Any of you guys give your girl "the speech" before she goes out?
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That's exactly what it is.
Knocked you off focus and stability for what? Worrying about what someone else is gonna/might/could do.
Because if she does you're going to be hurt either way.
And if she doesn't then you've wasted time and energy over nothing when you could have been enjoying her
Are you fellas married? If it was a girlfriend I've only know for 1 or 2 years i wouldn't waste my energy. But after being with my wife for 10 years, my perspective change. My mentally didn't shift too much, but definitely my level of suffering did. After building a foundation with someone and growing together, perspectives changed. At the same time, I don't have to give that speech. Wifey and I have an understanding...
I just be kidding with these Ike memes...
I just be kidding with these Ike memes...
That's exactly what it is.
Knocked you off focus and stability for what? Worrying about what someone else is gonna/might/could do.
Niggas really do this?
Dude in the video comes off insecure as fuck. I know it's for laughs but what part of the game is that?
Dude in the video comes off insecure as fuck. I know it's for laughs but what part of the game is that?
Some kats are just crazy over stuff like this. Ideally, absolute trust should supersede any thoughts of jealousy, but people that have been hurt in the past tend to continue to suffer from a previous relationship experiences.
It's all silly, I'm not to front like I don't understand why people do this. It just boils downs to a persons feelings and emotions. Something we cant benchmark on what is the right or wrong way to go about petty such as "give the speech."
Poor girl can't catch a break!
Oddly enough some women love bitchmade dudes like this character.
I've learned a lot of women only know how to respond to whatever construct of masculinity they believe most men are.
They respond to the stereotypical social constructs of what masculinity and being a man means to them ie. Men are possessive, men are demanding, men are protective, men are rude and prone to jealousy.
If that's what she believes a man is then dudes behavior is normal to her. It just means he's a man in her eyes.
I had a broad get mad at me for not cursing her out and making her stay when she said she wanted to leave. I was like "What? Bitch be gone." Then she got mad lol but her ass stayed.
I get it totally; but its just no point at the end of it; either cats need to get over their previous hurts and/or dont be in a relationship; also why be with someone if you cant trust them?? its just gonna drive you mad...
Are you fellas married? If it was a girlfriend I've only know for 1 or 2 years i wouldn't waste my energy. But after being with my wife for 10 years, my perspective change. My mentally didn't shift too much, but definitely my level of suffering did. After building a foundation with someone and growing together, perspectives changed. At the same time, I don't have to give that speech. Wifey and I have an understanding...
I just be kidding with these Ike memes...
I understand but even then if she cheats that's because you made a messed up decision to build with someone who cheated so yea suffering will be greater but jealousy isn't going to help it
It's not about not caring it's about not worrying before you need to
If you have to do that, you shouldn't be calling her your girl.
I agree. Trust makes it work, but trust and faith goes hand in hand in this instance. That's why there are certain approaches that work for you, but horrible fails for another person, because your emotional and mental states are totally different. I cant say a dude give his girl the speech is wrong, it's just something I wouldn't do.
I agree, it will not help, but sometimes people can't help that side of them. Many times people don't even know they can be that way until it just happens.
Waist o thyme.
When you say this I see what it is now.
They are marking their territory emotionally. That jealousy creates a feeling a yearning or desire for them. An emotional attachment. So your always thinking about her.
It also explains why women will tell you miscellaneous shit to remember before you go out with the boys or something. They trying to make sure you are always thinking about her.
lol
That's why women run back to assholes all the time. They create that very same circumstance that keeps the woman's mind on him.
Are you fellas married? If it was a girlfriend I've only know for 1 or 2 years i wouldn't waste my energy. But after being with my wife for 10 years, my perspective change. My mentally didn't shift too much, but definitely my level of suffering did. After building a foundation with someone and growing together, perspectives changed. At the same time, I don't have to give that speech. Wifey and I have an understanding...
I just be kidding with these Ike memes...
Not married but the IDGAF mode is on.
But you don't want to get so caught up in IDGAF that you miss who to give a fuck about or when to give a fuck.
At 1-2 years you might start to wonder.
@ suffering going up. No doubt. But my IDGAFness level is high.
Maybe too high sometime.
I think it's necessary to show not jealousy but maybe concern is the right word. I don't even be jealous but I put on like I'm upset or disappointed once in a while. If we let the walk out doing whatever they'll begin to think you take them for granted and if they feel that way then their ratchet up their behavior in making you jealous to get a reaction.
I agree; and for me Ive been moving out of right and wrong with my life; thats judgements and limited view points; right and wrong doesnt really matter in terms of relationships; doesnt matter in terms of anything really; dudes giving girls speeches is like
; because is she gonna go to someone else, a speech isnt stopping her; and if you gotta give a speech, well thats telling me you should look in the mirror...
Not married but the IDGAF mode is on.
But you don't want to get so caught up in IDGAF that you miss who to give a fuck about or when to give a fuck.
At 1-2 years you might start to wonder.
But my IDGAFness level is high.
Maybe too high sometime.
I think it's necessary to show not jealousy but maybe concern is the right word. I don't even be jealous but I put on like I'm upset or disappointed once in a while. If we let the walk out doing whatever they'll begin to think you take them for granted and if they feel that way then their ratchet up their behavior in making you jealous to get a reaction.
Bruh, the IDGAF mode is totally fine when you are dating. Keeps you protected.
Especially when you are getting to know a person. People are many people within themselves. We change so often, especially in monogamous relationships. I know how I am as a person, which is generally calm and collected. But My wife has also never done anything to take me out of character. That's why people go crazy in marriages. When a person knows your strengths and weakness, then at many moment your soul is fair game. The know your deepest valnerabilities. A trusting partner will know you better than you know yourself, at times. It comes with the relationship because they may want to keep the relationship healthy and you happy.
I agree; and for me Ive been moving out of right and wrong with my life; thats judgements and limited view points; right and wrong doesnt really matter in terms of relationships; doesnt matter in terms of anything really; dudes giving girls speeches is like
right and wrong doesn't matter in terms of relationships? It does if the person wants a healthy monogamous relationship because certain boundaries have to be in place to understand one another and how thing will work in being together. Then again, it's all perspective.
I try not to assert my right or wrong as much as I use to. Instead be more open to how fucking crazy everyone in the world is, lol. That helps me balance my morality.
Yea no judgements aside from physically harming another person but you can feel anyway you want to and it's perfectly fine
Yea and that's all bad
Think about me cause I'm dope not cause you think I'm cheating
Same thing.
I wanna think positive
No it doesnt; thats called respect and loyalty for a healthy relationship; right or wrong is in the eye of the beholder to be honest; a girl can think something is right, but a guy think something is wrong, now what??? morality has nothing to do with right or wrong; its all relative; and being right or wrong doesnt solve the issue that the relationship is encountering; People who pride themselves on being right are usually not cool to be around; who cares if one is right?? if one has Loyalty, Respect, Honesty one wont have to worry about right or wrong...
Learned this so much in my time of marriage...it's crazy to think not that I have so much "control" over my husband as much as my actions/sayings can impact another being to that point. Hubby doesn't school me when I go out, but he definitely likes to "look at me" before I go out, see if my skirt is too short, top is too low cut. He would never tell me to "put it away" or anything, but it usually gets him turned on a little bit lol. I'm a pretty conservative dresser too, so he doesn't have to worry about craziness from me, but I couldn't be with a partner that gave me a full speech...
And that respect and loyalty has boundaries that shouldn't be crossed. You know there are certain things about yourself that shouldn't be crossed when it comes to a partner respecting the relationship. Those boundaries are dictated by what is or isn't right or wrong in your relative perspective. If you didn't have boundaries then when would you know you if you wasn't getting the respect you deserved. I personally correlate respect and morality together.
All that respect, loyalty, and honesty mess is relative to the individual. That's why it's important for partners to communicate to each other because we all have our limits.
Everything is relative to the individual; and communicating that goes without saying; boundaries are not dictated on right and wrong though; one could have boundaries based out of fear or love; etc etc etc, not just right or wrong; whats right or wrong anyways??I dont have any boundaries for my relationship based out of right or wrong; so your girl smokes weed and you dont is she wrong?? what if you drink and she doesnt are you wrong?? right and wrong are just view points of judgments; Hmm so if someone respects you they are showing morality?? and if someone disrespect you they are not moral?? I never heard morality and respect correlating together but that is interesting...
This is how you show a woman you love her.
I will say your thoughts are very interesting; almost every time you post on certain things, I see things differently; or atleast open my mind to seeing things differently; i can appreciate that; good shit...
how??
Im glad i have the ability to approach a new situation free of past baggage i learn from past mistakes or past hurts but i dont bring them into the new relationship. My chick had a problem with the way i approached relationships when it came to certain situations and definitely with social media she and I arent friends im not friends with anyone she knows and after a lot of push back from her she on board with it being a great idea.
Are you fellas married? If it was a girlfriend I've only know for 1 or 2 years i wouldn't waste my energy. But after being with my wife for 10 years, my perspective change. My mentally didn't shift too much, but definitely my level of suffering did. After building a foundation with someone and growing together, perspectives changed. At the same time, I don't have to give that speech. Wifey and I have an understanding...
I just be kidding with these Ike memes...
They lying and yeah they're either with someone or married.
No BS, I was just thinking the same thing about you. You challenge my view points as well and I can certainly appreciate that.
much respect!!!!!....
always trust yo chick untill she gives you a reason not to...
yoooo i'm not gonna front that towel shit at the end had me dying..nig was like nope while walking backwards
Man fuck no
Be ready for her to leave so I can jack off and go to sleep
Wish she went out more shit
Be ready for her to leave so I can jack off and go to sleep
Wish she went out more shit
You said you are married 10 years, how did you make that transition from IDGAF mode during the dating phase to know you wanted to marry her? Or did you not date a whole lot and knew early you two were compatible.
You married your high school sweetheart huh?
That's what I be saying.
My Cool ain't enough? I gotta be a low down dirty dog too to maintain you?
Acting jealous is a chore.
Cuz really IDGAF.
So if you started putting on your best stank outfit before you left the house to party how he gon act?
Honestly.
Strangely it is the subliminal message behind it all. lol
Warped ass love language.
Problem is it becomes hard for women to decipher the real crazy emotionally unstable guys from the healthy ones.
You said you are married 10 years, how did you make that transition from IDGAF mode during the dating phase to know you wanted to marry her? Or did you not date a whole lot and knew early you two were compatible.
You married your high school sweetheart huh?
I met her my senior year in college. I was 21. We've been together for 10 years, officially married for 4, but all that shit is the same to me. During the transition, I think there was some sort of suffering from getting out of certain habits. The biggest was my selfishness. I was so use to looking out for me and doing me, that I shunned a lot of her help and knowledge away. I didn't want to to actually give a fuck and when I did I felt weird. But because I knew of her potential, I changed my ways to met her in the middle. We both went through a phase of suffering because I was nothing like the people she was use to dating. Plus she is 3 years older than me.
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I been telling him that for about 4 or 5 years now, he's super pig headed. I told him also don't let her get wind of that Iyanla Vanzant, Oprah self help wombmynhood shit. It a wrap. He's gotten a bit better with the calling her out of her name, but he's still a big spoiled brat. I love em, but he got a lot of growing to to do not to be so self absorbed.
Are you fellas married? If it was a girlfriend I've only know for 1 or 2 years i wouldn't waste my energy. But after being with my wife for 10 years, my perspective change. My mentally didn't shift too much, but definitely my level of suffering did. After building a foundation with someone and growing together, perspectives changed. At the same time, I don't have to give that speech. Wifey and I have an understanding...
I just be kidding with these Ike memes...
Bro I agree...what is understood doesn't have to be explained
We have that...