Most black women won't request too much because no matter what we do, we're question on how many times, with who, when, then somehow we're labeled. In order to share the information or request certain things you have to be really comfortable with your partner and not some random dude.
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but to be fair male insecurity is not race specific.
I think there is a STRONG cultural thing at play though... and generational.
Shout out to Trick Daddy but Ass eating was NEVER something that was even discussed
I aint saying it was NOT done
(especially a finger or thumb)
but there is legitimately an entire GENERATION that really didn't think of that as even a real option.
Its really easy to just FORGET how FAST the world moves.
There was a time ANY anal sex conversation ESPECIALLY in the Black community implied you were gay / down low
So there was shaming involved.
Personal experience? I was ALWAYS kinda surprised when a woman would "ask" for zodish behavior
and its funny to read some of the comments it was never a formal request, it was more a casual just nudge or her reaching back and maneuvering herself into position, or a height of passion moaning plea
Honestly I think I have turned down the opportunity more than anything.
Cause I was always the one they felt comfortable asking, and many 1st time.
So again I think there IS a legitimate "cultural" thing because we are raised with the black women don't do that stuff myth.
And if it was done?
It was much more PRIVATE, so it would still be a "secret".
There are generations of women you SWEAR they never even tried anal and I believe them.
There is/was SO MUCH repression in our community coming up.