Springfield armory's XD line. Pick your caliber, pick your color, Adjustable hand grips, has safeties and a chamber loaded indicator that you can feel in the dark with a gloved hand . I believe it can be operated whether you're left or right handed.
Even though I did handle guns in the military, I was in the Navy lol. Before I got deployed to Kuwait I might have shot 60 bullets my entire 10-year career. Not 60 times...60 bullets. (I was in supply.)
In preparation for Kuwait I qualified on the 9 mm and the M16 - no idiot marks.
That said, I know better than to get a weapon without a safety. Even though I know what I'm doing, you don't want to take the chance. I'll probably get a trigger guard anyway, just in case
Springfield Xd .45 mod 2, undisputed
Springfield Arms SD Subcompact