I need yall opinion on this..male and female
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Naw I'm the pastor.
The pastor is many niggas
U saw a pastor
She been gettin dogged
Cut her loose
U saw a pastor
She been gettin dogged
Cut her loose
Tell that hoe to kick rocks
Pastor's wife would be calling me Visa: "Everywhere you want to be."
She would run into me at the grocery store.
I'm walking my dog past her house.
We gonna be working out at the same gym.
We'll run into each other at Starbucks.
I'm showing up at the women's prayer group.
And I'mma let her call me Pastor.
Yeah but just be prepared to handle what you find. Often times shit like this leads to dudes losing it and putting there hands on women. Not saying O.P. will do that but in the end it's not worth it.
paster cokey: if u think i gave a shit about my wife i'd be begging some outtastate pussy to send me a pic of her doin a split in some pum pum shorts..i needs some visuals juss to fuck the old hag...this old dog want a new bitch and rite now i wanna sniff some of that naive pussy..so if u wanna do a switch and u take the old broad with kids for ur young naive need some guidance twat than u gotta deal motherfucker
Nawwww @ most of the responses here but uh...lol good trolling for sure.
But as a matter of fact, we both good. I took the good advice from this thread and I calmed myself down below boiling point by reading OSHO.
Then we talked.
It will never happen again. And I trust that it wont. I really want this union to work, because I really love her.
This is why I decided to post on bgol-for the variety of responses. Everyone I asked on the phone about it mostly said what everyone else here said though besides the positive ones. We were both suspicious and not communicating it is all.
"If you want to taste the experience of existence, it is not via the other, it is a direct jump within yourself. It is via you, through you. And only love and its failure can throw you inside. Nothing else can throw you inside, because everything else is far below love."
But as a matter of fact, we both good. I took the good advice from this thread and I calmed myself down below boiling point by reading OSHO.
Then we talked.
It will never happen again. And I trust that it wont. I really want this union to work, because I really love her.
This is why I decided to post on bgol-for the variety of responses. Everyone I asked on the phone about it mostly said what everyone else here said though besides the positive ones. We were both suspicious and not communicating it is all.
"If you want to taste the experience of existence, it is not via the other, it is a direct jump within yourself. It is via you, through you. And only love and its failure can throw you inside. Nothing else can throw you inside, because everything else is far below love."
Ah, Osho is a good choice. I've always loved reading his work. I'm glad you calmed down and realised it's an issue between you two. Hope it all works out.
Just remember man... If you love her that much, give her no more than 90% of yourself. Always save that 10% for a potential rainy day.
Good luck brother. Stay focused.
Just remember man... If you love her that much, give her no more than 90% of yourself. Always save that 10% for a potential rainy day.
Good luck brother. Stay focused.
Room for 1 @ Heartbreak Hotel
I can't believe this shit went 9 pages.
All bullshit aside:
Even at your young age, you BOTH know that regardless of whether or not those texts were innocent, that shit was still disrespectful. Pastor or not, that dude is old enough to know that selfie request SEEMED suspect, even if it wasn't. He just didn't give a fuck.
Your girl CHOSE not to set him straight right off rip, KNOWING that is just BARELY better than if she had sent the pic. She just didn't give a fuck.
You KNEW when you started this thread, what you NEEDED to do.
Instead, you put the question forth, hoping some members were going to talk you out of what SHOULD be common sense.
You started another thread looking for the damn video where the chick declares "no opposite sex friends", because it bolsters the point of view YOU ALREADY DECIDED ON.
Why? Because you love her.
Ok. You can love her all you want, but that shit MEANS NOTHING if you don't LOVE YOURSELF enough to walk away from bullshit.
And it's ok to give 100% of yourself. YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO. But you're also supposed to cut that shit clean the fuck off at .0001% bullshit.
But you didn't do that. You wanted to "talk about it", looking for any excuse to hang on to a relationship that's already veering to the left.
It's like that scene from "Titanic". You're Dicaprio, in the water, about to drown. Your girl is the bitch, floating alone on a raft made of lies and excuses, waiting for pastor to come with the lifeboat, while your relationship is the Titanic, slowly sinking in the background. You ever seen a boat SUDDENLY STOP SINKING AND RIGHT ITSELF?
All bullshit aside:
Even at your young age, you BOTH know that regardless of whether or not those texts were innocent, that shit was still disrespectful. Pastor or not, that dude is old enough to know that selfie request SEEMED suspect, even if it wasn't. He just didn't give a fuck.
Your girl CHOSE not to set him straight right off rip, KNOWING that is just BARELY better than if she had sent the pic. She just didn't give a fuck.
You KNEW when you started this thread, what you NEEDED to do.
Instead, you put the question forth, hoping some members were going to talk you out of what SHOULD be common sense.
You started another thread looking for the damn video where the chick declares "no opposite sex friends", because it bolsters the point of view YOU ALREADY DECIDED ON.
Why? Because you love her.
Ok. You can love her all you want, but that shit MEANS NOTHING if you don't LOVE YOURSELF enough to walk away from bullshit.
And it's ok to give 100% of yourself. YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO. But you're also supposed to cut that shit clean the fuck off at .0001% bullshit.
But you didn't do that. You wanted to "talk about it", looking for any excuse to hang on to a relationship that's already veering to the left.
It's like that scene from "Titanic". You're Dicaprio, in the water, about to drown. Your girl is the bitch, floating alone on a raft made of lies and excuses, waiting for pastor to come with the lifeboat, while your relationship is the Titanic, slowly sinking in the background. You ever seen a boat SUDDENLY STOP SINKING AND RIGHT ITSELF?
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Jo, what are some ways to point out that women are selfish?
Tell her she's selfish...
Man..... I was talking to the woman!
You and I both know that when we say that, they don't hear "You're selfish". She hears, "It's your fault".
Specially point out a time when she acted selfishly. It's not to "have the upper hand," or to do so to spite your spouse/lover. But, tell her exactly what she did and how it came off selfishly. If a woman was really in the wrong, although she may play like she wasn't, she'll really take it to heart and do better. If she really cares, at least, she will do better... The caveat is she has to care for you. If y'all just messing around, and you call her out on selfishness, it'll just backfire on you.
@NinjaspiT I know you trying to find the positive side to all this cuz it hurts you to think your girl could be making ill moves behind your back. It's very unsettling feeling I know. But don't put all your eggs in one basket with these broads, don't do it. Don't give all your strength to these woman lol (it say that somewhere in the bible) Listen to some of the post in here telling you to watch her. You might not break up with her right away but always be keeping your options open.
With that said let me say I actually think your girl is telling the truth. I haven't read through this whole thread but I'm pretty sure the pastor has exploited your girls platonic interest in friendship and respect for him as a spiritual advisor as an opportunity to beg for pussy and your girl didn't know how to deal with it. Now he's hair trying to wear her down with consistency until he gets what he wants.
However, at the same time your girl is playing dumb, like a lot of women, fein weakness and innocence but really be calculating they moves. If she was uncomfortable she should've said that long time ago before all those repeated request and your inquiry into the situation. She knew what he was after but didn't want to believe it. That's the part got me skeptical of her intentions.
It's like she was waiting for an offer or something. Seeing how long it took for him to break down and finally simp (pay) for her affection. Then pastor turns sugar daddy. Eventually graduate from trading selfies to trading sexual favors. Worse case scenario.
But if you want to get rid of him if he keeps on. I would collect all the evidence and dirt about him and his illicit behaviors outside the church and just sit on it. If he keep acting up after this send all the evidence of his dirt to the local news station where his church is and watch his shit blow up maybe sell the scandal and profit from it of you can.
With that said let me say I actually think your girl is telling the truth. I haven't read through this whole thread but I'm pretty sure the pastor has exploited your girls platonic interest in friendship and respect for him as a spiritual advisor as an opportunity to beg for pussy and your girl didn't know how to deal with it. Now he's hair trying to wear her down with consistency until he gets what he wants.
However, at the same time your girl is playing dumb, like a lot of women, fein weakness and innocence but really be calculating they moves. If she was uncomfortable she should've said that long time ago before all those repeated request and your inquiry into the situation. She knew what he was after but didn't want to believe it. That's the part got me skeptical of her intentions.
It's like she was waiting for an offer or something. Seeing how long it took for him to break down and finally simp (pay) for her affection. Then pastor turns sugar daddy. Eventually graduate from trading selfies to trading sexual favors. Worse case scenario.
But if you want to get rid of him if he keeps on. I would collect all the evidence and dirt about him and his illicit behaviors outside the church and just sit on it. If he keep acting up after this send all the evidence of his dirt to the local news station where his church is and watch his shit blow up maybe sell the scandal and profit from it of you can.
I'm dead @ he gave her the holy pole
In a perfect world I feel you. In a new relationship I feel you. But when you've been with your lady and have equity built up fucj the tip toeing, and half stepping. If I do something I get called out, why do I have to treat her like a child??? Naaaa bruh, not me. I guess every relationship is different, and I'm not disrespectful. But I address shit when I see it, or at the earliest convenience. There's a lot of gray area I'm between a pushover, and an asshole.
But back to the topic, the family have dropped jewels but the young man won't see until after the fact what's going down. I've been on this board for over a decade. I remember about 10-11 years ago I brought something to the board and I think it was Gameboy that read me the riot act. Didn't want to hear it then, but dammed if he wasn't right. That ex actually married that "friend." Men and women been at this shit since the beginning of time. Nothing new. So when an older dude drops some knowledge, you should listen. We've all been there. No shame in it. Learn from it. But don't ever trust a Pimp, Politician, Preacher, a dude with a ponytail or pinky ring.
