What you see is what you get brother....
Relationship Question
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obviously something is going on with her. you say she making 6 figures...usually when we get that good money it requires more of our time. so she probably ain't eating right, eating quick meals, junk and sweets to give her a rush after a long day. i wouldn't too much hound her on the weight but stay discussing her eating habits and yall working out together. and even tho yall got seperate houses i hope yall are together the rest of the day once yall get off and sleep in the same bed each night.you said you in for the long haul and everything else is great. but best believe in marriage everyday ain't gonna be roses. but it's still good to know somebody got your back through life's ups and downs. yall might just be scared of the next step
Sounds likes some layers of shit that comes with a 51 year old woman.
If your superficial, then you might need to reevaluate the relationship you have with her because she is going to change.
I like some of the advice in this thread about working out together. Taking walks, hiking, traveling to places that require walking and eating a certain way.
But at 51, be realistic with your expectations. She’s already seeing life a certain way. Maybe concentrate on the health aspect. She’s likely going through menopause, too. That’s going to slow her metabolism down significantly.
I run often, and I encourage my wife to come with me or walk with me.
If your superficial, then you might need to reevaluate the relationship you have with her because she is going to change.
I like some of the advice in this thread about working out together. Taking walks, hiking, traveling to places that require walking and eating a certain way.
But at 51, be realistic with your expectations. She’s already seeing life a certain way. Maybe concentrate on the health aspect. She’s likely going through menopause, too. That’s going to slow her metabolism down significantly.
I run often, and I encourage my wife to come with me or walk with me.
This is the story of MOST marriages.
Black women lead the NATION in obesity, heart disease & hypertension but we aren't allowed to talk about it for some odd reason. Instead, thirsty MF's on social media (and on here) who just wanna hit, call them fine, thick, big boned, gorgeous black queens, BBWs etc etc.... but when you disagree with having a fat woman you're labeled as gay, a hater or some kind of wimp.
To answer your question, it will only get WORSE once married. Take it from me
Imo, most men stay in shape because we STILL like to (or want to) pull joints and like to look decent
Can't count how many time I see a dude in good shape with an overweight lady.
Women have no motivation cause MF's now will fuck a bitch with one eye and no legs.
So they don't give a shit how they look.
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Check with her to see what's going on or changed in her life to make her gain an extra 25 pounds.
If you leave her she'll definitely hit the gym and be in the best shape of her life, that's women. And don't listen to anyone telling you that you don't love her or that you're superficial.
You like what you like and you're not attracted to the bigger version of her, it happens. Yes true love has ups and downs but if you're not attracted to an obese woman then that's your right.
Talking to a woman about her weight is a delicate and touchy subject so preceded with caution.
How long have you two been together?
She knows that she's gained weight because she sees herself and her clothes fit differently. It's up to her to lose weight and you're there to be supportive...
And hopefully give her that friendly nudge.
In the end, all I can say is good luck.
If you had no job you would hear it daily and yes thats all she will see is you not having a job just like you see the rolls in her neck. Take care of you and hope she does the same.
You need to be a lil toxic.
She acting like that because she knows you ain't going nowhere.
You said it yourself her family likes her your kids do too. So she comfortable where she at with you.
You need to show her your still a hunter and will go after other women. Not saying you need to take it all the way but she needs to get the picture.
She acting like that because she knows you ain't going nowhere.
You said it yourself her family likes her your kids do too. So she comfortable where she at with you.
You need to show her your still a hunter and will go after other women. Not saying you need to take it all the way but she needs to get the picture.
Cheat
Don't get married. Simple.
nah, don't feel bad or guilted as a man for having standards [while being a standard]. women have them, sometimes a mile long, and get no smoke. this is a great topic
Okay, look at it like this. If she is forfilling all the other stuff you want, then what's the problem with a little weight. Dude, you are going to start picking up weight in your 50s. So, you will be right there with her when you age a bit more. So, if your love the woman and she will get you back economically and emotionally, what's the problem.
stockpile dem sh!ts and enjoy the fck out of this upcoming winter
He aint hearing tho
Oh well
