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Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal?
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Damn homiesorry to hear this
KEEP GOING ... the best thing I can tell you. You can't win em all, and you damn sho can't keep losing.
Congrats on expecting & the fiancé
Thanks man, well me and the fiancé thing ended, women....
so I'm a dad, and honestly trying to move to new Orleans as soon as I find a job, currently I work for a doc, the pay is light but I'm learning a lot. As cliche as it sounds one day at a time man
Man damn some of you guys are really going through it but man yall must do this. Stop, slow down and take a deep breath. I know about struggle and your mental state plus stress will fucking kill you. Remember, as long as you are in the race you are moving, making strives and you will get your break point but after that get ready because sunshine is coming! I remember looking at my account and seeing -100 on fucking payday so trust, I know! i thought I would never get ahead of all the bullshit but it's a new day mane. Don't forget to treat yourselves either, no matter how small. Get that steak, dress up and go have a drink at a bar and share some of your hardship. YOu never know who you may meet! Life is meant to be enjoyed my fam!
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I'm so glad I found this thread because I'm currently going through my dark period. It all started when my engagement went down the drain 4 months before the wedding in 2015. Then I started seeing a therapist to help get over the emotional damage. Eight months (October 2015) later I get laid off from my job in Oil & Gas.
Since October I've been getting unemployment but its still not enough to cover all of my bills. Luckily I'm frugal as hell so I saved some money, but I have to dip into that every month now.
Two months after being laid off, the engine in my truck, both catalytic converters, and a ton of other shit needed to be replaced. You can only imagine how much that cost to fix.
As far as leisure time, I can go places but I can't spend much because I'll bust my budget. So whenever I do hang out with friends, I can't buy shit. So it doesn't really do any good to go places if you can't spend money.
I'm approaching 6 months of being unemployed and I've noticed strange changes. I can't remember or recall things like I used to just 6 months ago.
It feels like my mind is going to shit because all I do everyday is job hunt like a robot. Yeah I exercise, but that only covers an hour of my day. For the most part I've become a hermit inside of my house and that's not the type of person I am.
I just pray everyday and try my hardest not to get discouraged after getting rejection e-mails day after day. This is my first time going through something like this because I've had a job ever since I came out of college 9 years ago. My story might not be as bad as some of the ones in this thread, but its bad for me because this is all new for me. I'm just hoping I don't reach a breaking point.
Since October I've been getting unemployment but its still not enough to cover all of my bills. Luckily I'm frugal as hell so I saved some money, but I have to dip into that every month now.
Two months after being laid off, the engine in my truck, both catalytic converters, and a ton of other shit needed to be replaced. You can only imagine how much that cost to fix.
As far as leisure time, I can go places but I can't spend much because I'll bust my budget. So whenever I do hang out with friends, I can't buy shit. So it doesn't really do any good to go places if you can't spend money.
I'm approaching 6 months of being unemployed and I've noticed strange changes. I can't remember or recall things like I used to just 6 months ago.
It feels like my mind is going to shit because all I do everyday is job hunt like a robot. Yeah I exercise, but that only covers an hour of my day. For the most part I've become a hermit inside of my house and that's not the type of person I am.
I just pray everyday and try my hardest not to get discouraged after getting rejection e-mails day after day. This is my first time going through something like this because I've had a job ever since I came out of college 9 years ago. My story might not be as bad as some of the ones in this thread, but its bad for me because this is all new for me. I'm just hoping I don't reach a breaking point.
Hang in there and stay focused..... this is a great time to reinvent yourself...
in a few years and time is flying, you are going to look back at this at pat yourself on the back for not giving up..
and trust me.. that part about the engagement going to shit was a true blessing in disguise...
you dont see it yet but later on you will understand....
the key is to keep your mind focused on where you want to go...
its not bad luck as much as its a learning and growing experience that will only make you a stronger wiser person in the long run..
Patience and Acceptance goes a long way.....Oh and for the record, I'm still going through the struggle as well.
I appreciate the wisdom, man.
Much needed!
outstanding words....
I just found out my grandmother died...
just had a funeral last week.
this is way too much.
just had a funeral last week.
this is way too much.
My condolences brother... Stay strong PH. My best to your and your loved ones fam.
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Condolences bro.
Lost my grandfather, a close aunt, and great aunt all within 6 months.
All I can say is grieve it out bro. It's the only thing I go to church for.
I don't claim to have the answers to stressful life experiences, but out of all the stories I've heard and people that I've talked to, there was one thing they all had in common; they kept trying.
thank you fam...
I just recently starting going back regular and I actually found out a few hours after...
got to the hospital and she was dead.
I think what's getting me is now explaining life and death to my girls.
Thank you.
This actually new for me...
I remember when I originally made this thread I was going through it! And things were really looking up and both of these people who dies were so supportive and to lose them both back to back is just a little jarring.
I feel so helpless when things like this happen and there isn't very much I can do. I realize that a lot of people don't put a lot of stock in faith these days but know truly that you are in my thoughts and prayers to maintain your peace and to have the the strength and courage you need while you go through this.
First PH my sincerest and deepest condolences on your loss. With regards to the baby girls be truthful and as forthcoming as they require. Kids simply interpret grief differently. It is not the easiest conversation to have but be open and honest and they will be fine. It is mostly us adults who have the tougher time especially when its a grand parent that we've spent time with we have more memories to cling to.
Blessed love bredren keep your head as high as it will allow.
My deepest sympathy to you, PH.
I had to do that a few times too. To all, stay up man. Time can roll all storms past you. Seems bad at times but just tighten your laces and take your lumps yall. Trust me.....I know. Man I thought God hated me for a min. To the peeps that don't believe it's cool. Just how I was raised
thank you so much.
I think what is getting to me is dealing with mortality and my kids.
I just realized that my kids hadn't REALLY had to deal with death
and when I was coming unfortunately I had to deal with it early and often.
So I really slacked in discussing with them
and to be honest thinking about MY DEATH in relation to them.
thanks you are so right...
I was devastated and the kids were the ones being upbeat and positive. Remembering the holidays and fun stuff,
while the adults realized WE were all just crying.
I hate that it takes a death, a bombing in NY or some pain to go running back to church. I am making an effort to make it more of a constant.
I think when your on sites like bgol and hear intelligent passionate commentary questioning religion no mater how strong your faith rational thought common sense can start to weaken your resolve.
ESPECIALLY when people do dirt while claiming a particular religion.
I think it seeps in subconsciously
A story that REALLY effected me way back is that young very girl lost her father and killed herself right after the funeral because EVERYONE in the family kept telling her..Daddy is happy in Heaven. She missed him so much she decided to go to heaven too since that was were he was.
The innocence and ignorance...messed with me. So for a long time I was kinda out of religion. But in my most difficult struggles I always found focus and solace in it. And it was while I was in church with my family after her prodding that grandma passed.
So there you have it.
Lots of realness here. This has to be the best thread in BGOL history. People trying to help each other and not clowning each other...this is what it's all about. Of course I come here for the ladies and the entertainment, but I've also gotten some good information and insight. Hopefully, there will be more threads like this. Stay positive and keep your head up, people.
I hope for the holidays and the coming year all my bgol brethren all the best happiness health and wealth...
i had to move! wasnt nothing left for me to do..... either that or go back home & try to start all over again. I said fuck that!!! moving back home w/ moms @ 34???? I couldnt see it!
Moving back to nyc after escaping w/ no kids or jail record????? naaah! fuck that!
Moving back to nyc after escaping w/ no kids or jail record????? naaah! fuck that!
Ahhhhhhhhhhh! I learned today that I'm being laid off in June. My employer cut a large number of IT staff in the US and Canada today. I was a prime target, partially due to my location in NYC. They have and continue to make Buffalo, NY and the Chicago area IT locations in the US.
I'm worried,angry, stressed, but determined to recover from what is a life changing event for me. This is probably the worst day I've had in more than a decade.
I'm worried,angry, stressed, but determined to recover from what is a life changing event for me. This is probably the worst day I've had in more than a decade.
Still not getting better lost another job. Now homeless living relatives and it's not good.
Hang in there brotha.
Brother, just hold on. 95% of life is holding on; and the other 5% is showing up.
I'll be laid off in June too after being there 10.5 years, but I've had more time to process it, and have a decent severance package coming. And I understand all those emotions, look at it as you did get a warning to make some adjustments now. I wish you the best of luck.
Hang in there. It will get better and thank God that you do have somewhere to go.
Much love to all those going through it right now...
keep your head up persevere.
you are NOT alone.
keep your head up persevere.
you are NOT alone.