Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
that's real!!!
that's real!!!
Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal?
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Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Forgive me for asking but how do you watch yourself go broke in the U.S. When there are emeegency temp jobs that you can take to prevent that.
Forgive me for asking but how do you watch yourself go broke in the U.S. When there are emeegency temp jobs that you can take to prevent that.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
When you are overqualified for jobs and underqualified for the rest, you can get boxed out of the market. In that case your options are extremely limited. As a result, I decided to go back to school and change careers. The pain of focusing on a comeback is far lesser than the pain of hitting rock bottom. Although Im still a work in progress, I am happier than I was at that point.
When you are overqualified for jobs and underqualified for the rest, you can get boxed out of the market. In that case your options are extremely limited. As a result, I decided to go back to school and change careers. The pain of focusing on a comeback is far lesser than the pain of hitting rock bottom. Although Im still a work in progress, I am happier than I was at that point.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Thats good stuff FreshnClean...you do what you gotta do to survive.
We all have pride and are stubborn, but at some point you gotta put food on the table.
Thats good stuff FreshnClean...you do what you gotta do to survive.
We all have pride and are stubborn, but at some point you gotta put food on the table. 
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
I'm also thinking about going back to school. I've been accepted twice before I didn't go, but like you I was stressed out then.
Now my situation is a lot different and I feel like I can focus and get the job done with ease.
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Good shit!
I'm also thinking about going back to school. I've been accepted twice before I didn't go, but like you I was stressed out then.
Now my situation is a lot different and I feel like I can focus and get the job done with ease.
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a few things I try to keep in mind during tough times - which for me has been the past 3 years at least:
- The Dalai Lama said 'when you lose, don't lose the lesson'. [learned of this quote from Dave Chappelle]
- Life truly is a roller coaster, ups and downs. The past 3 years for me seemed to be ALL downhill, (wife been sick, moving 4x, being poor) but just keep pushing on. After a while I realized that with all da trials and drama I faced and was so focused on, I was chipping away at other lingering issues and refining myself during that time. A promotion suddenly came my way at work, bills that I finally paid off over the past year just adds to the money I've already saved, which puts me closer to my goal of buying a home...
- Prayer does work, but I just hate that that's all anyone you try to talk to has to offer. Also, be mindful of WHO you're trying to get advice from during hard times. I learned the hard way that most people don't really aspire for anything and just spew out whatever nonsense makes them feel better about THEMSELVES.....because they've never done anything for themselves. Don't let their static nature infect you.
Those things, along with music and meditation, have helped me cope. You'll get through, believe that. Just keep working and you'll get where you need to be. Just don't despair! If anything, anger is much more useful.
a few things I try to keep in mind during tough times - which for me has been the past 3 years at least:
- The Dalai Lama said 'when you lose, don't lose the lesson'. [learned of this quote from Dave Chappelle]
- Life truly is a roller coaster, ups and downs. The past 3 years for me seemed to be ALL downhill, (wife been sick, moving 4x, being poor) but just keep pushing on. After a while I realized that with all da trials and drama I faced and was so focused on, I was chipping away at other lingering issues and refining myself during that time. A promotion suddenly came my way at work, bills that I finally paid off over the past year just adds to the money I've already saved, which puts me closer to my goal of buying a home...
- Prayer does work, but I just hate that that's all anyone you try to talk to has to offer. Also, be mindful of WHO you're trying to get advice from during hard times. I learned the hard way that most people don't really aspire for anything and just spew out whatever nonsense makes them feel better about THEMSELVES.....because they've never done anything for themselves. Don't let their static nature infect you.
Those things, along with music and meditation, have helped me cope. You'll get through, believe that. Just keep working and you'll get where you need to be. Just don't despair! If anything, anger is much more useful.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
I needed to see this thread. Got some shit going on in my life that is stressing me the fuck out.
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I needed to see this thread. Got some shit going on in my life that is stressing me the fuck out.
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Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Thanks for making it clearer.
Thanks for making it clearer.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Ok ok ok ok, I'll give you the secret to the universe.
Step 1- Realize it's not real. What you call reality is just an illusion, Maya. Only the EXPERIENCE is real. Everybody comes to this conclusion in different ways but most never really found this out till after their soul leaves their body. But if you can feel this truth while your still in the body your half way there.
Step 2-Your point of power is your ability to FEEL GOOD NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCES. This is the tough one because we've been taught to react to our cirucumstances rather than chose them with our thoughts. Your reality in nothing more then your EMOTIONAL STATE. Period. So if you can put your self in a GOOD FEELING STATE no matter what than you've one the game of life. The key is to put your ATTENTION on HOW YOU FEEL rather then on what you see. Because REMEMBER WHAT YOU SEE IS AN ILLUSION AND WHAT YOU FEEL IS REAL.
Step 3- Appreciation for ALL THAT IS.
Good luck mudafuckas.
Ok ok ok ok, I'll give you the secret to the universe.
Step 1- Realize it's not real. What you call reality is just an illusion, Maya. Only the EXPERIENCE is real. Everybody comes to this conclusion in different ways but most never really found this out till after their soul leaves their body. But if you can feel this truth while your still in the body your half way there.
Step 2-Your point of power is your ability to FEEL GOOD NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCES. This is the tough one because we've been taught to react to our cirucumstances rather than chose them with our thoughts. Your reality in nothing more then your EMOTIONAL STATE. Period. So if you can put your self in a GOOD FEELING STATE no matter what than you've one the game of life. The key is to put your ATTENTION on HOW YOU FEEL rather then on what you see. Because REMEMBER WHAT YOU SEE IS AN ILLUSION AND WHAT YOU FEEL IS REAL.
Step 3- Appreciation for ALL THAT IS.
Good luck mudafuckas.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Great thread!!
Theres a lot of mental illnesses in the Black community as a whole that needs to be addressed. A lot of us tend to hold things in (im guilty of this at times) because we fear being criticized or attacked. Its like a defense mechanism. But its healthy to RELEASE. You can release via writing stuff down, talking to someone about your problems or typing about it on BGOL. Theres many ways to release.....just make sure that you do it!!!
Anyways.....
Everyone has experienced some form of stress. Physical or mental. How you handle that stress is what defines you.
Honestly, ive never been in a SUPER stressful situation. Im an emotional guy, but i dont stay emotional for long. I quickly get over shit.
Im super resilient. Im Intuitive. I listen more than i speak. I observe a lot...I think a lot. Ive had hours of alone time everyday single day of my life for about 85% of my life (childhood - adulthood). That alone time gave me a chance to decompress and put things in order. I know when someone or something aint worth a shit and is destined to cause a problem. When i see a problem.....i distance myself from it. It can be my own Mother or Child. If i see my Mother or Child is a problem...then im gonna distance myself from my Mother & Child. Simple as that!!
IM PRIORITY #1 IN MY LIFE. I love my family....but no one comes before me. If im ill, how can i help others???
When its all said and done i'll make sure that im safe. Stress kills....therefore I keep stress out of my life as much as possible. Having a child right now would put a lot of stress in my life....therefore...i dont have kids. Get it??
You control more than what you think you control. If youre stressed about something....its mainly because youve allowed yourself to be stressed.
Adapt..survive!!!
Most of the things we stress about aint worth stressing over.
Just think about it.......
Stop giving a fuck about trivial shit and be happy
Great thread!!
Theres a lot of mental illnesses in the Black community as a whole that needs to be addressed. A lot of us tend to hold things in (im guilty of this at times) because we fear being criticized or attacked. Its like a defense mechanism. But its healthy to RELEASE. You can release via writing stuff down, talking to someone about your problems or typing about it on BGOL. Theres many ways to release.....just make sure that you do it!!!
Anyways.....
Everyone has experienced some form of stress. Physical or mental. How you handle that stress is what defines you.
Honestly, ive never been in a SUPER stressful situation. Im an emotional guy, but i dont stay emotional for long. I quickly get over shit.
Im super resilient. Im Intuitive. I listen more than i speak. I observe a lot...I think a lot. Ive had hours of alone time everyday single day of my life for about 85% of my life (childhood - adulthood). That alone time gave me a chance to decompress and put things in order. I know when someone or something aint worth a shit and is destined to cause a problem. When i see a problem.....i distance myself from it. It can be my own Mother or Child. If i see my Mother or Child is a problem...then im gonna distance myself from my Mother & Child. Simple as that!!
IM PRIORITY #1 IN MY LIFE. I love my family....but no one comes before me. If im ill, how can i help others???
When its all said and done i'll make sure that im safe. Stress kills....therefore I keep stress out of my life as much as possible. Having a child right now would put a lot of stress in my life....therefore...i dont have kids. Get it??
You control more than what you think you control. If youre stressed about something....its mainly because youve allowed yourself to be stressed.
Adapt..survive!!!
Most of the things we stress about aint worth stressing over.
Just think about it.......
Stop giving a fuck about trivial shit and be happy
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Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
I chased money and moved to the west coast and was in trouble from the minute i got out there. Completely lost everything except my woman who stuck with me through it. Moved back home, first time my girl and I lived separate. Had a long time to think about my life and the problems that got me to where i was at.
The most valuable lesson that I learned.
If you cant accept change, life is going to be very hard for you. Life is a rollercoaster ride and nothing stays the same forever. Panicking and Complaining accomplish nothing.
With that said...
1. As long as my brain was surrounded and open to negativity that was there I was doomed to stay.
2. THe only difference between me and successful people is that they tried and I didnt. and when i say try, I mean doing everything in my life without half-assing it. I was always looking to do half the work, but make all the money. Find shortcuts everywhere i could. I accepted the fact that I just wasnt putting the effort in that other people who were on the level I wanted to be on, were putting in. I started getting up at 6am, and treated learning programming like it was a job. I stopped procrastinating. I would always miss out on things that would have made life so much easier if I wouldve just got to it when i heard about something. I shot myself in the foot a lot and i reached a point of being sick of being like that. Also got into shape. If i wasnt working a job, I could at least feel good about myself.
3. I wrote down all of my problems/things i hated about myself and thought of a solution/solutions for each one and started working on it one by one, which is the mentality that programming has given me.
4. When life is on the upswing, I focused on paying off my debt. The least amount of people with their hands out asking for money I dont have, the better.
5. Kicked my prejudices to the curb, and found "good people" and hold on to them. We made it though because of reliable friends and family.
6. Youtube is the greatest tool ever created and I will always fight for it to be free. Ive learned to program enough to change careers, I fix my own car which is saving me tons of money. Fixing your own car is a great way to stay out of debt.
7. Learn a trade in addition to your daily job. When my first 3d job went bad, I bartended. When my second Graphic design job went bad, I reconditioned cars. Service jobs have been easier to come across.
8. I always reinvent myself. If someone tells me that I havent changed a bit, i consider that an insult. Need new views and skills for changing times. I talk to older people who have struggled longer than i have, and younger people who have time to keep up to date on changing technology and they give me the cliff notes so i stay competitive.
...and most important of all, Always have a plan. People dream about where they want to be in life, and when they get there they have no clue what to do. Think about the outcome becuase I discovered that getting out of the hole was easier than staying out of the hole.
I chased money and moved to the west coast and was in trouble from the minute i got out there. Completely lost everything except my woman who stuck with me through it. Moved back home, first time my girl and I lived separate. Had a long time to think about my life and the problems that got me to where i was at.
The most valuable lesson that I learned.
If you cant accept change, life is going to be very hard for you. Life is a rollercoaster ride and nothing stays the same forever. Panicking and Complaining accomplish nothing.
With that said...
1. As long as my brain was surrounded and open to negativity that was there I was doomed to stay.
2. THe only difference between me and successful people is that they tried and I didnt. and when i say try, I mean doing everything in my life without half-assing it. I was always looking to do half the work, but make all the money. Find shortcuts everywhere i could. I accepted the fact that I just wasnt putting the effort in that other people who were on the level I wanted to be on, were putting in. I started getting up at 6am, and treated learning programming like it was a job. I stopped procrastinating. I would always miss out on things that would have made life so much easier if I wouldve just got to it when i heard about something. I shot myself in the foot a lot and i reached a point of being sick of being like that. Also got into shape. If i wasnt working a job, I could at least feel good about myself.
3. I wrote down all of my problems/things i hated about myself and thought of a solution/solutions for each one and started working on it one by one, which is the mentality that programming has given me.
4. When life is on the upswing, I focused on paying off my debt. The least amount of people with their hands out asking for money I dont have, the better.
5. Kicked my prejudices to the curb, and found "good people" and hold on to them. We made it though because of reliable friends and family.
6. Youtube is the greatest tool ever created and I will always fight for it to be free. Ive learned to program enough to change careers, I fix my own car which is saving me tons of money. Fixing your own car is a great way to stay out of debt.
7. Learn a trade in addition to your daily job. When my first 3d job went bad, I bartended. When my second Graphic design job went bad, I reconditioned cars. Service jobs have been easier to come across.
8. I always reinvent myself. If someone tells me that I havent changed a bit, i consider that an insult. Need new views and skills for changing times. I talk to older people who have struggled longer than i have, and younger people who have time to keep up to date on changing technology and they give me the cliff notes so i stay competitive.
...and most important of all, Always have a plan. People dream about where they want to be in life, and when they get there they have no clue what to do. Think about the outcome becuase I discovered that getting out of the hole was easier than staying out of the hole.
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Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
I hear dat shit..
I just think some folks dont need a lot to be happy,
and some folks need things and a certain lifestyle to feel good
about themselves..
neither is wrong or right its whatever works for you...
I tend to need very little... as long as I can visit somewhere different
that you cant go without a passport at least ten times every five years..
Im happier than a cat in rat town..
too many folks tryin follow other people and their happiness...
instead of discovering and pursing their own...
I hear dat shit..
I just think some folks dont need a lot to be happy,
and some folks need things and a certain lifestyle to feel good
about themselves..
neither is wrong or right its whatever works for you...
I tend to need very little... as long as I can visit somewhere different
that you cant go without a passport at least ten times every five years..
Im happier than a cat in rat town..
too many folks tryin follow other people and their happiness...
instead of discovering and pursing their own...
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs...13/04/17/why-you-shouldnt-follow-your-passion
lol you feel for it hook line and sinker
http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs...13/04/17/why-you-shouldnt-follow-your-passion
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Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Yup trying to help old friends . You can't force folks to want better. It has come from inside . I just up and left no forwarding address. A quiet neighborhood a deep tissue massage three times a week works wonders.
Yup trying to help old friends . You can't force folks to want better. It has come from inside . I just up and left no forwarding address. A quiet neighborhood a deep tissue massage three times a week works wonders.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Yup trying to help old friends . You can't force folks to want better. It has come from inside . I just up and left no forwarding address. A quiet neighborhood a deep tissue massage three times a week works wonders.
Yup trying to help old friends . You can't force folks to want better. It has come from inside . I just up and left no forwarding address. A quiet neighborhood a deep tissue massage three times a week works wonders.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
I've had my days but nothing too long, you just gotta keep living...
I discovered this quote from Epictetus many years ago-
"Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them."
It really put a lot of things in perspective for me. I'm a very autonomous person and I've always been the type to plan/prepare for the worst even though a lot of things are unforeseen.
I've had my days but nothing too long, you just gotta keep living...
I discovered this quote from Epictetus many years ago-
"Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them."
It really put a lot of things in perspective for me. I'm a very autonomous person and I've always been the type to plan/prepare for the worst even though a lot of things are unforeseen.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
This faggot nigga, STAYS up in the dick thread looking at dicks and rubbing his stomach with lotion.
Moisht fuck!
This faggot nigga, STAYS up in the dick thread looking at dicks and rubbing his stomach with lotion.
Moisht fuck!
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Absolutely....Reading too much into "Laws of Attraction" is unhealthy to say the least
No prob..
Absolutely....Reading too much into "Laws of Attraction" is unhealthy to say the least
No prob..
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
What I've found works really well for peace of mind is mapping out the months (or year) ahead. That way nothing sneaks up on you at all (especially if you're dealing with rough credit, budgeting, falling behind on payments). It's one thing to have shit written down on calendars, dayplanners, or saved on the smartphone. But what I've done the past 2 years is take some 8 x 11s and either write out (or type out) shit for reference.
For example ... here's some shit I jotted out for quick reference (really helps with budget/finances) ...
- Credit card statement arrives 19th/20th of each month - due 8th - 10th of following month
- Reference 2 - 3 accounts for transfers & deposits (Savings, TFSA, RRSP, Chequing, etc) - aim for start of each 2nd month
- Feb. - Annual utilities due
- Feb / April / June / Aug / Oct / Dec - Hydro billing
- April - home insurance due
- May - car insurance due
- July - Annual property taxes due
- Oct - Passport expires mid-month - get same re-upped in the months prior
- Staff meetings ...
- April / Oct - dental appts
- March / Aug - Family in town
- Sept / Dec - Book vacation / lieu day coverage
- End of the year - start looking into new car purchase for 2016 or 2017
- etc.
What I've found works really well for peace of mind is mapping out the months (or year) ahead. That way nothing sneaks up on you at all (especially if you're dealing with rough credit, budgeting, falling behind on payments). It's one thing to have shit written down on calendars, dayplanners, or saved on the smartphone. But what I've done the past 2 years is take some 8 x 11s and either write out (or type out) shit for reference.
For example ... here's some shit I jotted out for quick reference (really helps with budget/finances) ...
- Credit card statement arrives 19th/20th of each month - due 8th - 10th of following month
- Reference 2 - 3 accounts for transfers & deposits (Savings, TFSA, RRSP, Chequing, etc) - aim for start of each 2nd month
- Feb. - Annual utilities due
- Feb / April / June / Aug / Oct / Dec - Hydro billing
- April - home insurance due
- May - car insurance due
- July - Annual property taxes due
- Oct - Passport expires mid-month - get same re-upped in the months prior
- Staff meetings ...
- April / Oct - dental appts
- March / Aug - Family in town
- Sept / Dec - Book vacation / lieu day coverage
- End of the year - start looking into new car purchase for 2016 or 2017
- etc.
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Thanks for the great responses
Thanks for the great responses
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
These are great and I decided last week to start putting aside 2 hours every day for personal development, not necessarily related improving my job. Just getting better, whether its an hour at the gym or reading a book. Something to learn thats different....
With debt...I don't have a lot of it but what I do have is kind of nagging at me. I've set my sights on being out of debt (except for mortgage) by 2017. Gonna have to make some drastic cuts though, but it will get done.
These are great and I decided last week to start putting aside 2 hours every day for personal development, not necessarily related improving my job. Just getting better, whether its an hour at the gym or reading a book. Something to learn thats different....
With debt...I don't have a lot of it but what I do have is kind of nagging at me. I've set my sights on being out of debt (except for mortgage) by 2017. Gonna have to make some drastic cuts though, but it will get done.
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Brothas - all bullshit aside, this thread has truly helped me more than y'all know. I finally started changing my diet, hitting planet fitness (fuck yall - it was close to the house and they had massage chairs) and most importantly meditating/praying.
It has literally brought a sense of calmness. I thought it was some bullshit - but I needed to get out of the house and bring perspective to where I was at in life. I was literally re-enforcing negativity around me.
Finally - I stopped worrying about fake folks or perception or getting fired. Just enjoy the fact that I had good people around me, my health and a good woman. The rest of the shit is for the birds man. Started doing better on my job (without even realizing it) - I'm still getting there - but sometimes you need to step away to see the big picture, the forrest from the trees. Sometimes you gotta laugh at the crazy shit and focus on what you can control.
Much appreciated brothas - keep pushing.
Brothas - all bullshit aside, this thread has truly helped me more than y'all know. I finally started changing my diet, hitting planet fitness (fuck yall - it was close to the house and they had massage chairs) and most importantly meditating/praying.
It has literally brought a sense of calmness. I thought it was some bullshit - but I needed to get out of the house and bring perspective to where I was at in life. I was literally re-enforcing negativity around me.
Finally - I stopped worrying about fake folks or perception or getting fired. Just enjoy the fact that I had good people around me, my health and a good woman. The rest of the shit is for the birds man. Started doing better on my job (without even realizing it) - I'm still getting there - but sometimes you need to step away to see the big picture, the forrest from the trees. Sometimes you gotta laugh at the crazy shit and focus on what you can control.
Much appreciated brothas - keep pushing.
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Congrats on taking those initial steps man. They are HUGE!! Stay focused and keep it up. Amazing the changes that begin to take place once you change your environment and start getting that blood and those endorphins flowing. It truly helps get everything going.
Lord Vicious
Rising Star
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Props to everyone who has hit those hard spots,stayed strong and bounced back.
(Myself included)
And to those going through them now,stay strong and stay focused.
The bad days don't last forever.
Peace
Props to everyone who has hit those hard spots,stayed strong and bounced back.
(Myself included)
And to those going through them now,stay strong and stay focused.
The bad days don't last forever.
Peace
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
It's gonna be a good day....
peace brothers
It's gonna be a good day....
peace brothers
Re: Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal
Hit me!
We need to build.
Haitian,
Hit me!
We need to build.
Just wanted to show some love to bgol fam...forget this corporate created so called holiday...
Show your family friends wives love every day especially now in these tough times.
And if you feeling down or alone right now know you are important loved and everything is going to work out.
Show your family friends wives love every day especially now in these tough times.
And if you feeling down or alone right now know you are important loved and everything is going to work out.
This.
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Being self employed, you GOTTA know that you are greater/worth more than any failure, bad decision, or setback that you could make.
It's hard sometimes, especially when you are passionate about your ambitions.
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Man I'm still in it, I graduated, waited damn near a year to get a job, of which was for peanuts, he let me go because of jelousy, and ego, I still live on moms couch, still looking for a job,in my field, I got a kid on the way and a fiancé, shits rough man, I catch myself with tears in my eyes frustrated because it's like the harder I try, the more no's I get, they say it gets better, I am waiting for my break through
sorry to hear thisKEEP GOING ... the best thing I can tell you. You can't win em all, and you damn sho can't keep losing.
Congrats on expecting & the fiancé