Black Men & Stress: Have you ever had a horrible run of BAD LUCK & How did u deal?
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I went through a couple times in my life when I was completely down on my luck and had very few (or sometimes no) options financially. I was stressed out constantly and couldn't sleep normally because I would toss and turn thinking about how fucked up life was. Have you ever just wanted to scream loud as fuck when your mind is unwillingly invaded by a swarm of buzzing thoughts? That's how my mind works. Most people clear the mental cache through normal sleep cycles but my energy was so misaligned that even in the pitch-black silent darkness of my bedroom I could not find peace. What I had to do is revert back to very basic levels of fulfillment in my life to keep me going. I concentrated on the minimums for most things and just "let it be."
From there I made personal daily missions to go directly at what was effecting me the most. I asked myself, "what is the direct cause(s) of me being in this particular situation?" Is it something I did? Is it something I could not control or see coming but took no action to avoid?
But then there are the unavoidable stresses and emotions that go along with these situations. Sometimes there are feelings of depression and anxiety that manifest themselves but do not align themselves directly to a specific root cause. For me its worse because I internalize.
I find my peace through connecting with nature and music. I live in Denver, so its easy to get out and see some beautiful scenery. I'll smoke and go to the mountains (Red Rocks Area) to watch the sunrise, go fishing, take my kayak out and just float and listen to music. I try to disconnect though. Unplug from everything and get back to connecting to Mother Nature's energy. I feel like I'm "reset" after doing these things. I sleep and rest better for sure.
From there I made personal daily missions to go directly at what was effecting me the most. I asked myself, "what is the direct cause(s) of me being in this particular situation?" Is it something I did? Is it something I could not control or see coming but took no action to avoid?
But then there are the unavoidable stresses and emotions that go along with these situations. Sometimes there are feelings of depression and anxiety that manifest themselves but do not align themselves directly to a specific root cause. For me its worse because I internalize.
I find my peace through connecting with nature and music. I live in Denver, so its easy to get out and see some beautiful scenery. I'll smoke and go to the mountains (Red Rocks Area) to watch the sunrise, go fishing, take my kayak out and just float and listen to music. I try to disconnect though. Unplug from everything and get back to connecting to Mother Nature's energy. I feel like I'm "reset" after doing these things. I sleep and rest better for sure.
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Laughter is needed through hard times to keep our head up.Try watching comedy.I remembered my boy telling me by watching Richard Pryor shows it kept his spirits up when he lost his Father and job.Comedy especially Black Comedy helps me whether its old shows on TV or anything upcoming in New York Clubs.Laughter helps ease the soul through hard times.
This thread is 2 years old and I find it hard to believe I hadn't added my own testimonial, because the last several years have tested every fiber of my being except the most important-my health. And the experiences have shown me that's where my wealth truly lies.
Like many of the fam, life has put a combination of lessons on my path concurrently...financial/professional, emotional, and mental and I seemed to resist them all.
I made bad decisions to get in my predicaments and compounded them by trying to take shortcuts...basically trying to cheat the lessons life had for me.
I ain't gonna lie, there were many nights I prayed just not to wake up the next morning. I've lived a long life relatively speaking. My kids are grown and doing fine and I've had just about every pleasurable experience I ever wanted. I truly questioned why I would wanna start over and have to endure so much to live in a world I was starting to view as someplace I didn't love. I lost my purpose.
Through lots of introspection, prayer (not to white Jesus but to MY true God), reading, and finally self acceptance, I was able to silence the negative voices in my head fighting for control and regain my direction and focus in life. I also found a new purpose by helping someone else.
My challenges aren't over, but I'm better equipped to deal with them. I'm in the process of re-inventing myself....again, lol and laying a solid foundation to rebuild my life. I guess if I had to say how I dealt with the stress in my life, I'd simply say that no matter how bad I thought my life had become, I still had a lot to be thankful for.
Continued peace and blessings
Like many of the fam, life has put a combination of lessons on my path concurrently...financial/professional, emotional, and mental and I seemed to resist them all.
I made bad decisions to get in my predicaments and compounded them by trying to take shortcuts...basically trying to cheat the lessons life had for me.
I ain't gonna lie, there were many nights I prayed just not to wake up the next morning. I've lived a long life relatively speaking. My kids are grown and doing fine and I've had just about every pleasurable experience I ever wanted. I truly questioned why I would wanna start over and have to endure so much to live in a world I was starting to view as someplace I didn't love. I lost my purpose.
Through lots of introspection, prayer (not to white Jesus but to MY true God), reading, and finally self acceptance, I was able to silence the negative voices in my head fighting for control and regain my direction and focus in life. I also found a new purpose by helping someone else.
My challenges aren't over, but I'm better equipped to deal with them. I'm in the process of re-inventing myself....again, lol and laying a solid foundation to rebuild my life. I guess if I had to say how I dealt with the stress in my life, I'd simply say that no matter how bad I thought my life had become, I still had a lot to be thankful for.
Continued peace and blessings
Now is the time to start walking in parks,beaches (swimming)etc. Noise plays a factor in levels of stress .Try going someplace peaceful.I will be spending time in Central Park..it was years since Ive gone before seeing a live performance from Raphael Saadiq,and vowed I would go back. Anyone living in New York can experience rowboats rides (afforable) which you and your love ones can take advantage of.Marine park and I believe Prospect Park offers water taxi rides.
It's so funny that this thread was bumped today. I shared my story in this thread last March.
Post #179, page 6.
I finally landed a job back in my field after being out of work for 1 year and 6 months.
Today was my first day.
Albeit not quite what I was making before, its still a start to get the ball rolling again.
I almost cried when I sat at my desk this morning.
It was a long time coming, but I have to keep pushing to get back to where I need to be.
Post #179, page 6.
I finally landed a job back in my field after being out of work for 1 year and 6 months.
Today was my first day.
Albeit not quite what I was making before, its still a start to get the ball rolling again.
I almost cried when I sat at my desk this morning.
It was a long time coming, but I have to keep pushing to get back to where I need to be.
^^^^^
I'm telling you riding a bike in central park
On a beautiful day like today is dope
You Ain't live untill you ride a bike around central park on a nice day...
Can't wait to rent a dope bike and hit the park
I just found out my baby girl is sick...
and honestly many of the words in this thread helped me deal.
I'm still angry confused hurt sad lost etc...
but I'm DEALING.
I think that is the BEST advice I can give.
for today?
I am DEALING...and moving FORWARD.
and honestly many of the words in this thread helped me deal.
I'm still angry confused hurt sad lost etc...
but I'm DEALING.
I think that is the BEST advice I can give.
for today?
I am DEALING...and moving FORWARD.
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I missed Robert Glasper and Tank at Central Park last Sunday...and that would have been a good time to hang out there
Surround yourself with people..make sure u have a support group (family,friends)
but this can be tricky some of the people I USUALLY depend on?
shocked the sh*t out of m and completely flaked on me.
In moments of strife and pressure people's TRUE CHARACTER is revealed.
just those who u can trust.Me? I have to travel in order to maintain some sanity. Just to clear my head when shit gets overbearing
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you right
but right now?
that's like 3 people
and if I REALLY had time to think on?
that is sad that during this time so many fell off.
Read up on her sickness, and research, ask the doctors to explain all your options and there prognosis.
You can't beat yourself up for her sickness
Don't crawl in a hole and isolate yourself
Be strong for baby girl she will pick up your braveness and live it
The people that flaked, fuck em, but in the same breath I think that when people go through things they tend to think there may be an out pour of support, reality is, people got they own shit they dealing with, and honestly they may feel like it's little they can do, especially in a situation like this, so don't take every perceived transgression as just that. Plus ultimately all they can do is offer words or let you vent maybe take you somewhere to get your mind off shit
You keep your fucking head up be strong brother
Right now ...spend a lot of time with her and Do the things u enjoy. and do something out of the ordinary...out of your normal routine. Pray (Meditation) ...Please Stay Positive..for you and your daughter (family) ...life is full of constant changes..things will turn out for the best
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thank you brothers.
i really appreciate the words.
need all that positive energy!
Shit If u r in New York ...hit some of these free summer concerts when u can. Stay up !!!!
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I'm sorry to hear this. I'm keep you and your family in my thoughts.
what other videos do you suggest..HNIC should male a stressless forum...
Take a lot of ginseng and AKG.
Thank you
thanks..I really know nothing about the chant meditation..but thank you for taking the time to respond and post...
meditation
practice yoga
honor my ancestors
honor my orisha / ifa
set goals - use postits to create a goal / timeline/ vision board- wk & home
tell my moms she's beautiful & I lover her & she is the greatest!!!
believe in myself
write down 20 ideas in 1 hr everyday ( planning time eventually becomes an all day everyday thing / habit)
visualize, pretend, practice being who & what I want to become what I want to be as described in my plan / movie script.
practice yoga
honor my ancestors
honor my orisha / ifa
set goals - use postits to create a goal / timeline/ vision board- wk & home
tell my moms she's beautiful & I lover her & she is the greatest!!!
believe in myself
write down 20 ideas in 1 hr everyday ( planning time eventually becomes an all day everyday thing / habit)
visualize, pretend, practice being who & what I want to become what I want to be as described in my plan / movie script.
I have more just give me a minute ..I'll send it out in a zip file