If black women don't celebrate themselves who will??
Are Single BLK Mothers DESTROYING their sons?
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Who is “we”? It is all about personal accountability. But people support it because they are pro-white meaning they follow the lead and advice of the caucasian which has NEVER benefited us since antiquity.
It's not about black women celebrating themselves, it's about said celebration always coming at the expense of black men.
It's about what's not being said as much as what is being said.
Strong and independent (implication of not needing a man to be the strength in her life)
Doing it on her own (interchangeable with "independent", same implication)
We can also add women turning Father's Day to a single mother's celebration...although statistics tells us that black fathers are present in their child's life at a higher rate than others. Perhaps it's time to let these moms know that a man choosing not to be in a relationship doesn't mean he's absent from the child's life.
It's never discussed because many refuse to look through and beyond the 'black men ain't shit' narrative.
Well consider what it would be like growing up in and living in a patriarchal environment then consider what it would be like living in a patriarchal environment that's racist.
Maybe she feels the need to be strong and independent because men have, can and do exercise the option to leave when shit gets too heavy and guess what... the world doesn't stop and on top of that she may have YOUR kid/kids to take care of.
Has anyone ever considered that women might think having you baby means they're a package deal?? She thought it was understood she comes with the kid...
Has anyone ever considered that for many women to have you child expresses how deeply she's connected to you more than the words I love you can convey? That's a biological connection that's a huge responsibility and you reserve the right to exercise an opt-out clause on that?? And you wanna bring the new bitch around her kid??
And men react the same way if she got new dude...you got this nigga around my kid??
Have any of us really thought about and considered what life must be like for black women in the world and American society??
There's a complete lack of empathy happening here.
This...is true...they raising bitcches... emotional lil illogical bitches...brah
No...we haven't...fuckin my nighas over...and not trying to team up...Have you ever dealt with a Strong Black Independent Woman... Lil nigha
Adults Betta take responsibility for they actions....and not blame anyone but themselves...brah
Case in point
Case in point
Fuck yo case...you must been raised by one... rolling your eyes...like a bish...boy
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It's a generic term that is used to refer to most of the mass not every single one, for example, "we" went to the moon, "we" are going to the world series, "we" descended from Egypt, or we on BGOL should know this by now.
Also, the most pro-white thing you can do is stick your head in the sand acting like the racist system that created these conditions in the black community doesn't exist, so don't try to sidetrack this thread by mitigating real-world situations with bullshit ad-hoc excuses that fit your narrative!!!!
Because according to idiots like you, there is nothing to see here, keep on doing what we've been doing, the ship will automatically right itself!
I wonder what "pro-white" Malcolm X would say about your thoughts!
Let @geechiedan..know how fucked up he is...and sounds... prolly the color of Elmer's Glue...anyway...brah
Hopefully the Man...they made a decision to have a baby with...or..I guess it's not they fault who they let impregnate them either...huh boy?
He would agree and you and most of BGOL would call him a coon. It is all about personal responsibility. People should not be having kids unless they are married or if not married have the financial stability and structure to take care of them. If a parent can’t at least provide that then they are failing the child from the start. Also, too many women believe their own hype and think they can raise a child alone which is foolish thinking. That’s why many women now hate men (brainwashed from their mothers) and dislike their mothers (putting them in a bad environment to start).
Stop blaming the system because you know it exists so you should use discernment, discipline and intellect to avoid the traps.
These posters worship women which is the problem. The man is above the woman but most of these men are women mentally and emotionally. Women leading men is a problem and that is why I put the onus on us men to be accountable for our actions and make responsible decisions and stop adding to the confusion caused by the baby boomers and feminists.
Who said anything about worshipping anyone... your attitude is reason why black women act the way you think they do. You get back what you put out. Like water a stank attitude seeks its own level.
It definitely is black women bashing because it takes 2 to make a baby. To only point out one side and then say that side is ruining kids is definitely bashing and it makes no sense...
Mother in Gwinnett here just killed her15 year old son then turned the gun on herself. I don’t know what made her kill her child but I have an idea. There’s a lot of single moms who don’t know how to raise and discipline their sons without the positive male influence. Emphasis on positive. Some kids, teenaged boys nowadays think they can do and say whatever to their parents. It’s a different era for single moms now. I believe in beating their asses, NOT being their friends and taking away their luxuries. Phones etc.
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Men are suppose to be logical, while women are suppose to be emotional.
Yet a lot of these dudes speak not from a logical perspective, but an emotional perspective. So why would they look at both sides, and come to a more logical position?
To broadly brush all single black women as destroying thier sons without knowing individual circumstances, and leaving out the single black father is disingenuous.
I respect your position, but I disagree.
I've never met my father, and while that played a role, it doesn't discount or absolve my mother of the abuse, neglect, and manipulation that she subjected me to.
Her issues were completely separate from that of him not being with her. Also, I found out when I was 18 he has been married longer than I've been alive, so there were some decisions made by my mother that she may not have been ok with later.
But that's a personal level experience. You stating what you want thru with your mom isn't stating that all or any black women are like that. Just pointing out things about your mom. When these threads are started to and they ask these stupid ass questions it's totally bashing; because they are putting all the blame on the woman when it takes 2 to have kids. So it can't be just her when it takes 2. I mean they really asked the question is single black moms ruining kids
shit is mad retarded....
in a real way it does absolve your father becuz youre not blaming him for making a decision to get involved and have a kid with a woman he had no intention of being with long term. I get it you lived with your mother so youy had to deal with her baggage yourself but BOTH of them made a decision that major consequences for YOU. Its not all her fault but you have clear resentments and anger at her 50% while in a real way excusing his 50%
My mother is any black woman, and she's not the only one. Talk to a therapist and they will tell you its something that plagues our families. It does take 2, and no one is saying it's solely the woman, just that the mother specifically causes ruin to young boys.But that's a personal level experience. You stating what you want thru with your mom isn't stating that all or any black women are like that. Just pointing out things about your mom. When these threads are started to and they ask these stupid ass questions it's totally bashing; because they are putting all the blame on the woman when it takes 2 to have kids. So it can't be just her when it takes 2. I mean they really asked the question is single black moms ruining kids
Not negating the effect of the absence of fathers.
I blame everyone. His decisions are his, her decisions are hers.
The both share blame. She specifically contributed in a negative way, that's what we're talking about here.
I don't have no resentments or anger, where you get that from? Idgaf about either.
Tell em...brah
I run around my city...like monopoly....and you are one hunnid... percent correct...brah
are you a criminal?? is your life destroyed?? do you consider yourself a detriment to society?? have you been a prison statistic??
If you can say no to all of those then your mother didn't do as badly as the stereotype says she has. And even if you have done any of those things it took two to make you and your angry at the one who stayed to take care of you.
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Cosign but I've seen men give women an example of what a family man and home should look like and the woman lied on the man and put him in jail for the soul purpose of ruining his life. Black women today are lost and are as much of the problem as the men and women who enable them.
Yes, but to be fair single women of every race at least here in the US are.
Why are the fathers not in their lives? Why did the fathers not use protection? Why did the fathers pick “these mothers” to have kids with? Sound like a complete idiot. I’m not surprise, complete idiots are everywhere…
Man, I raised myself.
I get what you trying to do, I understand, but ...
Yes, single black mothers have an undue burden .. but that ain't what we talking about.
Yes, black men should step up because it takes two... but that ain't what this discussion is about.
This is about how black single mothers project their trauma & dysfunction at their sons. (They also do this to their daughters, but again, that ain't what this discussion is about!)
If you watched the video in the OP you would see that the young man is 33, father of 3, married to a Registered nurse... yet his mother tells him to his face, on camera, that she doesn't respect him as a man. Yet you focus on the absence of the father.
We all know the problem is bigger than one person, bigger than one family.
Her job probably over works her, and underpays her... but that ain't for shit to do with her directing her hatred toward her own son
I am...I was ruined by a single bitch momma...and will whip yo drawlz in yo gimp ass...just for disagreeing with me...folk