But who was really gassing him up? I don't recall anybody saying "Yeah Bullet!", "Go Bullet", "Good Job Bullet" and do you think that negative criticism was going to stop Bullet? The only thing that was going to stop Bullet was people ignoring him which is not going to happen.
There is nothing to reflect on, We are all grown men and women here, Bullet himself is a grown man, the issue is with Bullet who sees no issue with his behavior and HNIC, nor his admins and mods judged that there was no reason to ban him because banning Bullet for being a faggot outside of BGOL would be considered a reach and set a bad precedent on a forum that doesn't officially have a rule book and takes a "govern yourself accordingly" approach to policing the forum.
The tacit approval argument is subjective on your part at best.
Playboy has published transgendered women, yet both Slam and I have long ongoing threads featuring Playboy models, if we take your argument, those threads are proof of Slam and I having tacit approval for transgendered models, when neither one of us does and my views on the matter have been posted numerous times.
We don't want to set a precedent of moderators and administrators banning people for rules that are not being officially broken. Yes, what Bullet did was disgusting but the video of him engaging in gay sex was not posted on BGOL and thus banning him would not be a good look.