Any of you guys give your girl "the speech" before she goes out?

Mello Mello

Ballz of Adamantium
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I met her my senior year in college. I was 21. We've been together for 10 years, officially married for 4, but all that shit is the same to me. During the transition, I think there was some sort of suffering from getting out of certain habits. The biggest was my selfishness. I was so use to looking out for me and doing me, that I shunned a lot of her help and knowledge away. I didn't want to to actually give a fuck and when I did I felt weird. But because I knew of her potential, I changed my ways to met her in the middle. We both went through a phase of suffering because I was nothing like the people she was use to dating. Plus she is 3 years older than me.

That's what's up man.

I like to say marriage is from the heart not on paper. Meaning you will be together regardless if you married or not.

Sounds like that's what you to have. Congrats on finding someone like that. :cheers:

I'm not a big fan of marriage on here but I'd be lying if I said I didn't want something similar to what you got for myself.

I been telling him that for about 4 or 5 years now, he's super pig headed. I told him also don't let her get wind of that Iyanla Vanzant, Oprah self help wombmynhood shit. It a wrap. He's gotten a bit better with the calling her out of her name, but he's still a big spoiled brat. I love em, but he got a lot of growing to to do not to be so self absorbed.

It will find her she won't even have to look. :lol:

Cats like that don't learn until she peace them out then they begging her to come back but it's too late.
 
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kwazdog

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That's what's up man.

I like to say marriage is from the heart not on paper. Meaning you will be together regardless if you married or not.

Sounds like that's what you to have. Congrats on finding someone like that. :cheers:

I'm not a big fan of marriage on here but I'd be lying if I said I didn't want something similar to what you got for myself.



It will find her she won't even have to look. :lol:

Cats like that don't learn until she peace them out then they begging her to come back but it's too late.
I've literally told him to get his shit in order because I don't want to deal with his man tears victim bullshit if she leaves!! I'm totally selfish, I know he would fall hard without her.
 

Mello Mello

Ballz of Adamantium
BGOL Investor
I've literally told him to get his shit in order because I don't want to deal with his man tears victim bullshit if she leaves!! I'm totally selfish, I know he would fall hard without her.

Hope he does else he's up for a rude awakening.

All that pent up boredom unleashed will make a broad do some nasty thangs for some strange dick.
 

JofromthaNO

Urban Renaissance Woman
BGOL Investor
So if you started putting on your best stank outfit before you left the house to party how he gon act?

:D

Honestly.

He'd probably tell me to "be careful out there," and "call him when I'm on my way home." Subliminally, that means, don't talk to no other dudes, and let me know when you're coming home so I can fuck the shit out of you lol...

He wouldn't stop me from going out, though. We've both become major homebodies since marriage...and hitting the 30s...
 

Mello Mello

Ballz of Adamantium
BGOL Investor
He'd probably tell me to "be careful out there," and "call him when I'm on my way home." Subliminally, that means, don't talk to no other dudes, and let me know when you're coming home so I can fuck the shit out of you lol...

He wouldn't stop me from going out, though. We've both become major homebodies since marriage...and hitting the 30s...

:lol: @ the subliminal. Like you better come home or else.
 

pookie

Thinking of a Master Plan
BGOL Patreon Investor
I've literally told him to get his shit in order because I don't want to deal with his man tears victim bullshit if she leaves!! I'm totally selfish, I know he would fall hard without her.

I been telling him that for about 4 or 5 years now, he's super pig headed. I told him also don't let her get wind of that Iyanla Vanzant, Oprah self help wombmynhood shit. It a wrap. He's gotten a bit better with the calling her out of her name, but he's still a big spoiled brat. I love em, but he got a lot of growing to to do not to be so self absorbed.

Seems like one of those dudes that thinks his woman is his property. When she leaves/tries to leave you won't have to worry about man tears you're gonna have to worry about him trying to harm her
 

Osca Lee

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Bruh, the IDGAF mode is totally fine when you are dating. Keeps you protected.

Especially when you are getting to know a person. People are many people within themselves. We change so often, especially in monogamous relationships. I know how I am as a person, which is generally calm and collected. But My wife has also never done anything to take me out of character. That's why people go crazy in marriages. When a person knows your strengths and weakness, then at many moment your soul is fair game. The know your deepest valnerabilities. A trusting partner will know you better than you know yourself, at times. It comes with the relationship because they may want to keep the relationship healthy and you happy.



right and wrong doesn't matter in terms of relationships? It does if the person wants a healthy monogamous relationship because certain boundaries have to be in place to understand one another and how thing will work in being together. Then again, it's all perspective.

I try not to assert my right or wrong as much as I use to. Instead be more open to how fucking crazy everyone in the world is, lol. That helps me balance my morality.

Bro you are dropping some heat in this mf...

Your soul is fair game is one of the realest truths ever when it comes to people and relationships.

I have seen men and women look like they had all the life sucked out of them post 5 years relationship or marriage. That is a person that is capable of loving with true unconditioned love you know that beautiful shit and the other person knew it was so fucking selfish they sucked the soul out of them.
 

4 Dimensional

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Bro you are dropping some heat in this mf...

Your soul is fair game is one of the realest truths ever when it comes to people and relationships.

I have seen men and women look like they had all the life sucked out of them post 5 years relationship or marriage. That is a person that is capable of loving with true unconditioned love you know that beautiful shit and the other person knew it was so fucking selfish they sucked the soul out of them.

Yessir. We see if so often. Society preaches monogamy, but it's all grouped together with temptations. So people are just not built to be with one person for the rest of their lives. That's totally fine too. But to give everything about yourself to another person and HOPE they treat you well leaves the door open for you to be crushed at any moment. I can recall so much hateful and vile shit from people in relationships. Even myself. I've done fucked up things to girls that trusted me, respected me and loved me. And I crushed them because I was selfish. At the same time, girls have done me dirty as well.

Eventually I realized that, everybody ain't shit and is fuckin insane. I don't care if it's men, women, religion, race, culture and whatever else. Nobody is better than another. We all need some damn help, lol.
 
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kwazdog

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Seems like one of those dudes that thinks his woman is his property. When she leaves/tries to leave you won't have to worry about man tears you're gonna have to worry about him trying to harm her
Nah, he's all harsh words (Big Talk) no action. He's just gonna run to his mom for help.

But you never can be 100% sure how non violent someone is, I'll keep what you say in mind if they ever seperate.
 

Osca Lee

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Yessir. We see if so often. Society preaches monogamy, but it's all grouped together with temptations. So people are just not built to be with one person for the rest of their lives. That's totally fine too. But to give everything about yourself to another person and HOPE they treat you well leaves the door open for you to be crushed at any moment. I can recall so much hateful and vile shit from people in relationships. Even myself. I've done fucked up things to girls that trusted me, respected me and loved me. And I crushed them because I was selfish. At the same time, girls have done me dirty as well.

Eventually I realized that, everybody ain't shit and is fuckin insane. I don't care if it's men, women, religion, race, culture and whatever else. Nobody is better than another. We all need some damn help, lol.

Yeah as I got older I realized we all carry certain baggage from previous relationships and we tend to open it and try to make other wear some of the hats others created.

I think when you get to a stage in your life when you and your woman ca be transparent with one another you understand how to love and hurt that person...it's you who males the choice to to choose one of the two
 

mrdiego2020

Rising Star
BGOL Investor
Lmao

Nope

"Aye have fun text me to let me know you get home safe"


And the ex part

"Hey what's up fam I'll let you two catch up I'll be over there somewhere"


Cause why not? The worst thing that can happen Is she cheats or reconnects with her ex....which hurt deeply but that would mean she didn't value you as much as you value her so lick your wounds and find someone who does
:itsawrap::hithead:when your girl leave an meet someone else for not showing you care or give her to much freedom then what.never let ur girl an her ex catch up lol i mean if thats you then hey.but not me.
 

cokely_muhammad

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Exactly. Are you supposed to beat her? lol. A women isn't your property. No amount of talking you do will stop her from fucking someone else.

In Islam, our women ARE our property. And this is what the Honorable Elijah Muhammad has been teaching us since 1930! :angry:
 

jack walsh13

Jack Walsh 13
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Grandma always told me never stress about what you cannot control. Take care and be safe. I'll find a ballgame or curse my PS4 for the comp cheating trying to come back on me in 2k or NHL. :lol::lol:
 

largebillsonlyplease

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:itsawrap::hithead:when your girl leave an meet someone else for not showing you care or give her to much freedom then what.never let ur girl an her ex catch up lol i mean if thats you then hey.but not me.

Lol @ let.
I can't control a person. She's a human being. Your not letting her ass is going to make sure she adds him on ig and snap right under your node and instead of a 5 minute conversation then back to normal they'll be fucking within the month just because you ain't trying to "let" her catch up with somebody lol.

If not grabbing her by the arm and ushering her away from her ex on the street means I ain't showing I care then she's the wrong woman for me to be with in the first place
 

Osca Lee

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Easy. If you are spending time and your hard earned money on a bitch you can't even trust then you are a simp. Period point blank.

Even tricks look down on simpin' :smh:

So when you trust them and they do the same shit thats considered tricking right.

Correct me if I'm wrong but regardless if you trust them or not it really don't matter because in the end you can't miss what you can't measure
 

largebillsonlyplease

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If you put her in the situation yes, but you can always avoid that by letting her know you aren't cool with it

Cool with what tho?
Idk I'm just not trying to control anybody. Tell me anything and everything out in the open we'll be cool I'd much rather her have a conversation right in my face with the dude and then she talk shit about him after or even not at all than try to cause a scene and an argument and shit.

Either I got her or I don't. It's not about being cool it's about either trusting or not. I'm not saying go out to dinner with the dude lol.
 

Flawless

Flawless One
BGOL Investor
Cool with what tho?
Idk I'm just not trying to control anybody. Tell me anything and everything out in the open we'll be cool I'd much rather her have a conversation right in my face with the dude and then she talk shit about him after or even not at all than try to cause a scene and an argument and shit.

Either I got her or I don't. It's not about being cool it's about either trusting or not. I'm not saying go out to dinner with the dude lol.
Like I said earlier anyone will cheat if put in the right situation, no one is perfect.
 

largebillsonlyplease

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Like I said earlier anyone will cheat if put in the right situation, no one is perfect.

Then, hounding someone over some shit that might happen simply because they want it to happens doesn't make sense either.

Nobody is saying hey go spend the night with the dude.

But I am saying I'm not going to say look down when you walk
 

slewdem100

Rising Star
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My cousin is like that, the only difference is his wife has no friends or substantial social life outside of him and family activities. So he not concerned with dudes trying to holla, still hella insecure tho.

He is going to get his feelings really hurt one day....she ready....had to edit this...read the thread some more and see everybody else said the same thing....my bad, not trying to pile on
 
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