Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal?
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My brother i cannot thank you enough. I found a sermon of his that was essentially titled FIGHT BACK on YouTube... I don't think it was this one but I still listened to it... it definitely helped to set a tone for today and for the man I want to become on the other side of this storm.The end of the year is less than 90 days away, and the last thing you want is to deplete your emergency fund. As a board member, the least I can do is contribute something to help you out. It may not be much, but it can cover some of your smaller bills and help you avoid dipping into your savings. I’m not very liquid right now, but I do have some funds I can donate. Life gets tough, especially as you enter the fourth quarter and realize you have more sunsets behind you than ahead. Shoot me your Bitcoin or Ethereum address, and I’ll send a donation.
I know a lot of people don’t like Tommy Jakes, but he had a sermon back in 2011 called “Fightback.” I can’t find the entire sermon, but this is a snippet towards the end, at the 7:15 mark, where he talks about the goldfish—it really hit home for me. I listened to that sermon 13 years ago. I doubt if you will be able to find it today cause most of the YouTube videos have been taken down, but I do have a copy of that sermon.
Bishop TD Jakes Fight Back Praise
This is from one of TD Jakes greatest sermon series, Fight For The Family. Please call 1-800-BISHOP2 to order this series for yourself. It is awesome. Men of God praising God and fighting to get...www.godtube.com
I've deleted our deactivated most of my social media. I found myself just doing the "death scroll" too long and not really focusing on what I need to do to get back right. I did 10 minutes of guided meditation this morning, plan on hitting 10k steps on my galaxy watch fitness tracker, and I'll read 10 pages tonight of this leadership book that's been collecting dust on my shelf. I'm also fasting today, and praying as necessary to keep me focused.
I hope this is a good start and I'm going to take it one day at a time, and continue to do this exact process everyday. Only thing I'm adding on is weight training, which I'll start tomorrow morning.
It's time I take it back to what I was and who i was around this time 2 years ago.
Book gave a good deeper insight on his life before becoming a public figure
Not bad luck at the moment, but I'm ready to call it. I'm just so overwhelmed. I want a break from everything, and there seems to be only one way to get it. No one is returning my texts, no one is returning my calls. I'm so tired. Thanks for all the laughs and real ass discussion. Be strong black men, always and everyday.
Thats great fam! If you need extra motivation..Can't hurt me is a good book to get you fired up by David Goggins. This brotha went through hell and was determined not to be a statistic. Good luck on the journey!
Keep ya head up bruh. There are people counting on you. There's always another way!
This is the first part of the sermon. I haven’t been able to find the second half online, but the full sermon is 2 hours and 1 minute long. I actually have the entire sermon if you’re really interested in seeing it. In my opinion, it’s definitely one of his top three sermons of all time—and I’ve seen hundreds of them.
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stay strong bro
this will make u stronger and maybe in the future u can help someone else out
going through the same shit
I just ordered the book. I paid for his first one and we spoke briefly.. and he gave me five copies .. Definitely a real one
First one?
I saw a quote recently that I will share with you, brother.
"I've never seen anyone fail, who didn't quit."
Put your head down, focus on getting out of this situation, and don't give up. Suffering in silence is not going to help you either. Even if it's letting your thoughts or emotions out on here, it will help relieve some of the built up pressure and stress this situation is subjecting you to, so thanks again for sharing.
I've shared my story in the past and believe me, I can relate to what you are going through and how you're feeling. You have to stay diligent and positive my brother. Like I said previously... this too shall pass. You will be on the other side of this at some point.
Keep us posted so that we can celebrate with you when you are. I know we're all virtual acquaintances on here and strangers in real life, but if you are ever around the DMV area, PM me and we can link up for a meal.
You got this, brother. Try to remain positive. It will work out.
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After reading this ... I see only one thing. Cleansing.
This will probably sound crazy to you but.....
You are being removed from things that will not fit your future.
A purge is taking place in your life. Sometimes when we think things are bad
They are actually happening for a reason for our betterment and for what's next.
We don't know it till things change. Stuff seems bad when you look at it on the surface
But when you look deeper and them have the opportunity to look back
you will see they were necessary. Hang in there and weather the storm. It will get greater later.
The Brothers here will always be here to encourage you and lift you when You're down.
Stay the Course even though you may not be able to see over the hill...… YET !
I like this perspective and thought process.
These are the positive stories we need to hear.
This is powerful
I think we should all discuss this method more because it is VERY heavy process that shouldn't be done lightly
We here we listening
Speak your peace Brother. Sometimes we need to just sit still.
I don't know what your spiritual beliefs are but let me tell you this...
Everything works the way its supposed to and when its supposed to.... Not when you feel it should
The male ego and desire to flex or do more than we should be at any given time can hurt us.
The caveat is that you have to be available or in sync with the universe and open to the spirit/energy that you are receiving.
Its there but you have to learn to recognize and harness that energy
You may not be understanding the flow of things because you are only looking at it from your limited human knowledge
of the way you feel things should be, that is based on your exposure or experience.
Like the old folks always said to me before I started to become one.... Keep Living.
There are so many more lessons to be learned from what you think is a struggle.
You ever watch a rich person lose it all and bounce back like it never happened while other cant figure out how to do it the first time ?
Its because they went through the lesson the first time and the second time was a breeze. They learned.
Its like not knowing something exists that is actually the answer to what appears to be a problem until its time for that to be revealed to you
But you gotta listen, without the chatter, noise and confusion of feeling inadequate or beaten.
The information is there like a hidden treasure but you have to solve the riddle to find the answer within yourself.
There are no losses in life …ONLY lessons. What are you learning during this process? So called struggles are meant to teach you something.
Its either about your situation, people around you or most importantly about yourself. PAY ATTENTION.
There is nothing more powerful than introspection and clarity of self.
This life is not about struggle and trials, its about perspective. When you understand that things don't work within your vision
Its because they work when the time is right and the stars align … But you have to be patient and move when the time comes.
Put your head down and be silent until the time and energy says its time to make a move or speak on it. ....be it sooner or later
Follow your gut ! That's the God in you to do whatever you choose.
Learn to read yourself and all things will be open to you and at your disposal.
Declutter the Mind..and Home to usher in new things in life.. New Energy.. New Opportunities.. New Life.. We need to learn to become a minimalist.. Material things not needed can go to family, members, Friends. on EBAY..Church (Coats), the homeless.. Salavation Army, Goodwill.. Etc
Chuuuuuch, gospel, tabernacle
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I'm just so tired bruv. The conundrum
I appreciate your words bruv. Thank you for giving a shit
Gonna be my mantra for the rest of the year
Yes.. Keep what you need discard (Donate) the rest.. and watch the blessings come in
yeah I gotta get back to that. I used to do that 4 times a year
I'm buried in junk. I need an industrial shredder too. I got paperwork from the 90s still but they got all my personal info on it so I can't just dump it.
I understand.. Still throwing out shit
Take it from someone that is a "packrat"...when i sold my house, i didn't realize how much i was mentally holding on to stuff. It can hurt at first, but then it can be liberating.
Alot of times.. Those are emotional attachments. We often say.. Naw Imma keep it or use it eventually.. Times goes by and nuthin it's collecting dust.. Its useless to me but it could be blessing to someone else.
Im in this process as we speak
In the span of 1 year in 2020 I lost my mom who I was taking care of, my job of 13 years, the girl I wanted to marry and my home...and then I caught Covid twice. My confidence and self-esteem were not present at all. I was clinically depressed and developed a severe anxiety where I couldn't even be around people. I had numerous job interviews where I couldn't even get out of my car in the parking lot because my nerves were so bad. I am so thankful for my family who took me in, got me a therapist who specifically focused on treating black men in crisis and allowed me to regain some sense of balance and worth. In the last year, I have been able to regain my footing and get back on track...I'm not where I was prior to that devastating time but I am much further along then the dark place that I was in...keep fighting brothers, this world ain't fair but my belief is that good things will come if you continue to put in the positive work to continually grow.
