this me right here..even if I tried to be solo I can’t
Debate: Is making friends as an adult really hard, or is it just me?
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i don’t hate people I just hate idiots and unfortunately the world is creating more and more by the day… I also prefer hanging with females than dudes( unfortunately the dudes don’t get that part)
I was like that since high school and college and dudes just didn't get it. They tended to be more mature smell better make better conversation and be much more useful in everyday life
Definitely better conversation, more useful, more fun, etc… I don’t drink, smoke, or use any other type of drug so there goes lots of dudes social hanging.. on the block consuming vices , having pissing contest, having Al bundy moments and false stories just wasn’t my cup of tea..like i always said if I’m gathering with a bunch of dudes their better be some kinda athletic equipment , we getting money, or on to go see some broads outside of that lots of the relations are overrated… I have my day ones, some I met later on life that’s in my close circle and I’m overall cool with a lot of dudes but most times the few dudes I hang with have an extremely common bond and we got history
It's not hard for me to make friends, it's just folks don't know HOW to be friends! Friendship is a two way street. If you're breaking my balls on some shyt, you should expect your balls to be busted as well. If I am helping you move, the excuse of "you just don't want to" shouldn't be used when I ask you to help me.
I used to be the type of friend that will help you hide/dismember a dead body. And wouldn't rat on you. Now that I have a family my priorities have changed, but the sentiment is the same.
I used to be the type of friend that will help you hide/dismember a dead body. And wouldn't rat on you. Now that I have a family my priorities have changed, but the sentiment is the same.
What heterosexual male DOESN'T get that?!?!?! Hell, I'm trying to show you how good of a hang I am so I can hang out with ya'll!!!
I’m a libra im a full believer in equal scales.. friendship definitely should always be a 2way street.. in fact in most cases my boys would always say I’m the better friend cause you can pretty much always count on me in various things and you would see overall people benefit off me than I do from them
I hate people, but I like A person if that makes sense.
I have broken off from company functions in other countries/states just to interact with the locals
I have a SUPER low tolerance for idiots, and for whatever reason they seem to be mating!!!
Now in my old age I look back in disgust at how many female relationships I ruined to hang with dem suckers.
I went from the only boy in a bronx apartment with 4 girls giving me a fashion show and asking me to grade if their kisses used to much tongue.
To sitting in a pissy stairwell with 4 smelly dudes spitting the worst rhymes ever heard and arguing if the hulk could beat submariner in water.
You ARE that person.
Bro you that person online in person you must have angel wings
Lot of dudes don’t hang with chicks or never had true female friends.. their circles are always dudes.. tell them to have a bbq and it’s nothing but sausages, have a gathering no pussy around, bunch of dudes no chicks.. lot of dudes be on some fuck bitches, hoes b4 bros blah blah.. than want to know why they got no pussy lined up for the weekend, or cut throat/ cockblockers when it come to broads, or don’t know how to talk to chicks.. trust lot of dudes fall into this category.. put chicks in front of them and watch the full of shit lies come out, they become diff characters, they say dumbshit, some become funny style, they need some form of vice to interact with them or they need them under some sort of substance in order to holla
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DOG!!!!! I am the same way! One of my best friends he and I are both GODFathers to our sons, doesn't matter every birthday his son gets a meaningful gift. My kid gets a phone call. This motherfcuker makes twice as much as me. His wife makes twice as much a me. Has a YouTube channel that I helped get monetized...but my son gets a phone call...and come to think about it, this year he got a text message!!!! But it is shyt like that across the board with whoever is my friend.
Ehh, I COULD fall into that category. BUT I use it more for a prop, just something to do with my hands. Due to my size and resting bouncer face, if I cross them or put them behind my back I look intimidating.
Well my best friend always jokingly always said he gonna buy me a cape cause I’m always saving somebody ass or people always come to me with their problems.. b4 his girl separated us he would tell you he’s gotten double digits amount of pussy just hanging with me., hell his first 3 pieces of pussy came through me, his first white girl, first stripper, first pornstar, he’ll tell you how I would just randomly call him up and be like yo you upstairs in your crib? You showered? Yoo come to my crib I got some pussy right here you don’t have to say anything she know what it is.. I was the alley oop king.. it’s pretty much why his wifey dosent care for me cause she know how much pussy he can get if he around me and she fears my presence.. hell every single person I hung with for yrs can easily say I hooked them up with pussy
See that's why we family we got so much in common.
You know how much Haitians love cat too.
See when I was younger and a chubby, fat kid I was the shoulder to cry on from girls. When I got in shape, I kept those abilities but prevented myself from being friendzoned.Now in my old age I look back in disgust at how many female relationships I ruined to hang with dem suckers.
I went from the only boy in a bronx apartment with 4 girls giving me a fashion show and asking me to grade if their kisses used to much tongue.
To sitting in a pissy stairwell with 4 smelly dudes spitting the worst rhymes ever heard and arguing if the hulk could beat submariner in water.
Man I can’t even go into details about shit I’ve done for my boys but sometimes I look and be like if I had some of the same cooperation I’d be next level… cooperation the must underrated term ever
the more Friends you know the more problems you have,the more gas you have to spend to go to events you don’t want to go to,the more money you have to lend because of their poor decisions or they didn’t have sense enough to get a good job,the more funerals you have to go to,and not for just them but they mom they dad they wife they husband,the more dinner parties you have to go to and then have people act like they didn’t have 12 drinks steak AND lobster then wonder why the bill $2117 and want to argue who pays for what meanwhile all you had was mozzarella sticks and a blue moon. The more friends you have the more you have to stick up for people you KNOW are dead fucking wrong.,But friends so… But I spend my time on a message board avoiding my friends to look for new massage material so…grain of salt
Adult life is not really geared toward making and building friendships.. We’re all so busy making our way in the world surviving and providing for ourselves and our families. True friendship takes time and trust… And I trust most people will waste yours and their time.The best you can hope for are associates and people who you fuck wit heavy.
Those sound more like burdens than friends.. I don’t do burdens but I definitely do friends.. my friends ain’t never been burdens
The problem too is that alot of people are in a constant state of distraction.
"1000 friends" on Facebook, yet they have trouble with a simple "Hi, how are you?" when faced with a real person.
Yeah, it is for me. I've seen so much bullshit, can spot it a mile away, and I have no patience at all for it. So things I just blew off when I was young I don't blow off now. Life is serious business and I got no time for clowns.
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What I'm gonna sy might be a bit controversial, but it's true.
As Black men get older, it seems like it's more difficult to make friends. A lot of us mistakenly believe that they don't need friends, and they think they can go through life alone. There's so much distrust going around, and there's the concept of what "friends" means. Some of us think that the "friend" concept infringes on their masculinity, which is total bullshit.
Personally, I wish I had more friends to hang out with, play cards, etc. Unfortunately, because of what I said above, that's not the case. It's bad to think of yourself as someone who doesn't need human interactions - that's why Black male mental health is being focused on now, as we're seeing that these interactions are important. Perhaps we can talk talk about how to do this in a mature manner, without bringing other BS into it. Our community would greatly benefit from it.
As Black men get older, it seems like it's more difficult to make friends. A lot of us mistakenly believe that they don't need friends, and they think they can go through life alone. There's so much distrust going around, and there's the concept of what "friends" means. Some of us think that the "friend" concept infringes on their masculinity, which is total bullshit.
Personally, I wish I had more friends to hang out with, play cards, etc. Unfortunately, because of what I said above, that's not the case. It's bad to think of yourself as someone who doesn't need human interactions - that's why Black male mental health is being focused on now, as we're seeing that these interactions are important. Perhaps we can talk talk about how to do this in a mature manner, without bringing other BS into it. Our community would greatly benefit from it.
All this..real talk..yall here are my "community "
Im not sure if I would even like yall in person..lol
Good morning!!!
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This, my friend, is a very true statement. This is a community, for better or worse. For me, it's been for the better.
Thank you for understanding what I am trying to say. I feel it's important for everyone.
Of course, it's early in the year, so I expect to see more great posts. I hope no one forgets this one.
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