See, that is about trust and security. Why do you have to fuck anyone up? Not only should your partner handle that situation, you shouldn't know it happened. Just one day, you notice you haven't heard from so and so in a while.
That's why I say it's not nature at all. It's people being adults and conducting themselves as such.
Exactly. If someone else crosses a line in your relationship the person who it was crossed TO... needs to address it and put it in kaputs.
If my manfriend has a lady friend approach him and he knows he's not supposed to dally off with her then he's supposed to tell her thanks but no.
Same with me. It's not "nature". Sometimes it really feels like you got dudes, who think just because a vagina is there you just can't say no to it. Like ohnoez i'm powerlessssssss!!!
It's like people think you have no control over yourself and yet you want to be considered reasoned human beings. You want to be trusted with things.
I don't believe that. No. You're a grown up. Keep your dick in your pants.
Its less about insecurity and more about reality. Nature is nature and people are people. And trust is only part of the issue. A very small part. What if that friend crosses a line and violates the relationship? That violation has nothing to do with you trusting your partner or being insecure. But you will still be forced to address and correct the situation regardless. And now you are in a position where you have to fuck up a third party for disrespecting your union all because that third party felt comfortable doing so based on his/her relationship with your significant other.
Again, its just a good policy and helps avoid potential bullshit from all angles.
Nature doesn't rule you. You're a reasoning being. You know the difference between right and wrong in how it is perceived in your relationship.
When you got together in your relationship there were rules decided and conduct unbecoming was set.
And trust isn't a small part to us. Trust is a very big part to us. Most people don't trust their partners. And when dumb shit pops off they're like already 1 foot out the door anyway.
That's how it works now.
Again. i'm not saying everyone should do it 1 way or another way. As a matter of fact i think most people just don't have it in them to abide by certain rules of a relationship.
But it still comes from A place of "I don't have this" So let me try to have this this and that to try to keep it.