So, I was skipping down my Twitter timeline and came across a few posts that @FatFemPinUp had posted. I was slightly hesitant because she seemed like she was in one of those moods. You know, the one where any human born with a penis is a prime reason for her to lash out for anything they do. But, Owl being the adventurous type, clicked on the links anyhow. So, you have these discussions, well, rants, anyway, about the “nice guy”.
Okay, let us first do something here.
Definitions matter.
What is a “nice guy”?
I am not certain that I do not know my own standard here, but I do believe often, depending on age, experience and gender, that we all are not discussing the same person. It is like this concept, the “friend zone”, that I wish would be found in the next stack of bodies some “mentally ill” white dude decides to pile up. I suppose at a certain age, I have learned that one probably should not build their self-esteem on the fragile sands of their sexual exploits and I can only hope that more of my gender takes up this cause as well. However, until that phase of evolution is entered, it should be outlined that most males are in a life or death contest to have sex with as many women as quickly as possible. No matter how jokingly I write that, there is something in our socialization that presents our masculinity as an abstract only made concrete through conquest. From fighting to fucking, this is what defines us as “men” in the empirical sense. Sure, there are our responsibilities, but too often they don’t appeal as signifier of our worth, only the projections of that worth.
So, who is the “nice guy”?
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Okay, let us first do something here.
Definitions matter.
What is a “nice guy”?
I am not certain that I do not know my own standard here, but I do believe often, depending on age, experience and gender, that we all are not discussing the same person. It is like this concept, the “friend zone”, that I wish would be found in the next stack of bodies some “mentally ill” white dude decides to pile up. I suppose at a certain age, I have learned that one probably should not build their self-esteem on the fragile sands of their sexual exploits and I can only hope that more of my gender takes up this cause as well. However, until that phase of evolution is entered, it should be outlined that most males are in a life or death contest to have sex with as many women as quickly as possible. No matter how jokingly I write that, there is something in our socialization that presents our masculinity as an abstract only made concrete through conquest. From fighting to fucking, this is what defines us as “men” in the empirical sense. Sure, there are our responsibilities, but too often they don’t appeal as signifier of our worth, only the projections of that worth.
So, who is the “nice guy”?
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