Fellas, How Long Would You Wait to Have Sex With a Female You Really Liked?

[Deuterion]

What's Up BGOL?

I honestly feel like wait times are ridiculous especially when a Female is holding back when the attraction and sexual tension is clearly there. So I have to ask, how long can you stick around before you finally just say "fuck it" and leave a Woman alone for good? Now I'm not talking about a jumpoff I'm speaking on someone you're really feeling and would like to build with. I'm currently in a situation where I'm thinking about letting go of a female I've been seeing for a month because she has been holding out. The unique thing about my situation is that we fucked on our second date but she kind of flipped out and said that everything was happening too fast and that the sex was going to complicate her feelings.

I know some pessimistic cats are going to come in here and say I didn't hit it good but I knocked it out and made her orgasm. So it's not that she's trying to find a cop out...I think she is really concerned about not falling head over heels for me. She's a very intelligent and beautiful Woman but it's been almost a month and we've been hanging out religiously and a nigga hasn't got passed a fingerbang...I feel like I'm in the 7th Grade all over again. I don't know if I'm being inconsiderate to her feelings or do I have a legitimate gripe. It's not like I'm desperate because I have a couple girls I can call when I need it but I'm getting tired of taking a girl out on dates if I'm not sure we gon' take it to the next level. So how long do you guys usually hold out before you call it quits?

 

[NativeSon]

shit...it shouldn't take more than a week.

any longer than she doesn't have a real interest in you.

 

[P03t]

Re: Fellas, How Long Would You Wait to Have Sex With a Female You Really Interested I

fucked on your 2nd date I don't know fam....

honestly I wait 'til she/we ready....if we really digging each other and it happens quickly I'm aight...

but 2nd date is way too quick IMHO....I would lose a lil' intreset in her knowing she gave it up to me so fast.....

 

[fwillia]

What do you mean by wait? It's been times where I liked someone and I didn't beat as soon as I would have liked, but I wasn't waiting around for it either. Please believe I was getting other pussy in the meantime.

 

[P03t]

shit...it shouldn't take more than a week.

any longer than she doesn't have a real interest in you.

lol..I disagree maybe she wants to hold the pum pum from you to see how serious you are...amybe she ain't ready....maybe she doesn't want the foundation of that relationship to start off so sexual cuz when that happens its hard to break out of that.....

you should consider those reasons before you can say she not feeling you...cuz honestly i had shorties loving me but did not want to fuck so damn fast...well they wanted too...but they wanted to build something 1st...

 

[killacash]

I'd say that u should bring it up.

Slowly stop talking to her and remind her that its not because you want to but because it seems like she isn't TRULY interested in you.

If she is truly interested in you, she will step her game up and allow for things to happen that she would previously avoid. Understand?

 

[Deuterion]

lol..I disagree maybe she wants to hold the pum pum from you to see how serious you are...amybe she ain't ready....maybe she doesn't want the foundation of that relationship to start off so sexual cuz when that happens its hard to break out of that.....

you should consider those reasons before you can say she not feeling you...cuz honestly i had shorties loving me but did not want to fuck so damn fast...well they wanted too...but they wanted to build something 1st...

She told me that exact thing and I feel her on it but it's getting frustrating. We'll go out and have a great time...she'll be all romantic and on me but at the end of the night she doesn't even want to come to my place anymore because she doesn't want to be tempted. I almost feel like I'm being teased a tad but at the same time if I be patient with her it might turn into something great. It's a big gamble, but I cannot lie I'm getting tired of taking her out on dates, taking her home, and then calling another girl late at night just to get a nut off.

 

[P03t]

She told me that exact thing and I feel her on it but it's getting frustrating. We'll go out and have a great time...she'll be all romantic and on me but at the end of the night she doesn't even want to come to my place anymore because she doesn't want to be tempted. I almost feel like I'm being teased a tad but at the same time if I be patient with her it might turn into something great. It's a big gamble, but I cannot lie I'm getting tired of taking her out on dates, taking her home, and then calling another girl late at night just to get a nut off.

see...real talk my dude...I may get called a lame for this...this is BGOL...

but if I really feel shorty and we just started out dating I fall back from sex...cuz I know if I fuck real fast your going to end up jump off status...

the next time we go out sex will be expected....and it complicates you trying to see what she really about....so I fall back trying to fuck so quickly if I like you.....

she/you/ya'll should have not fucked so fast let alone the 2nd date family....

 

[P03t]

let me tell you the realest thing you will ever hear... all these bitches who play that hard to get bullshit are full of shit..... some nigga can hit that shit right away. maybe not you, maybe not me, but some nigga can hit that without all the dates, wine and dine bullshit... these ho's are full of shit. they hold out on good niggas, but give the pussy freely to sucker niggas all the time. fuck taking that btch out so she can have a good time.. we are in a recession, and niggas nowadays have the upper hand. a bad bitch is a dime a dozen these days, but a quality nigga with a job, not gay, well groomed, not looking like little wayne is like finding a needle in a haystack. i say stop that tricking immediately and just lay low in the cut.... she will wonder why you have stopped giving her the royal treatment.....as a result she will work hard to regain this treatment....this all equates to you getting ass without having to spend any more doe..

good post...good points....

but he's not trying to just fuck her....and dip....he actually likes her...that advice IMO would be better if he just wanted to smash and dash...then find out what shorty really about....wanting to spend his time with her...

 

[Deuterion]

see...real talk my dude...I may get called a lame for this...this is BGOL...

but if I really feel shorty and we just started out dating I fall back from sex...cuz I know if I fuck real fast your going to end up jump off status...

the next time we go out sex will be expected....and it complicates you trying to see what she really about....so I fall back trying to fuck so quickly if I like you.....

she/you/ya'll should have not fucked so fast let alone the 2nd date family....

Thanks for being real I appreciate it. You see, all of my life I've been fucking around and not taking anything serious with Women at all. I'm now at a point where I feel like I want to settle down and have a stable Woman in my life that's riding with me and that I can trust. The problem is that I feel like I'm getting my past ideologies of fucking as soon as I can mixed up with seeing the bigger picture. So in other words I'm looking at possible Girlfriend material through a "Jumpoff" Microscope. It's kind of like I'm fighting with myself moreso than with her. Because on one hand I want to ride it out with her but on the other I'm like fuck it she's not worth thinking about. So like I said I think this is probably an issue with me and has nothign to do with her actions at all. Hope that makes sense.

 

[the Imm font]

Peace

you did such a good job, she doesnt want to get hooked on the dick. i wont say "drop her" but ignore her. she isnt going anywhere if you gave her the big O. If you called her 3x a day, turn it down to one. if you saw her 3xs a week, turn it down to one. Smell really nice when you are around her, and start act like you losing interest a little and she know what time it is.

 

[DjMorpheus]

Bruh. STOP THIS SHIT!

Right Da Fuck NOW!

Bitch is playin wit you. Nigga right now you are slowly being transformed into a super simp. Bitch got you in a simp coccoon and you can't even see it. The metamorphasis is taking place but you still have time.

You gotta be like this on her ass tho

But alas...This will probably be too hard for you. See...a woman will test your limits and push you as far as she thinks she can. THis shit is a game. She got you hooked on the pussy and she know you fiendin right now. She let you hit that shit and now you hooked. Now she danglin that pussy in front of you and actin sweet and romantic cuz she know she got you on the hook. You got pussy on the brain and she know it. Your only way out...

Nonchalance

Her pussy must be of NO CONSEQUENCE to you. If you could convey that then you would have to beat her ass off of you.

 

[P03t]

Thanks for being real I appreciate it. You see, all of my life I've been fucking around and not taking anything serious with Women at all. I'm now at a point where I feel like I want to settle down and have a stable Woman in my life that's riding with me and that I can trust. The problem is that I feel like I'm getting my past ideologies of fucking as soon as I can mixed up with seeing the bigger picture. So in other words I'm looking at possible Girlfriend material through a "Jumpoff" Microscope. It's kind of like I'm fighting with myself moreso than with her. Because on one hand I want to ride it out with her but on the other I'm like fuck it she's not worth thinking about. So like I said I think this is probably an issue with me and has nothign to do with her actions at all. Hope that makes sense.

maybe it is you brotha...maybe you fear being locked down with one lady....or you just want to dip your dicl in a million twats...

honestly....that lifestyle is not something you want to be ding when your 35-40....

just take your tim fam....

 

[Deuterion]

Peace

you did such a good job, she doesnt want to get hooked on the dick. i wont say "drop her" but ignore her. she isnt going anywhere if you gave her the big O. If you called her 3x a day, turn it down to one. if you saw her 3xs a week, turn it down to one. Smell really nice when you are around her, and start act like you losing interest a little and she know what time it is.

Bruh. STOP THIS SHIT!

Right Da Fuck NOW!

Bitch is playin wit you. Nigga right now you are slowly being transformed into a super simp. Bitch got you in a simp coccoon and you can't even see it. The metamorphasis is taking place but you still have time.

You gotta be like this on her ass tho
But alas...This will probably be too hard for you. See...a woman will test your limits and push you as far as she thinks she can. THis shit is a game. She got you hooked on the pussy and she know you fiendin right now. She let you hit that shit and now you hooked. Now she danglin that pussy in front of you and actin sweet and romantic cuz she know she got you on the hook. You got pussy on the brain and she know it. Your only way out...

Nonchalance

Her pussy must be of NO CONSEQUENCE to you. If you could convey that then you would have to beat her ass off of you.

This is really good advice here guys thanks! I'ma definitely take this to the head because it make a whole bunch of sense. Nonchalance sounds like the perfect counter move as it takes control away from her and now she is forced to make a move because she feel she is losing you. GOT IT!

 

[greygoose]

She told me that exact thing and I feel her on it but it's getting frustrating. We'll go out and have a great time...she'll be all romantic and on me but at the end of the night she doesn't even want to come to my place anymore because she doesn't want to be tempted. I almost feel like I'm being teased a tad but at the same time if I be patient with her it might turn into something great. It's a big gamble, but I cannot lie I'm getting tired of taking her out on dates, taking her home, and then calling another girl late at night just to get a nut off.

brotha
i usually tend to write to the point where colin powell jumps in and whisks me away but ill be brief. take heed here though bro:
if all you're doing is going out on dates then fuck it. its not worthy. building a relationship means doing more than just dating. you have to find that comfort level. that comfort zone. you have to learn about each other intimately. by intimately i dont mean sexual. but being arond them in diverse situations to justify your true feelings for that person. at the movies, at the park, at home, at her home, going shopping, etc etc etc. if you plan on building any type of genuine relationship you're gonna have to move beyond the conventional going out to dinner routine and switch things up. you catch my drift? again, skip the sexual for a minute and understand my point.


at this point you need to evaluate what she brings to the table and what she's willing to sacrifice to get the end result (a relationship with you) evaluate if she's really worth what you're considering.

how often do you see each other? how often do you talk on the phone? how many times have ya'll gone out and where?

 

[DaddyDiesel]

If she is cool as fuck and you two are generating GREAT chemistry (not sexually) together, continue to be patient and let it flow. But some words of advice: don't be spending too much money on this chick in the meantime unless it is being reciprocated, cause you never know, she might be holdin out on you and giving the pussy to another ninja, not sayin she is, but just cover all areas and let it ride out. Good Luck dawg!!! Good chemistry wit a chick you feelin physically is definitely rare...

Just use the next month as a feeling out process, the pussy shouldn't be priority cause like you know, you can get that anywhere... Peace...

 

[Deuterion]

brotha
i usually tend to write to the point where colin powell jumps in and whisks me away but ill be brief. take heed here though bro:
if all you're doing is going out on dates then fuck it. its not worthy. building a relationship means doing more than just dating. you have to find that comfort level. that comfort zone. you have to learn about each other intimately. by intimately i dont mean sexual. but being arond them in diverse situations to justify your true feelings for that person. at the movies, at the park, at home, at her home, going shopping, etc etc etc. if you plan on building any type of genuine relationship you're gonna have to move beyond the conventional going out to dinner routine and switch things up. you catch my drift? again, skip the sexual for a minute and understand my point.


at this point you need to evaluate what she brings to the table and what she's willing to sacrifice to get the end result (a relationship with you) evaluate if she's really worth what you're considering.

how often do you see each other? how often do you talk on the phone? how many times have ya'll gone out and where?

Wise words here man. To answer you questions over the past month we probably have hung out 10+ times, we talk almost everyday (she'll text me), and we've been everywhere together. Sometimes she'll just be with me on my day to day paying bills, grocery shopping, washing my car, and etc. We have become very very comfortable with each other over that past month to the point where we can just kick it and have a good time talking. The thing with me is that I want to be able to express how I feel physically and she is not ready for that which is irking me.

 

[djkidrich]

Not very long, why?

 

[fwillia]

you fellas shouldn't be so rough on girls who give it up quick.

 

[djkidrich]

Seriously though man,
If she is doing all that other shit with you, hanging out on errands, kicking it with you, dates, etc. She should already be comfortable with you on the physical, she needs to leave that baggage at the door brother. You are taking her for who she is and what she is bringing to the relationship, and she should be doing the same thing. She should be evaluating you for who you are as a whole and not what the other motherfucker did to her in the past. Discuss this with her, she will try to twist it into you just want to fuck, but try to get past that and make it clear to her that you ain't about wasting your time at this point in your life...

 

[charlie dark]

What's Up BGOL?

I honestly feel like wait times are ridiculous especially when a Female is holding back when the attraction and sexual tension is clearly there. So I have to ask, how long can you stick around before you finally just say "fuck it" and leave a Woman alone for good? Now I'm not talking about a jumpoff I'm speaking on someone you're really feeling and would like to build with. I'm currently in a situation where I'm thinking about letting go of a female I've been seeing for a month because she has been holding out. The unique thing about my situation is that we fucked on our second date but she kind of flipped out and said that everything was happening too fast and that the sex was going to complicate her feelings.

I know some pessimistic cats are going to come in here and say I didn't hit it good but I knocked it out and made her orgasm. So it's not that she's trying to find a cop out...I think she is really concerned about not falling head over heels for me. She's a very intelligent and beautiful Woman but it's been almost a month and we've been hanging out religiously and a nigga hasn't got passed a fingerbang...I feel like I'm in the 7th Grade all over again. I don't know if I'm being inconsiderate to her feelings or do I have a legitimate gripe. It's not like I'm desperate because I have a couple girls I can call when I need it but I'm getting tired of taking a girl out on dates if I'm not sure we gon' take it to the next level. So how long do you guys usually hold out before you call it quits?

Wait 'till your married!!!

 

[Naha-Nago]

Three formal encounters (dates) is the general standard and limit. Time between formal encounters varies. Most if not all women know this. Here is an example of how this standard usually plays out for me (like all other posters I can only truly reference my exoriences.).


Encounter 1: All her. This is more like an interview and I'm checking for any red flags that will tip off any behavior that I will not like if me and her go further. Sex is totally on her and if it goes down or not is irrelevant. If it happens cool, I'm just checking to see if the bitch is crazy.


Encounter 2: now that the interview process is over I pick her mind and gauge her general body language for her level attraction in me and reaffirm that I am sexual being; I.e. I like to fuck and this activity needs to be addressed in the near if not near future. Sex is even til and if it doesn't happen it is definately a topic of discussion. Its on me.


Encounter 3: By this stage all the cards are on the table and its basically "shit or get of the pot.". Attraction between us has been confirm (would be no 3rd encounter if not) and if doesn't happen by this time I'm questioning her motives and wondering why she is wasting my time.


Encounter 4: there isn't one if we didn't have sex by 3...


That's pretty much it. I'm assuming the OP is dealing with a grown woman who knows what she wants. If a woman I'm involved with is not looking for a sexual relation ship within my time frame it is addressed in encounter 2 and dealt with accordingly...



*throws down 2 cents and goes back to lurking*

 

[NativeSon]

honestly fam, it sounds like she has another man.

 

[greygoose]

Wise words here man. To answer you questions over the past month we probably have hung out 10+ times, we talk almost everyday (she'll text me), and we've been everywhere together. Sometimes she'll just be with me on my day to day paying bills, grocery shopping, washing my car, and etc. We have become very very comfortable with each other over that past month to the point where we can just kick it and have a good time talking. The thing with me is that I want to be able to express how I feel physically and she is not ready for that which is irking me.

how old is she?

one month isn't time to jump bail. BUT it depends on her net worth. and how needy you are.

when you're with her watch her body language. everything from her eyes to your lil makeout sessions will tell you whether or not knockin the boots will be a reality. if she's not into you sexually you'll read it. the chemistry has to be on point to where you have no doubts. dont be delusional.

does she ever go into her pockets?
how does she introduce you to her friends? her coworkers? and whats her body language like with aforementioned people?
im naturally observant of everything around me. i like to know things before they happen

 

[veritech]

too many young cats in this piece. if i found a girl that you really liked i am waiting. girls get on my nerves so fast and for me to have the patience to really like someone is worth the wait.

most chicks i can only stand to be around to bone and bounce. a chick that i like to be around i will wait for.

 

[veritech]

how old is she?

one month isn't time to jump bail. BUT it depends on her net worth. and how needy you are.

when you're with her watch her body language. everything from her eyes to your lil makeout sessions will tell you whether or not knockin the boots will be a reality. if she's not into you sexually you'll read it. the chemistry has to be on point to where you have no doubts. dont be delusional.

does she ever go into her pockets?
how does she introduce you to her friends? her coworkers? and whats her body language like with aforementioned people?
im naturally observant of everything around me. i like to know things before they happen

smart dude.

 

[LennyNero1972]

I dn't know if we hit it right off I'd say a few weeks tops. Anytime after that you'll probably be put in the friend zone. Women can lose interest quickly.

 

[veritech]

Three formal encounters (dates) is the general standard and limit. Time between formal encounters varies. Most if not all women know this. Here is an example of how this standard usually plays out for me (like all other posters I can only truly reference my exoriences.).


Encounter 1: All her. This is more like an interview and I'm checking for any red flags that will tip off any behavior that I will not like if me and her go further. Sex is totally on her and if it goes down or not is irrelevant. If it happens cool, I'm just checking to see if the bitch is crazy.


Encounter 2: now that the interview process is over I pick her mind and gauge her general body language for her level attraction in me and reaffirm that I am sexual being; I.e. I like to fuck and this activity needs to be addressed in the near if not near future. Sex is even til and if it doesn't happen it is definately a topic of discussion. Its on me.


Encounter 3: By this stage all the cards are on the table and its basically "shit or get of the pot.". Attraction between us has been confirm (would be no 3rd encounter if not) and if doesn't happen by this time I'm questioning her motives and wondering why she is wasting my time.


Encounter 4: there isn't one if we didn't have sex by 3...


That's pretty much it. I'm assuming the OP is dealing with a grown woman who knows what she wants. If a woman I'm involved with is not looking for a sexual relation ship within my time frame it is addressed in encounter 2 and dealt with accordingly...



*throws down 2 cents and goes back to lurking*

lol. dumb dude.

WTF?

 

[Chaise]

The real reason she is holding out is because she is gauging your true intentions towards her . . . she is no doubt feeling you as much as you feeling her . . . she just hates the fact that she gave it so quickly and she wants to make sure you're just not out to fuck . . . typically . . . women know upon meeting a man if they are fuckable . . . how long they make you wait depends on what they want from you . . .

 

[Deuterion]

Seriously though man,
If she is doing all that other shit with you, hanging out on errands, kicking it with you, dates, etc. She should already be comfortable with you on the physical, she needs to leave that baggage at the door brother. You are taking her for who she is and what she is bringing to the relationship, and she should be doing the same thing. She should be evaluating you for who you are as a whole and not what the other motherfucker did to her in the past. Discuss this with her, she will try to twist it into you just want to fuck, but try to get past that and make it clear to her that you ain't about wasting your time at this point in your life...

This is game right here, you summed up some of my thoughts!

Wait 'till your married!!!

Too late!

Three formal encounters (dates) is the general standard and limit. Time between formal encounters varies. Most if not all women know this. Here is an example of how this standard usually plays out for me (like all other posters I can only truly reference my exoriences.).

That's pretty much it. I'm assuming the OP is dealing with a grown woman who knows what she wants. If a woman I'm involved with is not looking for a sexual relation ship within my time frame it is addressed in encounter 2 and dealt with accordingly...

Good info.

honestly fam, it sounds like she has another man.

Wouldn't doubt it, I'm not her man so it's irrelevant.

how old is she?

one month isn't time to jump bail. BUT it depends on her net worth. and how needy you are.

when you're with her watch her body language. everything from her eyes to your lil makeout sessions will tell you whether or not knockin the boots will be a reality. if she's not into you sexually you'll read it. the chemistry has to be on point to where you have no doubts. dont be delusional.

does she ever go into her pockets?
how does she introduce you to her friends? her coworkers? and whats her body language like with aforementioned people?
im naturally observant of everything around me. i like to know things before they happen

Man when she is around me she kinda reminds me of how girls act in High School. She's all giddy and looking into my eyes and holding on to me tight. She'll whisper my name just to get my attention and be chessing when I look back at her. She'll rub all over my arms and it seems very genuine. I ask myself is she gaming me but the look in her eyes and the smiles she gives are just too authentic. I have the vibe that when she is around me she feels comfortable and safe the way she holds on to me. When we were at the theater one time she was on me mad tough. One thing I do notice that I call her on is that she calls me a Womanizer. I ask her does she honestly think that and she says no...but I think there may be more to it. She said that I'm nice and that I'ma just reel her in and once I get her heart I'ma be like "SURPRISE I'M A WOMANIZER!"

 

[World B Free]

IT LOOKS LIKE YOU HAVE


ENTERED THE ...

FRIEND ZONE



LETS EXPLAIN THE FRIEND ZONE:

SO.....

 

[Makkonnen]

she's playing with your mind and emotions
she already was intimate with you and goes to the brink of intercourse continually yet claims she does not want it to be sexual
she is trying to see how far she can toy with you

cut her off asap
bitches (not women) who play mind games are not worth the effort
either she is a manipulative whore or she is a confused jackass - either one is unfit for long term relationship status

seek a honest partner

 

[greygoose]

IT LOOKS LIKE YOU HAVE


ENTERED THE ...

FRIEND ZONE



LETS EXPLAIN THE FRIEND ZONE:

SO.....

sorry OP but....................

this shit is just funny. niggas random clowning







you might need to throw a hex on the situation. i.e. make yourself unavailable and only available when its convenient for you. put her ass in training.
you didnt answer my question though.

 

[Deuterion]

sorry OP but....................

this shit is just funny. niggas random clowning

you might need to throw a hex on the situation. i.e. make yourself unavailable and only available when its convenient for you. put her ass in training.
you didnt answer my question though.

I was laughing my ass off at that too man! But I was going to meet some of her friends but I had to go to work so I missed out that time but she was disappointed that I didn't get to meet her best friend. She went in her pockets several times once when we went bowling and when we went to rent a movie and I aint have change for a 100.

 

[NorthsideOKC]

You know females are backwards. The more they like you, the more they're willing to make you wait. If they're attracted to you physically, but have no interest in you, there is no waiting period. There's exceptions to everything, but for the most part that's usually how it is.

As for the thread title, this is not something you should let this broad be controlling you with. Just get something in the side & stop stressing over it.