Does virginity matter in Indian marriage?
I can tell you that the importance of virginity in Indian arranged marriages varies greatly depending on the individuals involved and the specific cultural and religious beliefs they hold. While some families may place significance on a prospective bride's or groom's virginity,
it is not a universal requirement.
You met Shirna at work and there was an immediate attraction (at least on your part because intially she treated you like you didn't exist).
A lot of guys at work were "sweating" her because we'll let's be honest there were not a lot of attractive Indian women in the building and the fact that she "filled out a sweater" well got the attention of many lads (she was deemed...Exotic).
One weekend you ran into a very good friend of yours who got a glance of her as she walked pass him in the hallway. He asked you about her and you gave him a brief "breakdown."
Before you went home you had to go by her office, so you figured you'd put in a good word for your friend (remember, she barely speaks to you so you figure you have as much of a chance with her as Yale does beating Auburn in basketball).
When you tell her about your friend, she pivots and says "What about you?" You have to make a quick decision so you exchange numbers with her and try to figure out what to tell your friend (he told you that you should go for it).
Ok, cool, but you should have called or texted her during the week but you didn’t, and when you saw her Saturday morning you were sure she was going to start ignoring you again. But, to your surprise she asked why you didn't get in contact with her and now you have to take her out tonight.
You set up a time to meet with Shirna after work (your able to get a few hours of sleep in and you're probably going to be tired, but you don't want to miss this opportunity).
Since Shirna been working all day you both agree on a small Thai restaurant a few blocks from the job. Dinner went well, and now you're thinking should you call it a night? Well, Shirna does, but want to make sure she gets home say, so you catch a cab out to Jackson Heights, Queens.
Shirna invites you in and you get comfortable, and then she hots you with you can spend the night if you want. However, and this is a big However. She's not saying you're going to end up "sleeping" together, but "Indian tradition" doesn't allow her to participate in typical intercourse.