Shallow Leroy???

[caramelcute]

If you want a females opinion I can offer mine. I say give it a bit. Sometimes it may take a hand in helping her with losing the weight. Before I got down, I would try and try but I wasnt able to do it alone. About three years ago I weighed my heaviest at 193. I am now at 147. It took a bit of help for me to get there. Maybe you can be a good influence in her life. Look past the outside and see whats on the inside. Good luck

 

[thismybgolname]

255 isn't healthy and I know it's not attractive however if she has everything else that you feel you need in a woman then why pass?

The main issues that I would have would be her health.

I say that I couldn't do it but I've never been put in the situation.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Shame on you.... This girl has everything you're looking for and her weight is getting in the way? AND SHE COOKS? We all know you love that! The only way you will now how it works is if you try it and being a thick girl myself I have NEVER had any complaints. NEVER.

And weight is something that can change. Personality and chemistry cannot. (for the most part)

There's a difference between being thick and being 20p plus pounds which is really fat.

Am I hinging on the sex part too much? Am I overvaluing sex as a part of a potential relationship? Like I said, push comes to shove, it could happen, but with her size, I feel there would be some limitations.

Edit: Oh and we go out tonight

 

[Crown&Coke]

If the weight is a problem then leave her alone. I dont care what anyone says, if you are not somewhat physically attracted to her then it wont work. If the problem is you not wanting to be seen with her or some other bullshit like that then you need to get over it and give her a chance, dont skip over a good one because of what somebody else thinks.​

 

[LeroyDibiase]

If the weight is a problem then leave her alone. I dont care what anyone says, if you are not somewhat physically attracted to her then it wont work. If the problem is you not wanting to be seen with her or some other bullshit like that then you need to get over it and give her a chance, dont skip over a good one because of what somebody else thinks.​

That last part ain't the issue. And she's cute, in her own way, I'm just repulsed by the idea of sex. And that takes a lot for me.

 

[BS2011]

Did you hit on the first date.

Anyhow, don't fuck with her. Chances are she'll only get fatter. And that cooking a nigga a meal and giving rub downs and shit, so soon, is just part of her marketing scheme. Don't fall for it my nigga. Leave that bitch be.

 

[SWATLANTA]

That last part ain't the issue. And she's cute, in her own way, I'm just repulsed by the idea of sex. And that takes a lot for me.

When she pulls her pants down, you won't give a damn about the cooking or the kindness, your face will show your displeasure at her body. Don't put her through that type of embarrassment, girls have enough issues with their body as it is. Keep her as a friend (good people in your life is always positive) but be honest with her that you do not want to pursue a sexual relationship.

 

[whoalilmomma]

Leroy...give baby girl a chance. I'm not saying that you won't feel the same way about her after date number 2, 3, or 10, but at least then you won't walk away with regrets and thinking "what if". And if you can't get over the weight, then at least you know for the future that's probably not something you can compromise on.

My one caution would be this-- if you know you can't get over the weight, it would probably be best if you didn't try to continue being friends with the lady. One, it'll likely only confuse and hurt her, and two (and more importantly to you probably) the connection you have with her is never going to go away, so if you don't make a clean break, the women you try to have a relationship with in the future will definitely recognize that and see that the only reason you're dating them and not the friend is that the friend isn't pretty/thin/acceptable enough. Needless to say, that's gonna be a negative in their mind for a couple different reasons.

Good luck honey.

 

[Cinamiss]

Hey Leroy,
As a female, I wouldn't want a man that wants me when i'm 255lbs. Because if i really had intentions on losing weight (and I would) then i'd be afraid that when i did lose the weight, he would be looking at other big women. (If thats not your preference or even close to it, Y are u there?) Leroy, you are not Captain Save A BigChic.
Also if I was that big I would focus and concentrate on doing what i had to do for my health and not be worried about a man. If you really want to lose weight, you will. And if you don't then you will sit around and make excuses on why u cant. If other people can do it???????????

 

[mcguyver]

I usually don't ask for advice and shit cause I think it's lame, but there are some real stand-up women on this board, so I figured, what the hell.

Anyway, I met this chick on a blind date, through one of my co-workers. We talked on the phone and I mean, she likes MMA, she's intelligent (like myself), just you know how you can have a good conversation with someone for hours. Well that is this chick. So she's talking about how she can get down in the kitchen (among other places) and she invites me over to cook me dinner. So I pull up, phat crib and I see a Benz in the driveway, so I know she got money. I'm like "Yooooooo". So she opens the door and....she's like 5'7", 255 lbs. WHOOOOOA. That shit is not cute, you know. But I'm like, lemme give this a chance cause I'm cool like that.

So we eat, sista burns, I mean the itis is setting in, go sit on the couch, not too close, watching the Rockets. And she starts giving a nigga a backrub. Chick got grip. Nigga meltin like butter. In the back of my mind I'm thinking, man this girl is the bomb...but she's so fat. I can't get over that fact. I don't think I could ever be satisfied (in tha bedroom) with this fat chick. I mean we can work around it, I guess. Like I said, we connected in every way almost, like she knew me. Am I making too big a deal about her weight? Or should I let her down easy and try again??

Its very important to be honest with people, but even more important to be honest with yourself. You won't be happy with her you need to face that. And I would let her know what was on my mind.

 

[AlexandMorgan]

On a side note it is interesting to hear some of the women's responses as compared to what they were and are saying in the small dick on a potential soulmate thread.

 

[jucurious]

women and the old double standard

a weight issue which is something that can change naturally versus a small dick which can only change by surgery are two different things making them non comparable

 

[Izayoi]

On a side note it is interesting to hear some of the women's responses as compared to what they were and are saying in the small dick on a potential soulmate thread.

Very Alex. very true indeed my friend

 

[LoneStar29]

On a side note it is interesting to hear some of the women's responses as compared to what they were and are saying in the small dick on a potential soulmate thread.

Let's just make it very clear that in that other thread I said I would stay with him if he was a great guy and had a small penis ... I'm not one for double standards

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Let's just make it very clear that in that other thread I said I would stay with him if he was a great guy and had a small penis ... I'm not one for double standards

Now dearie i apologize if u think i am always attacking you but i am not like that. I will tease you or fret u a little but leave it there.

 

[SuchATease]

I have to be honest, physical attraction is important in a relationship. No matter how sweet or nice she is, your stomach will still turn when she drops the draws (if her weight is really the issue). If you dig her personality keep her around as a friend, but do not lead her on, girls do this type of thing all the time when they aren't feeling a guy sexually but they think that he is a good person. Don't get involved with a female that you have no physical attraction with. my .02

word, I agree with this!

 

[LoneStar29]

Now dearie i apologize if u think i am always attacking you but i am not like that. I will tease you or fret u a little but leave it there.

Oh no ... I know that Alex ... I just wanted to point out that not every woman is going to pass up a great guy cuz of his penis size ... although it pains me to think about having a stump as my main means of sexual pleasureI know there aren't alot of good men out there so I wont pass one by just because of something he literally has no control over

 

[Harlem's Angel]

There's a difference between being thick and being 20p plus pounds which is really fat.

Am I hinging on the sex part too much? Am I overvaluing sex as a part of a potential relationship? Like I said, push comes to shove, it could happen, but with her size, I feel there would be some limitations.

Edit: Oh and we go out tonight

You don't know for sure that there would be limitations....And maybe you are putting alot on the sex. We all know that the mental foreplay can be just as stimulating as the physical....She's already got you there. Let it flow. give it a try and if you don't like it respectfully move on. And don't be fooled by her size some big girls can really move...

 

[Harlem's Angel]

On a side note it is interesting to hear some of the women's responses as compared to what they were and are saying in the small dick on a potential soulmate thread.

Thats completely different. Being sexually satisfied vs. being sexually attracted are two totally different things.

a weight issue which is something that can change naturally versus a small dick which can only change by surgery are two different things making them non comparable

C/S... but even with the surgery it goes from a tiny penis to a small penis.....

 

[LoneStar29]

Thats completely different. Being sexually satisfied vs. being sexually attracted are two totally different things.



C/S... but even with the surgery it goes from a tiny penis to a small penis.....

THAT WAS COLD

But on the real ... a man can't help the penis size he was given by GOD ... but any overweight person can shed a few pounds ... losing weight is more within our control(unless they have a medical condition that makes them stay on the heavier side)

 

[MEMPHIS_THUG]

go for it leroy, she can always lose weight down the road.
just make sure your man enough to hold her up and make her feel secure inspite of her weight in public and behind closed doors.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

go for it leroy, she can always lose weight down the road.
just make sure your man enough to hold her up and make her feel secure inspite of her weight in public and behind closed doors.

yup,exactly

 

[LoneStar29]

go for it leroy, she can always lose weight down the road.
just make sure your man enough to hold her up and make her feel secure inspite of her weight in public and behind closed doors.

AWWWWWWWWWWW ... that was really sweet Memphis

 

[MTL]

You seen struck by the big house and nice car

 

[MEMPHIS_THUG]

yup,exactly

AWWWWWWWWWWW ... that was really sweet Memphis

it boils down to a man having supreme inner strength to deal with any woman fat or fine.
either kind of woman comes with their own set of problems for a weak minded man.
from being insecure about the fat ones weight to being insecure about having a fine woman faithfully loving us above all her many male options. we men have to mentally master ourselves before dealing with any relationship.

 

[xfactor]

This thread is pure comedic gold.

So I pull up, phat crib and I see a Benz in the driveway, so I know she got money. I'm like "Yooooooo". So she opens the door and....she's like 5'7", 255 lbs. WHOOOOOA. That shit is not cute, you know. But I'm like, lemme give this a chance cause I'm cool like that.

The crib and Benz didn't confirm whether or not she had the $$$ but I bet that 255 did. You know they say a big girl will never go broke.

Am I making too big a deal about her weight? Or should I let her down easy and try again??

If you are making a big deal about a woman that has a problem as BIG as her weight(or anything else that can cause problems - physical or mental), and you're thinking about letting it slide, you need more females in the rotation.

 

[xfactor]

I wouldn't look for any qualities in a man that I can't offer him myself ...

Is there a standing ovation emoticon? That is the most intelligent thing you've said in the history of your time on BGOL.

Too bad I don't think you follow your own advice.

I agree with a lot others have said. I say give it a chance. It's not like you are committing to her . . . it would be just be dating.

So I take it that you date a lot of men that you aren't really interested in, only for their "company", since it's "just dating" right?

And don't be fooled by her size some big girls can really move...

So can a rapid but that doesn't mean a person should just dive right in.

 

[xfactor]

go for it leroy, she can always lose weight down the road.
just make sure your man enough to hold her up and make her feel secure inspite of her weight in public and behind closed doors.

Why would LD invest all of that time and energy into a person that he JUST met, not knowing if she is worth the emotional strain that him "holding her up" will take.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Why would LD invest all of that time and energy into a person that he JUST met, not knowing if she is worth the emotional strain that him "holding her up" will take.

But why would he not.Either way its a gamble,and he has to choose whether he wants to take it or not

 

[LoneStar29]

Is there a standing ovation emoticon? That is the most intelligent thing you've said in the history of your time on BGOL.

Too bad I don't think you follow your own advice.

Here's the smiley you were asking for:groupwave ... and believe it or not ... everything I type on BGOL is exactly how I feel and act in real life ... wether anybody else agrees or not I don't give a fuck

 

[Chicutie]

So I take it that you date a lot of men that you aren't really interested in, only for their "company", since it's "just dating" right?

No. . . . . You missed the point.

He is interested in her. . . but there is one flaw in he doesn't know if he can get past. He says he likes all her other qualities. . . but her weight is an issue. To me that doesn't fall under "disinterest".

My point was you will only know if you give something a try. So he can go out on few dates with her and decide for sure if he's not really feeling it because it seems he is confused about how he feels.

 

[SWATLANTA]

No. . . . . You missed the point.

He is interested in her. . . but there is one flaw in he doesn't know if he can get past. He says he likes all her other qualities. . . but her weight is an issue. To me that doesn't fall under "disinterest".

My point was you will only know if you give something a try. So he can go out on few dates with her and decide for sure if he's not really feeling it because it seems he is confused about how he feels.

Don't you think that is a huge (no pun intended) flaw that he would have to overcome. He states that he is repulsed with the thought of sex with her. That is a little more than her having bad table manners or a lack of style(things that may just rub you the wrong way). At some point she is going to want to get physical and any sign of repulsion from Leroy is going to impact that relationship negatively.

 

[Harbinger]

Man, quit listening to these hypocritical women, who in the same position with the man of their dreams having a small dick are on the first bus to bigdickville.

255? 5'7" and 255!!?? Unless you like obese women (which you using the word 'repulsed' leads me to believe you don't) move on. The chances of her losing roughly 80lbs (and that's just to get down to a size chunky) are slim and none. IT RARELY HAPPENS.

This is not a "Shallow Hal" movie.

Be upfront, be honest, otherwise there are gonna be some REALLY hurt feelings. Worse, you may start to do shit because you feel SORRY for her.

 

[Adam Knows]

Man, quit listening to these hypocritical women, who in the same position with the man of their dreams having a small dick are on the first bus to bigdickville.

255? 5'7" and 255!!?? Unless you like obese women (which you using the word 'repulsed' leads me to believe you don't) move on. The chances of her losing roughly 80lbs (and that's just to get down to a size chunky) are slim and none. IT RARELY HAPPENS.

This is not a "Shallow Hal" movie.

Be upfront, be honest, otherwise there are gonna be some REALLY hurt feelings. Worse, you may start to do shit because you feel SORRY for her.

truer words have couldn't have been said better

no bs though leroy i think your dazzled by what she has.

 

[DeSiRe]

a few years back i was with a guy bigger than i would have prefered

i wasnt too much sexually attracted to him...but the sex was better than i thought

he was the sweetest guy ever tho...and we had a real connection

we broke up...i didnt care at the time..

but now i wish i did...i havent been able to meet anyone like him since

dont but too much weight on the superfical stuff