Re: Black women are destroying the black community and we need to find a way to stop
What do women really want, love or Power??
The educated man vs The Non-educated man is the first thing that comes into mind to most women, when they determine where they stand in a relationship. I see high amounts of men complaining that most women don't want a honest man, but a thug. Instead of looking at the physical, I decided to look deeper into the mental insecurities. Have you ever thought to yourself why would a woman be involved with a man that's less than she is and have no desire for enhancing his life? Maybe it because she have serious lack of confidences when it comes to her physical appearance, financial status...etc and the only way she see herself in a Secure Relationship is through gaining power devolped by covering those insecurities. You say No! Why else would a woman have a relationship with a man that in jail, selling drugs, and abusive?... She knows no matter what he says it dosen't mean anything because in reality she have control over him and he's not going anywhere. But, this does not apply to the educated man. When women with low-self esteem meet a educated man that she's attractive to, she will atomically try to figure out where she fits in to control him. Not realizing that he there on his own free will. Maybe if she show him the postive side of her and everything she has to offer, that might be enough for him to love her to stay without playing mindless games. Until all you men realize this that always complaining, women will be running this shit!!!
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We Need To Learn The System.. Black family Structure ...to
KEEP FROM BEING POOR OR STAYING POOR. PLEASE HEAR ME OUT BEFORE Y'ALL START WITH THE BS BECAUSE THIS MAY BE THE REALIST SHIT I EVER POSTED!!! BEFORE I START, YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND, THAT THERE ARE FOUR DIFFERENT TYPE OF CLASSES... MIDDLE CLASS(99,999$ PER YR), UPPER CLASS (500,000 PER YR), RICH (MILLIONS PER YR), WEALTHY (YOUR CHILDRENS CHIDREN GOOD). OK, AMERICA IS BUILT ON THE NUCLEAR FAMILY STRUCTURE (HUSBAND+MOTHER+TWO.THREE KIDS). NOW THAT'S OUT OF THE WAY, I WANT YOU TO THINK ABOUT THIS, WHEN YOU APPLY FOR A GOVERNMENT JOB THAT START FROM 40,000$ AND END AT 70,000$ IN FIVE YEARS, WHY IS THAT? GIVE UP? WELL I WILL TELL YOU. THEY'RE ASSUMING THAT YOU ARE LIVING WITH A SUPPORTING SPOUSE AND NOT CARING FOR KIDS BY YOURSELF. UNLESS YOU ARE WEATHY, YOU NEED SOMETHING TO BUILT ON AND YOU CAN'T DO IT IF YOU'RE LIVING OFF OF A 70,000 INCOME WITH TWO-THREE KIDS BY YOURSELF. IN THE BLACK COMMUNITIES FEMINIST MOVEMENT IS ONE OF THE BIGGEST REASON WHY THIS CYCLE IS CONTINUING. THIS WAY OF THINKING "I DON'T NEED NO MAN, BUT I NEED CHILD SUPPORT" IS GOING TO TEAR US APART...YOU SAID "NO". WELL TELL ME WHAT'S BETTER MAN AND WOMEN TOGETHER INCOME (80,000-140,000) VS WOMEN 70,000 WITH TWO-THREE KIDS THINK!!!!
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African Americans will never grow as a people, until we stop.... being so damn selfish. This has nothing to do with CAC's so save me the "White people do it to" syndrome! Before I start, I want everybody to think about how many people you knew that were raised with both parents in the household or supported them growing up? I will support my argument through relationships and businesses before you start to criticize.
First of all, black men and women are always complaining about the opposite sex. But, if you think about it do we really invest into each other? If a black man and women are in a relationship where they are both employed and the man gets laid off or vice versa. Would she support him if he wanted to go back to school and educate himself so he can acquire the skills to secure a better job. No, in most cases she would probably complain about him not having a job and put pressure on him to bring some income into the household. Why would she look at it like she is taking care of him, instead of looking at it like an investment? If she would support him while he goes back to school, he could get a better job which could bring in even more income into the household. Then she could take a break from work and have the time to better herself. She doesn’t know how successful he could have been, if she would have just invested in him. Michele invested in Obama and look what he became….
One other thing that crosses my mind is black owned businesses. Why don’t we keep our money in our own communities, while every other race does it. We are so quick to say white people do it to but only when it is convenient. I’ll give you some examples: Chinese buffets, Arab gas stations, Indian 7-11’s, Hair stores, Mexican restaurants, Cac designers………. Yes, black people own these businesses to, but not really and if they do they do not expand and grow as fast. The reason why other races are more successful in these areas is because they are investing in each other, whether it be time, money, labor or whatever . They stick together, build, and keep their business in the family and teach each other what they know. Black people won’t even tell you where they got their new kicks from (gotta be exclusive). Why do you think other ethnic groups look down on us, because we don’t invest in each other. We don’t trust each other and we don’t give each other a chance. Think about it, it’s not cool to wear Fubu, Karl Kani, Phatpharm………… But it is okay to where LV, Gucci, Ralph Lauren……… That is why some of the smartest black business men and women do not let anyone know they own the business. Instead of supporting the business, people always act like you owe the something and they always want something free. That is why when black people get money they leave the hood. Because of all the jealousy and envy. If people see you with more than them they want to tear you down like crabs in a barrel.
We need to stop blaming everybody else and invest in each other …… THINK
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...HERE ANOTHER ONE I WROTE....
SAVING SON
Father -Earl
What took you so long, to come home from school? Your teacher called me and told me that you were being difficult towards him and you are not doing what he asks of you.
Son-James
This is the my last year of school Earl. Don’t you think it’s too late to be father. I was with my girlfriend as usual.
Father-Earl
Earl huh…. (smiling in disbelief) Sit down James. There is something you need to know.
Son-James
I prefer to stand . I got to go somewhere in a minute so make it fast Earl.
Narrator
James cell phone rings and he takes the call. Earl breaks from holding his cool. He gets up and yells at James.
Father-Earl
Who the fuck do you think you are taking to like that? Sit your ass down!
Narrator
James sits and listens to Earl
Father-Earl
Now, I haven’t been in your life for a long time. But, I’m still your got damn father (slam his fist on the table). Your mother sent you here to live with me because this is the most important year of your life. And she wants to make sure that you make wise decisions after your senior year of high school. I know you are a young man yes, but you still don’t know everything.
Son-James
I know enough to make it in this world.
Father-Earl
You know nothing! What do you know about handling people or having a girlfriend? These are the things that I want you to know about before you are on your own. Son, it’s time for you to stop thinking with your emotions and start thinking based on hard logical facts. There are only two types of people in this world, the thinkers and the non thinkers. Which one are you son? I see you have yourself a girlfriend that’s expecting and you are still fighting with people that tell you things you don‘t want to hear. How will you handle that in the future? Because the way you are going now, I can tell you will not make it, son
Son-James
I’m going to be there for my son, something that you know nothing about. I also will marry my girlfriend because I love her.
Father- Earl
(Laughing out loud) That’s it? That’s all you can say to me? First, getting marry doesn’t have anything to do with love.
Son-James
Oh really?
Father-Earl
Yes Really! That is just a small fraction of getting marry. First, let me ask you something. What if your girl was going on a trip and she was the only female. Lets say the trip was out in Utah and she had to be there for about three days. Would you let her go?
Son-James
Hell no. I’m not crazy.
Father-Earl
Well the answer is yes. It doesn’t matter if she was here with you or if she was away for a few days. If she going to cheat, she going to do it no matter what. Let me explain myself, so you can view where I’m coming from. You shouldn’t marry a woman until she has met all your requirements. And that should depend on your physical beauty, personality and chemistry. I don’t care how sexy the women is, if she can’t do anything for you, then she is not for you. It’s like that invisible energy that you and she can only feel or see. Everything else falls into one of those categories. Now that’s out the way, I don’t understand why people try to make a relationship work knowing from the beginning that the personality part, financially, chemistry or the physical wasn’t there from the beginning? Then, people get marry have kids and expect things to be different? Its like this, you can’t change anyone. The only person that you can change is that person in the mirror. I know she is the closest of being that perfect woman for you, but you have to accept her for being that woman she is, not the woman you want her to be.
Son-James
So what are you saying? I shouldn’t marry my girl.
Father-Earl
No son, that is not what I’m saying. I want you to be a better man than me. So you need to understand my mistakes and learn from them. Its like this…you need to understand the system to keep from being poor or staying poor. Please hear me out before you start with the bullshit because this may be the realist shit I’ll ever tell you. Before I start, you need to understand, that there are four different type of classes, the middle class(99,999$per yr), upper class (500,000 per yr), rich (million plus per year) and the wealthy(your children’s children are good). Ok, America is built on the nuclear family structure which is the husband, mother, and the 2.3 kids. Now that’s of the way, I want you to think about this; when you apply for a government job that starts from 40,000$ and end at 70,000$ in five years, why is that?
Son-James
Hmmm…I don’t know, why?
Father-Earl
Give up? Well I will tell you. They’re assuming that you are living with a supporting spouse and not caring for kids by yourself, unless you are rich or wealthy. You need something to built on and you can’t do it if you’re living off of a 70,000 income with two-three kids by yourself. In the black communities, feminist movement is one of the biggest reason why this cycle is continuing. This way of thinking “I don’t need on man, but I need child support” is going to keep tearing us apart…
Son-James
That’s not what mom taught me. She said, “as long as you get a education and have a good job, you can do what hell you want”.
Father-Earl
(Laughing out loud) Wow your mother said that? Well you tell me what’s better, women making 70,000 with 2.3 kids or man and women pulling a income of 80,000-140,000. Think son!
Son-James
Hmmm I never thought about it like that, man. I guess I really don’t know everything Pop, I mean Earl. Let me ask you something.
Father-Earl
Yes, son?
Son-James
So what, do you think I have a temper problem? And why didn’t you teach me the way, you wanted me to be when I got older?
Father-Earl
Wow, well I don’t think you have a temper problem. You just need to understand people, so that you know how to handle them.
Son-James
What do you mean?
Father-Earl
Ok, I’m going to use the people in my life for an example. I love your mother and I will love her forever, but we all know your mother can be a bitch! So when she starts to act crazy, I stay away from her until she comes to her senses. And we also know that my brother is emotional as hell; so when I talk to him and he lets his emotions takes over him, I stop talking. Because when emotions get involved, all logic goes out the window and you'll only end up frustrated. But, though I love both of these two people, I don’t get my love confused with their personality traits. Doing this will help you protect your feelings when dealing with anybody because you are not in denial of who you are dealing with.
Son-James
Damn Earl, I didn’t know you thought like that!
Father-Earl
There are a lot of things you don’t know about me.
Son-James
But, you still didn’t answer my other question. Why wasn’t you there for me? I grew up and had to deal with my own problems. You called my mother a bitch, but she was the only one there for me.
Father-Earl
She wasn’t the only one there for you son. When you use to get in trouble with the law, who do you think she would call? Hmmm ….tell me. Every time you did anything negative, she would call me and I would tell her exactly what to do with you.
Son-James
No, your lying.
Father-Earl
I am? Think son…I help your mother become a RN, I helped her buy that house you and her have lived in for so long. It was me that bailed you out of jail, when you got into a fight in the club. Son, I was there for you your whole life without you knowing it, just like I am now. But, your mother always wanted to prove that she didn’t need me until she got into a major problem that she couldn’t deal with. Her way of thinking, separated our family for so long. And I knew this, so me raising you in that format was ok for me, until you moved in with me. Maybe it wasn’t the best way, but it was the only way I knew. If I was such a bad man as your mother would say, why would she let you live with me?
Son-James
Hmmmmm ….
Father-Earl
You don’t have to love me. At this point in your life I don’t care. My job is to make sure that you understand people, love and why it is important for you to go to college so you can become more well rounded. Then, I can say that daddy did a job well done!
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It's comical. They get a thug who's emulating crap he's seen on a video 100%. He's too damn stupid to get a skill or education. He has no concept or loyalty or honor because he's too much of a pussy to take any chances in life to try anything. Hence, shooting instead of handling things like men. No idea how to control anger with no social skills so they get physical and start hitting. I can go on but... pfft...
