just jokimg with him
I need yall opinion on this..male and female
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Shorty needs to take responsibility for HER actions. Check your bitch dawg.
Even though "Pastor" is wrong, it's up to her to stop it which she could do in one sentence if she wanted to. She's entertaining that shit. She may not physically get involved but she's surely getting a high off of the attention.
I agree with @JofromthaNO and would like to add that you should only do this when you can control your anger. It is important you vent somewhere - maybe to your friends in full force, but if you are out-of-control with your woman, things can never go well.
Awe man... no more responses from Ninja.
He's already in jail for Domestic Violence brehs. We're too late.
LOL @J.E.T.S but on the real @NinjaspiT Im hoping all is well. Would love to know how this works out for you.
He is abusing this woman...using his position in the church and her fealty to the religion to try and manipulate her.
I am not completely absolving her but really it seems pretty apparent according to your description that the Pastor is the aggressor
and for him to still have maintained his position in the church after all the drugs, etc...
shows you what that entire community is about and unfortunately the fact that she also remained shows she is too trusting and is lost.
He is doing some evil stuff
I think you should just tell her the truth and explain to her you were concerned something was wrong with her that you could see/feel something was bothering her and wanted make sure she was OK and you would never betray her trust by going on her phone unless it wasn't serious.
But to be honest this type of religious loyalty is tough as hell to break.
she is going to give the Pastor every excuse possible (much like the Pastors wife family and church have)
So yeah you could and probably should expose him
and hopefully you can give her the much needed strength and support to stand up o this man and cut him off
but do NOT be surprised that they take him back with open arms
and he tries to to recruit YOU...on some you saved his soul type shit
to save his own ass.
Again if she is REALLY loyal to the church it may be some type of warped YOU or THEM situation.
I am not completely absolving her but really it seems pretty apparent according to your description that the Pastor is the aggressor
and for him to still have maintained his position in the church after all the drugs, etc...
shows you what that entire community is about and unfortunately the fact that she also remained shows she is too trusting and is lost.
He is doing some evil stuff
I think you should just tell her the truth and explain to her you were concerned something was wrong with her that you could see/feel something was bothering her and wanted make sure she was OK and you would never betray her trust by going on her phone unless it wasn't serious.
But to be honest this type of religious loyalty is tough as hell to break.
she is going to give the Pastor every excuse possible (much like the Pastors wife family and church have)
So yeah you could and probably should expose him
and hopefully you can give her the much needed strength and support to stand up o this man and cut him off
but do NOT be surprised that they take him back with open arms
and he tries to to recruit YOU...on some you saved his soul type shit
to save his own ass.
Again if she is REALLY loyal to the church it may be some type of warped YOU or THEM situation.
You fucked up by going through her phone. You found shit you were looking for and now you don't know how to handle it. Look at cha, blood pressure around 9000 now. Don't open doors if you can't deal with what's behind it.
Check her immediately (in a nice way though). It's 100% her fault, not the pastor. I would make her call him with the speaker on and make her tell him in front of you that he's not allowed to contact her ever again. Make sure she and the pastor knows who's boss. And mean that shit. If she ever talks to him again after that then bounce.
You don't have to be mean or bad when you do it. But you NEED to do it.
You don't have to be mean or bad when you do it. But you NEED to do it.
fam...sometimes they be on that jim jones
I have seen damn near physical altercations over parishioners
ESPECIALLY if a tithe is involved.
@playahaitian I agree with most everything you said but this part.
@Sampson caught it too
here, the OP says its an ex-pastor--- see?
I agree with you that church sometimes can go left. its the parishioners job to keep their wits about them to see who's real and who just wants the power cause
@Sampson caught it too
here, the OP says its an ex-pastor--- see?
I agree with you that church sometimes can go left. its the parishioners job to keep their wits about them to see who's real and who just wants the power cause
The fact is this pastor has serious past issues that can't be ignored, that said he shouldn't be a leader to anyone.
- He's married with children.
- He's also known for being a drug addict. This is not someone who needs to be leading our youth, not acting like that.
The fact is simple, no one is asking for selfies unless they feel there's possibly promise of a future sexual encounter.
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you right I shouldn't have said that part
he is the ex-pastor
what I meant was if she has chosen to remain in that community after everything he probably lost her cause group think and the power of influence is strong
She may concentrate ENTIRELY on the phone just to deflect her misplayed loyalty
provided everything the OP is saying is true.
she sounds like a good person who doesn't want to completely abandon a former pastor, a church elder essentially...
that isn't going to be easy.
but that selfie thing to me is a deal breaker.
I'm SURE the the pastor is going to try to find some way to make it seem innocent
and blame the op like HE is the one who violated her privacy and making something INNOCENT just SEEM dirty.
i didn't even read the responses yet..i'm still laughing at drug addict pastor whose begging for half naked pics lmao..so how is this guy ur pastor again..u mean to tell me ya actually give money to the church and think that shit goin to repairs for the church..lol,,prob got an 80's old school big ass fan that makes mad noise with dust particles blowing on everybody, discolored fold up chairs, ripped up bibles with mad wear and tear..pastor be sniffing coke b4 his sermons talking about he floated up to heaven and came back, dude got garfield eyes talking mad jibberish eyeballing mad tits lol...a druggie pastor no fucking way could u convince me to join that church if somebody ask...nig nose be running even in the summer...a coke head found loopholes to support his habit and his followers don't even kno it
See that's where you're wrong, he opened the door and is he's now dealing with it.
Many people have that flawed logic or cliche terms that they like to say as "Don't go looking for it...etc". I for one would rather know instead of being left in the dark.
See, you seem prepared to deal with what you find. Most are not. Jack Walsh is not entirely wrong on this one. Don't open the Cracker Jacks, if you ain't prepared for the possible prize. On a related note: didn't he say that she went through his shit first?
He's not dealing with shit. The only reason the nigga went in her phone is because she went in his. Shit was probably cool in the relationship till this snooping shit started. Often times we are willing to sabotage our own shit with assumptions. Da fuck you stressing over shit you'll never be able to control for. It's hard enough living life doing what you gotta do then you wanna add another wrench in in worrying about who your mate is talking too and what could be said? I'll be goddam if I live like that.
Yup and that's the ONLY reason he went through her phone. Da fuck outta here with dis punk pussy smooth shit man. This some Atlanta Housewives type shit. O.P. if you don't make a sandwich and sit yo ass down and find a ballgame to watch..........
a yo i'd be mad that my chick is givin a cokey convo lmao..where did u go wrong in the relationship when a druggie getting burn from ur bitch..maybe this is a blessing in disguise and god works in mysterious ways..god send cokey pastor to show u that ur broad ain't loyal..he like if she'd fuck with a druggie no telling what else she mite do leave now my son and don't breath in the dust particles no more from the big 80's fan
She went through your phone to justify why she bout to send the pastor a selfie and give him some pussy..
Drop that broad and save yourself the headache
Nah he ain't fuck up, she went through his phone on some sneak shit, bitch insecure because she's trying to justify in her mind that her boyfriend must be cheating too and since she still texting a mofo who's askin her for selfies she left the the door open in case she finds some shit on her boyfriend so she can go give the pastor some ass
These hoes ain't shit out here family
This man gets it. She wanna do it, but first, she needs to do a dirt count. If you got dirt, she won't feel too bad if she does it. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if Rev. Pookie told her: "Hell, yo' man prolly have bitches sending him all kinds of pictures! Check his phone, and loan me a dollar!"
Basically.. I've seen this play way too many times and mofos doing bids because they couldn't recognize their girls wasn't shit to begin with
I brought it up to her and she tried to act like she didnt understand what i was saying at first.
Then She said she didnt address him asking for selfies because she thought it was her fault for making him come at her inappropriately like that. She is a very attractive female and she feels like she always somehow gets into a situation that makes her feel like shes done something wrong to have a guy come at her sideways. She has a bubbly personality and talks to people. She is a peoples person.
This is her pastor from another state(she moved a few months ago). Her daughter was in his youth group, and he would occasionally invite her and everyone else to his house for dinner etc, so they did have contact outside of church. I addressed one of the texts where the pastor said one day if her daughter was home. He said he wanted to know so he could "plan accordingly." She said she knows that looks bad, but he meant so he could plan accordingly for them to come to his house for dinner. -_-. Furthermore, she said that she felt really awkward and avoiding his advances was the only way she felt she could handle it.
Long story short, I told her that I was going to give him a call, at which she didnt want me to do. Instead, she said she would tell me what to text him. So, in her words, she texted him that he made her feel uncomfortable asking for selfies. At which the pastor responded immediately with a:' " Oh! im sorry, i never meant to make you feel that way. I just missed your face and i never meant anything by it." -_-
Then She said she didnt address him asking for selfies because she thought it was her fault for making him come at her inappropriately like that. She is a very attractive female and she feels like she always somehow gets into a situation that makes her feel like shes done something wrong to have a guy come at her sideways. She has a bubbly personality and talks to people. She is a peoples person.
This is her pastor from another state(she moved a few months ago). Her daughter was in his youth group, and he would occasionally invite her and everyone else to his house for dinner etc, so they did have contact outside of church. I addressed one of the texts where the pastor said one day if her daughter was home. He said he wanted to know so he could "plan accordingly." She said she knows that looks bad, but he meant so he could plan accordingly for them to come to his house for dinner. -_-. Furthermore, she said that she felt really awkward and avoiding his advances was the only way she felt she could handle it.
Long story short, I told her that I was going to give him a call, at which she didnt want me to do. Instead, she said she would tell me what to text him. So, in her words, she texted him that he made her feel uncomfortable asking for selfies. At which the pastor responded immediately with a:' " Oh! im sorry, i never meant to make you feel that way. I just missed your face and i never meant anything by it." -_-
lmao at the cokey pastor..my man got a gloryhole in the confessional booth...telling broads "if u put saliva on this rod, it will get u closer to god"
I'd send that muhfucka a selfie of us together with a shit eatin' grin on my grill. You ever heard the saying "Heavy is the head that wears the crown"? Well, there's another one: "Jumpy are the nerves of the man with the beautiful woman." Jus' sayin'.
"Made me feel uncomfortable" aka "Mission abort." The Safe word, we've been busted.
Ninja man, I'd say trust your instincts. I don't know you from Adam but I've seen this scenario play out so many times.
Cut your losses dude. You got caught slipping, she got caught slipping. This relationship can't go much further. The fact she acted as if she didn't know what you were talking about is a HUGE red flag. If she was straight up when you confronted her, I would've given her the benefit of the doubt. But first she denies it, stops you speaking to him and then TELLS YOU what to text him?
Man, she's got you wrapped around her finger. No fucking way is my woman dictating to me, especially when she fucked up.
Edit: and she takes the blame away from him and says its her fault? Are you serious? She's defending a scum bag drug user. Fuck a dog collar. They smashed no question.
Ninja man, I'd say trust your instincts. I don't know you from Adam but I've seen this scenario play out so many times.
Cut your losses dude. You got caught slipping, she got caught slipping. This relationship can't go much further. The fact she acted as if she didn't know what you were talking about is a HUGE red flag. If she was straight up when you confronted her, I would've given her the benefit of the doubt. But first she denies it, stops you speaking to him and then TELLS YOU what to text him?
Man, she's got you wrapped around her finger. No fucking way is my woman dictating to me, especially when she fucked up.
Edit: and she takes the blame away from him and says its her fault? Are you serious? She's defending a scum bag drug user. Fuck a dog collar. They smashed no question.
That's your lady's problem she has to know when to recognize mofos coming at her in that manner especially when she's a people's person and have a bubbly personality... Most niggas take that as "she's interested" when in fact that's not the case she talks to anyone.
She has to develop a bitch personality when out in public, that's if she wants to keep the wolves off her. She can still be the bubbly chic that you know.. But yeah and check her ass for going through your phone when u ain't do shit to warrant it
This is what had me bugging. If I'm responding, I'm texting my shit! How you gon' have a ghostwriter to respond to another dude stepping to your broad?
