There are several different avenues to this. I know I'm not the only one whose mother treats him like shit because he looks like his father who treated her like shit.
My mother used to slap me in the face when I was a teenager, so I started to give her something to get mad at me for since she would hit me for no reason. One day I got fed up with that shit and caught her hand, basically saying you ain't go hit me no more
She gave her crocodile tears, which I'm completely immune to, talking about, "I'm just trying to love you..."
Whatever the fuck.
My aunt who just passed treated her son the same way because she hated his father, and my mother used to always say why she treated Vincent so bad, when she treated me the same way.
This was the first holiday season, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's that I hadn't heard from either of my immediate family members, including my sister, who I did/said absolutely nothing cross to. I feel free. I don't have to worry about them for the rest of my life, or the rest of theirs.
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Then on the other hand, there are the mothers who baby their sons, just don't allow them the opportunity to grow up. They become walking examples of the movie failure to launch.
I remember thinking, if that's the alternative, I'm glad my mother treated me like shit, because this way I'm more independent, and While a part of me feels like Will Smith, "Why don't she want me, man?"I look at what I've achieved in spite of her love and attention
This is a double edged sword. The absent fathers, the sometimey fathers, are a huge part of the problem We have in our community.
The boys don't know how to be men, how to act like men, how to comport themselves as men and do all the duties Because they've never seen it. Most have never even seen a successful relationship
On the flip side, the girls often have horrible taste in men because their mother had horrible taste in men and they saw that as the norm. They don't expect the men to stay around and often even push them away. The men don't expect to stay around because that's how they saw their mother doing it.
I saw a recent study saying that 34% of black people get married when it was 80% back in the 50s.
White people really do the number on us.