Growing up you might have been attracted to a young lady, but was scared to talk to her. The fellas in the neighborhood would chide you by saying:
"What's the matter, you must be scared of p***y?"
Back then, you were afraid of rejection. However, the reality of it is not you should be afraid because there can be very detrimental consequences of your actions.
KC, a childhood friend, had a job at a very popular Record label that had a roster of some very well known recording artists. He had actually invited you to a few "Listening parties" (when artist have new music released the label stages a mini concert for them. It's usually attended by the labels staff and a few guests).
KC, who was in the A & R department, was attending one of these parties when a tall statuesque young lady approached him (prior to that she must have seen him hobnobbing with some of the recording artists that were featured that day).
She had aspirations (she was a singer, and had appeared in a few Off Broadway plays) of being in the business, and I guess she saw him as a way in. Nevertheless, he told her that although he had some connections he couldn't make her any promises.
However, she was not prepared to take no for an answer and felt that if she could give him a "private concert" he would put in a good word for her. After the party, KC took her to a suite at the Hilton (the label has an account with them) so that she could see if she had any talent.
KC, soon found out that this woman was very "talented," and had the stamina to perform well into the morning. However KC, had to cut it short because he didn't want the wife questioning his whereabouts (so back to New Jersey).
The rendezvous when on for at least a year and a half with "hook ups" in New York, Miami, Los Angeles, etc.
The sex was phenomenal and she was doing things that the wife used to do and then some, and life was good.
At least until the pregnancy scare. He knew Sigal waneed his child and if the wife found out his looking at alimony, child support for 2 kids, losing the house and a hosts of problems (it was the scariest 5 weeks of his life).
Fortunately, Sigal had a miscarriage and they broke up not soon after that.
KC still thinks about Sigal, but realized that maybe being "scared" may not be a bad thing.