I appreciate that you are one who doesn't blindly agree with all that Tariq does - right or wrong.
I appreciate you agreeing to respond to me in a civil and respectful manner. Respect to you for that!
Sara was chillin' and Tariq started picking at her, went in on her name calling her, accusing her - and then when she asked him to provide proof of his accusation against her, he told her to watch her tone (what about his tone?) fired her on the air, then proceeded to dog her out in her absence.
As the saying goes, one's perception is one's reality. I saw the video and Sara was not in the best of mood. Neither was Tariq. You could tell that there was tension in the air from the moment the show started. I believe whatever went down off camera and/or over the weekend prior is what precipitated the event that soon followed.
How could you assign equal blame to both Tariq and Sara for what happened on that show? Sara was sitting quietly and hadn't said a mumbling word when Tariq went in on her.
They were both at fault because they both participated in the argument. Sara did get loud and she did talk to him in a disrespectful manner. Remember, she is his subordinate. He is her superordinate/boss. No reasonable person talks that way to his/her boss and expects to keep his/her job. Tariq has the upper hand and the authority to terminate her for any reason.
However, Tariq was also wrong because he also got load and talked to her in a disrespectful manner/tone. He also acted on impulse which lead to him telling Sara to leave.
Mr. "got to stay on code".
This is a man in his 40s, mind you. When we as Black men do good, we should be commended for it. But when we fuck up, we should man up and accept responsibility for fucking up. When those we admire fuck up, we should hold them accountable, not make excuses for their fuckups. Doesn't mean we expel them from the Black community - but hold them to the fire. Fire refines steel.
Age should have nothing to do with someone behaving a certain way. Let's be honest, we as Black people have this unrealistic expectation that we place upon ourselves to be this perfect Super Negro when in fact there is no such thing! No person is ALWAYS on code. No person ALWAYS behaves in a becoming fashion nor should one be expected to be perfect no matter how old or young they are. Can we strive to be better people? Absolutely! But, we must be reasonable with our expectations that we place upon ourselves as well as others.
Tariq has NEVER done that - accepted responsibility when he does wrong. Instead he does character assassination when anyone tries to point it out.
Man, you can say that about just anyone! Lol Rarely will you find people openly admit to wrong doing.
Understand this..
I have been supporting Tariq since the early 2000s, when he was promoting his 1st book on a hip hop radio station in Los Angeles. I remember when he use to call up on the Tom Leykis show to drop jewels. I also remember him promoting his book on air and people calling the show to troll and clown him. Needless to say, Tariq clapped back which had me in tears laughing and because of that, I made the decision to buy his book and the rest is history.
Point is..
People will not admit to doing wrong, if they feel they they are right. That is human nature.
We as Black men are supposed to serve as the example of what leadership is. True leadership does not need to assert itself with a fist or a hammer. It is not self-serving or egotistical. The righteous leader serves those whom he leads, and in doing that engenders their respect and teaches them by example how to themselves be effective and conscientious leaders.
People keep assigning him as a leader and pillar of the Black community. He has stated several times that he is NOT a leader. But, people keep putting that label on him. People also keep saying he was a pimp when he has pubically stated that he was never a pimp. He just used to hang out with them and learned the game from them. He also has stated that he used to hang out with gang members, but never got put on. He has also stated that he has been to jail, chased by the police and have had run ins with rival gang members who associated him with his gangster homies.
Point is, dude used to run the streets as a young adult. He grew up, evolved and used his talents to create his own brand/enterprise. But, despite all of this, people hold him to a certain level due to his success which is somewhat understandable, but at the end of the day, he is NO leader. He is a former street dude/hustler turned businessman and avocate.