5 years old when he found out that his son wasn't his. But how he found out is the crazy part.
He joined the Navy because he couldn't find work where he came from. He was already married and after she had the kid he was just like I got to do something, so he joined the Navy.
So he's playing with his son in the yard and his son cuts himself and starts bleeding profusely so he rushes him to the hospital. He give the nurses and doctors the information and says, "If you need some blood from me, just hook me up."
The doctor looked at the kids information and his and said, "There is no way possible that that child is your son."
"That's My son, I brought him in here."
Doctor said, "You don't understand what I'm telling you. There is no way possible that that child is your son."
Now as I said he was married before he left for the Navy, so his wife messed around on him before he left for the Navy. It's one thing if you're in the military and you're on deployment and your wife messes around on you, but when she messes around on you when you there...
Either way, he files for divorce and fights for custody. Come to find out, the bitch didn't even know who the real father was (or she wouldn't say).
The day the judge is going to make the decision, this bitch shows up the court late. The judge asked her why she was late and she said she went out partying with some friends the night before and overslept.
The judge basically called her a dumbass and awarded custody to my dude, and made her pay child support.
That's some hard shit. I seen it happen multiple ways. I've seen situations like this, where the guy still treats the kid like it's his. I've seen situations where the guy finds out the kid isn't his, and leaves and has nothing more to do with the child.
Neither one is wrong.