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BGOL stpefathers, what say you ?

DJ

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Personal opinion, I don't agree with this shit. Been there done it, and I think it takes a selfless and strong brother to raise children that you didn't create.

You know I don't generally post shit like this, I post naked heauxs, shit just sounded retarded to me.


 
34real

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I ain't no step dad but I know of a few guys that have taken on that role and it's not easy but as time goes on that's the only father they know and the respect,love,appreciation is a direct reflection of what their mother has for that man so.

If momma doesn't give a fuck about him,the kids/adults won't either

Influence is strong and it doesn't have a title most times but a young mind knows it when they see it....be it mom,dad,grandfather,grandmother,sister,brother,neighbor,gang member,drug dealer,rapper, or whatever.
 
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blaze

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DJ said:
Personal opinion, I don't agree with this shit. Been there done it, and I think it takes a selfless and strong brother to raise children that you didn't create.

You know I don't generally post shit like this, I post naked heauxs, shit just sounded retarded to me.


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This shit is tricky because you are speaking in generalities. All situations are different and they play out different. I will say in general that if you show up for a kid and pour positivity into them, they are going to see you as a father figure anyway. You can't be trying to replace nobody or buy nobody's love. Just love the kid and encourage them. Fucking listen to them. Teach them what they want to know and what they need to live. I've coached kids that see me as a father figure. I didn't try for that. That wasn't my hope. I just wanted to help them be better than they were when they came to me and some people will just appreciate that you took the time to care. Hell, for some of those kids you might be the only one. Being a father and being selfish don't work together. That's why that cat sounds as crazy as he does.
 
DJ

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PJN said:
Probably thinking he's spitting facts, what an idiot. I'm not a step anything and don't wish to be. If you meet the woman of you love who happens to have a child and you both raise him/her with love and discipline, that makes you a mental patient?
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That's what I got out of it.
Bunch of nonsense.
Same type dude that would blame a fucked up kid on a single mother.
 
yureeka9

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I agree with him. Being a stepfather is a thankless, unbalanced arrangement. Here's the 3 reasons I've stuck to since I was in college:
  1. Relationship is automatically out of balance because you make her the most important person in your life and the best you can be to her is 2nd behind her children.
  2. Stepfathers have to be ok being exposed to her ex at any given time. No man wants to come home from work and see another nigga that used to fuck his wife sitting up in the house he pays for.
  3. Dealing with kids that aren't yours are always a gamble. At any given time you may have to deal with a step daughter saying "he touched me" or a step son squaring up with you in your own living room.
No thanks. Hard pass for me.
 
TooTrilla

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I did for my ex's other kids while I lived with her. I wasn't no stepdaddy though. And it wasn't that big of a deal because her kids that weren't mine were still my daughter's siblings. Kept a good relationship with them even after we parted ways. Her son is the oldest and that's who's gonna be looking out for my girls when I'm not around. Why not keep a good relationship with him?
 
DWBass

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I don't have an issue with women who have kids BUT..........I am NOT financially responsible for them and would not be. I'm not even committing to any relationship where the children's father is not being responsible. That's her job to be financially responsible if the dad isn't. I'm not going there. I paid 21 long years of child support willingly and was always in my daughter's life. Fuck any nigga who ditches out on his kids! Pisses me off because my daughter has 3 children by 2 deadbeats! And she's always hitting me up. FOH!
 
knightmelodic

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yureeka9 said:
I agree with him. Being a stepfather is a thankless, unbalanced arrangement. Here's the 3 reasons I've stuck to since I was in college:
  1. Relationship is automatically out of balance because you make her the most important person in your life and the best you can be to her is 2nd behind her children.
  2. Stepfathers have to be ok being exposed to her ex at any given time. No man wants to come home from work and see another nigga that used to fuck his wife sitting up in the house he pays for.
  3. Dealing with kids that aren't yours are always a gamble. At any given time you may have to deal with a step daughter saying "he touched me" or a step son squaring up with you in your own living room.
No thanks. Hard pass for me.
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Couldn't agree more. It's a minefield. Never been in the role but I have dated chicks with kids. That was enough.

Love is a motherfucker tho and props to any man who steps up.
 
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He's right. I did it. Wasted a lot of time and money, and literally have no relationship with the young lady now because me and her mother broke up. Don't do it.
 

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