But I'm also not sure about the whole "loyalty is based on fear" thing. I was more with when he talking about conditional loyalty, loyalty depending on what you get out of it. I'm very loyal, loyal by nature to an extent. But the condition of my loyalty is reciprocity. When I give loyalty, I expect loyalty back. I think fear would only be a factor in the case where I rescind my loyalty out of fear of betrayal. I don't GIVE loyalty out of fear, tho. So I don't know, I kinda wish he had more time to expound on that.
Yes, Loyalty itself isn't based on fear. However, Zo was speaking on people who demand loyalty based out of fear. Like be loyal to me to show me that you really down as a friend. That isn't what friendship and loyalty are about.
What I got from Zo is that loyalty is given to those who are loyal themselves. It's like Patrice O'Neal on the topic of love from one of his comedy bits. Women will demand love from men because they themselves are in love with that man. The man is lovable. But just because the guy is lovable doesn't make a woman lovable by default.
Love and fear cannot operate from the same place. Either you are in love or you are in a state of fear.
It is the same with Loyalty. Either you are Loyal or you are fearful of potential betrayal so you in fact demand loyalty.
If you a loyal dude and someone fucks you over, that person just fucked up and lost a valuable asset in their life. You're still a good loyal person. It's just you can't give that to the person who betrayed you anymore. Essentially you take your ball and go home.