Avoiding potential conflict is engaging in theater?
The way it's being presented here? Yes. Sheer theater.
And what does meeting and being around opposite sex have to do with hanging out alone with the opposite sex? Dont confuse the two. No one is saying she cant have any contact with the opposite sex. The spirit of the discussion is about being/hanging out with friends of the opposite sex alone.
The words used were "she/he can't have any male/female friends". Your opposite sex friends should fall back just like your same sex friends.
If the point is to "protect" them from temptation, why let them go anywhere, anytime without you present?
And why do you clowns keep using "insecure" as a pejorative? Isnt that what a relationship is about? Companionship and security? So why is it a negative to want to maximize both?
Because it is. It's a sign of weakness and a lack of trust.
I don't give a damn who says what to my wife, I trust and expect her to do the right thing and vice versa.
You can't maximize that. It is what it is.
I saw someone posted a pic of the Christies on the first page. Doug doesn't cheat because his crazy wife is with him all the time, he doesn't cheat (to my knowledge) because he doesnt' want to and doesn't allow himself to be in position where he might be tempted.
Exactly. If someone else crosses a line in your relationship the person who it was crossed TO... needs to address it and put it in kaputs.
If my manfriend has a lady friend approach him and he knows he's not supposed to dally off with her then he's supposed to tell her thanks but no.
Same with me. It's not "nature". Sometimes it really feels like you got dudes, who think just because a vagina is there you just can't say no to it. Like ohnoez i'm powerlessssssss!!!
It's like people think you have no control over yourself and yet you want to be considered reasoned human beings. You want to be trusted with things.
I don't believe that. No. You're a grown up. Keep your dick in your pants.
Nature doesn't rule you. You're a reasoning being. You know the difference between right and wrong in how it is perceived in your relationship.
When you got together in your relationship there were rules decided and conduct unbecoming was set.
And trust isn't a small part to us. Trust is a very big part to us. Most people don't trust their partners. And when dumb shit pops off they're like already 1 foot out the door anyway.
That's how it works now.
Again. i'm not saying everyone should do it 1 way or another way. As a matter of fact i think most people just don't have it in them to abide by certain rules of a relationship.
But it still comes from A place of "I don't have this" So let me try to have this this and that to try to keep it.