I need yall opinion on this..male and female

[NinjaspiT]

This is how I feel right now. I dont feel like that text was enough to resolve the issue. This is a PASTOR that works with the youth and is married like i mentioned. I really feel like i shoudld do something else. I feel like he needs to be exposed. I feel like I need to talk to him. I found his twitter,ig,and linkedin.

 

[Sampson]

bro you fucks some brain activity up with this one

You, Woodchuck and a few others on here are like wise sages. Im always writing down shit from them and peeping game. I'm still learning as we all are.

"the admission of ignorance is the beginning of wisdom" Socrates.

 

[baboss2212]

If u talk to him. Talk 2 him and not at him.
Remember he is from the streets and also a fiend, and a pastor. They talk real slick and fast.

 

[BronxBomber]

This is how I feel right now. I dont feel like that text was enough to resolve the issue. This is a PASTOR that works with the youth and is married like i mentioned. I really feel like i shoudld do something else. I feel like he needs to be exposed. I feel like I need to talk to him. I found his twitter,ig,and linkedin.

You lost my brother...... Do not do that. He is doing what dudes do. Talk to your girl and tell her to block him and to not speak to him again. You gonna end up looking crazy in this.

 

[woodchuck]

This is how I feel right now. I dont feel like that text was enough to resolve the issue. This is a PASTOR that works with the youth and is married like i mentioned. I really feel like i shoudld do something else. I feel like he needs to be exposed. I feel like I need to talk to him. I found his twitter,ig,and linkedin.

Saw this coming. Advice led you to rethink some things, and hey, that's what it's supposed to do. The text left you unfulfilled, because you allowed her to dictate what to say to him. In essence, you've still done nothing. Also, e stalking is not a good look, and will make him "sympathy spit" to your girl about your behavior, and she already thinks you over react to shit. Bruh, this is looking a like car with bald tires on an ice patch, and Pastor Tyrone Biggums might end up getting some sympathy ass.

 

[Sampson]

This is how I feel right now. I dont feel like that text was enough to resolve the issue. This is a PASTOR that works with the youth and is married like i mentioned. I really feel like i shoudld do something else. I feel like he needs to be exposed. I feel like I need to talk to him. I found his twitter,ig,and linkedin.

Bro, this is what I mean. You're letting your heart rule your head. You're so in love with her you're stalking the pastor. He doesn't owe you shit. You're mad at your girl but you're so in love you're projecting that anger onto the Pastor.

Is dude a piece of shit? Yes. But it's not your place to expose him. Don't do anything stupid. Repercussions could come back full fold. This is between you and your woman. Leave him out of it

 

[NinjaspiT]

The only thing I feel like I accomplished with letting her have control over what was texted to him is that I gained some trust from her and some room for her to know how to handle a situation like that. I do not feel fulfilled because It feels like this is getting swept under the rug. Again-this is a PASTOR. A youth worker and former drug addict. What is really bothering me is how stupid the church is for allowing this to happen. And even more for my girl to have associated with a guy like this and allowing her child to do so as well. But she says im being judgemental. FUCK THAT

 

[2 ONE 3]

This is how I feel right now. I dont feel like that text was enough to resolve the issue. This is a PASTOR that works with the youth and is married like i mentioned. I really feel like i shoudld do something else. I feel like he needs to be exposed. I feel like I need to talk to him. I found his twitter,ig,and linkedin.

Bro what the fuck does him being a "PASTOR" mean anyway? Hell most of those muthafuckas are sleeping with half their congregation or trying to. It's bad enough the nigga has your girls number...It's even worse she's texting back...And its a DAMN SHAME this thirsty ass nigga is begging for a selfie. You need to holla at cuz

Fuck the bullshit

 

[baboss2212]

She won bro. Hang ur testicles up in closet next to ur old H.S. gym shorts.

 

[woodchuck]

Yeah, you really seem a little bit too hung up on this pastor thing. Right now, it seems like love and religion (the image of a pastor) are calling the shots. You need to make a call to your mental bullpen, and put your brain on the mound, because your heart done loaded the bases, and its about to send something waist high and 65 mph to the plate.

 

[thighsneyez22]

You lost my brother...... Do not do that. He is doing what dudes do. Talk to your girl and tell her to block him and to not speak to him again. You gonna end up looking crazy in this.

Agreed - Abort Abort!

It is understandable that you are in your feelings, but the truth will find him out.

Try to make it so your girl comes to the conclusion to block him on her own. Maybe ask her how she would feel if the situation were reversed. Also give her a subtle reminder that the situation will be reversed if it hasn't already been.

For what it's worth, I do not think you have any dealings with the man until he continues to pursue your woman after she has declined and cut contact. Remember, before you wrote this thread, she had not yet declined his advances she just ignored them.

She does need to put on her big girl panties, take some responsibility and set this man in his place. You are her bf not her husband so back down until she puts some skin in the game and distances herself from him.

 

[woodchuck]

She won bro. Hang ur testicles up in closet next to ur old H.S. gym shorts.

And take 'em out everytime you wanna tell the story about the time y'all almost won state.

 

[baboss2212]

Ol AL Bundy ass

 

[Osca Lee]

you still holding respect for the rotten ass pastor...

I dont understand the logic in that when he wanted your gal to send him a selfie....selfies lead to send me a naked pic....naked pics lead to you girl having so called prayers meetings(fuck sessions) and then when they both get caught this is how it will go down....

she tells you that she needed someone to talk to and you always overreact and he listened to her and then he took advantage of her....

what really happened is he did listen while at the same she opened her legs and let him stick his dick in her...

your mind wont allow you to realize just because he is preacher that he is a rotten mf....so you still toy with the idea that he helps kids and he is married...

realize this he may be fucking the youth girls like he fucking his wife....wnt be the first time or last a pastor been caught doing this

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

Maaaaaaaaaan listen,

If she really truly cares about yall relationship, she would agree to cut off all ties with him and

yall do research and find a new church..

but Im gonna be honest with you, the pastor already has her by her emotional balls, or she wouldnt be writing back

dont take this personal but dude has waaaaaaaay more game than you do... you have two ways of dealing with this..

A- have a sitdown and be honest say I feel something is going on and I dont know what it is, and if you really value US

you would be open and not hide things from me.. talk in a low soothing tone, if you are in an upset or angry mood wait

untill you can calm down, drink some chamomille or st johns wort tea... before hand trust me it will help you to think

before you start throwing shit and wanting to smack a bitch..

B- Just let whatever happens happen, but in the mean time you explore your options and have a plan b in case

she makes that move to relieve her emotional stress, then you can just move on with your plan b.


Once a dude gets through a chicks emotional door, its only a matter of time before he gets through them sexual doors..

Dont try to out play him, he is light years ahead of you...



If you ask me, your relationship needs work, there is something missing and she is going to find it in another dude...

either you try to fill that emotional void or physical void, or move on...


Most dudes think they are ready for relationships but they really arent.... you have to be mentally, physically, sexually, financially

and emotionally on top of your game... to keep that honeymoon vibe !!!


and dont fret, whatever the outcome is, it will only make you a stronger and wiser person.. if you aint a weak ass bitch!!

dont be a cinnamon apple yearnin ass nigga!!!

 

[2 ONE 3]

OP hold old are you fam? You really holding another man on a pedestal because his title as "Pastor"

Fam you should know that pastors are the second if not first biggest pimps / playas in the community...You said cuzz is a drug addict and the bum ass nigga is married too

You must really love ol girl to overlook the obvious

 

[NinjaspiT]

I understand completely the way this Pastor is, and the reason I am so pissed off is the reason you stated. Why the FUCK would he continue to ask her for selfies when she didnt respond multiple times on different days? This is what really got me heated, im not stupid.

 

[baboss2212]

I understand completely the way this Pastor is, and the reason I am so pissed off is the reason you stated. Why the FUCK would he continue to ask her for selfies when she didnt respond multiple times on different days? This is what really got me heated, im not stupid.

Smh. Hard head makes a broke heart.

 

[Sampson]

Ninja, if you even contact/threaten the pastor, this is EXACTLY what will happen:

The pastor is going to contact your girl, calling you angry and crazy.

Your girl will confront you and say "this is why I can't confide in you, you overreact to everything."

She leaves you and goes to the pastor for someone to confide to.

You'll be pushing her right into his hands. I ain't mad at you bro. I understand anger clouds anyone's judgement. That's why you can't be In love and angry, it leads to irrational decisions that could end badly for you.

Just charge it to the game. Whatever you do just remember it's between YOU TWO.

The pastor should be a distant memory now. Stop obsessing over him.

 

[baboss2212]

OP hold old are you fam? You really holding another man on a pedestal because his title as "Pastor"

Fam you should know that pastors are the second if not first biggest pimps / playas in the community...You said cuzz is a drug addict and the bum ass nigga is married too

You must really love ol girl to overlook the obvious

He trusted the Pastor (in title)
*cue up Black A. Camus

 

[2 ONE 3]

I understand completely the way this Pastor is, and the reason I am so pissed off is the reason you stated. Why the FUCK would he continue to ask her for selfies when she didnt respond multiple times on different days? This is what really got me heated, im not stupid.

My nigga thats why you need to address that shit...But like I said how well do you trust your girl...Cuz if she's emotionally attatched to this nigga, its damn near nothing you can do. It seems like both of yall hold this lame ass nigga to a higher standard because he has a flock of sheep every sunday

 

[woodchuck]

OP, on the real, I can't speak for anyone else, but I've been played like that once, and it all looks the same, no matter who's involved. We ain't typing this shit just to make jokes, shit really could go sideways, and plus you've gone full heartbreak on this one. If we keep telling you that the butler did it, why are you still trying to see the movie?

 

[NinjaspiT]

My nigga, TRUST ME. I am 100% against religion. I hate churches, because I grew up in them and seent he hypocrisy. This situation only reinforced my ideas on the black church. The fact that my girl goes to church bothers me enough, but this sent my anger to the next level. My beef in general is with churches and these corrupt hypocrites trying to call themselves "leaders." In no way am i putting this nigga on a pedastal. Its just the fact that black people in general put these people on apedastal is what pissed me the FUCK off.

 

[woodchuck]

My nigga, TRUST ME. I am 100% against religion. I hate churches, because I grew up in them and seent he hypocrisy. This situation only reinforced my ideas on the black church. The fact that my girl goes to church bothers me enough, but this sent my anger to the next level. My beef in general is with churches and these corrupt hypocrites trying to call themselves "leaders." In no way am i putting this nigga on a pedastal. Its just the fact that black people in general put these people on apedastal is what pissed me the FUCK off.

I'm with you on this one, but don't let it fuck up your mission.

 

[NinjaspiT]

My girl goes to church for spiritual guidance, and this is what she gets out of it. I feel like my girl is the victim in a sense. She cannot hide her beauty and attractiveness. Im just angry that she tries so hard to gain some depth in her life, but always ends up in a situation like this with fucked up people because of her physical appearance. in a way, i feel kind of sad for her.

 

[Osca Lee]

Maaaaaaaaaan listen,

If she really truly cares about yall relationship, she would agree to cut off all ties with him and

yall do research and find a new church..

but Im gonna be honest with you, the pastor already has her by her emotional balls, or she wouldnt be writing back

dont take this personal but dude has waaaaaaaay more game than you do... you have two ways of dealing with this..

A- have a sitdown and be honest say I feel something is going on and I dont know what it is, and if you really value US

you would be open and not hide things from me.. talk in a low soothing tone, if you are in an upset or angry mood wait

untill you can calm down, drink some chamomille or st johns wort tea... before hand trust me it will help you to think

before you start throwing shit and wanting to smack a bitch..

B- Just let whatever happens happen, but in the mean time you explore your options and have a plan b in case

she makes that move to relieve her emotional stress, then you can just move on with your plan b.


Once a dude gets through a chicks emotional door, its only a matter of time before he gets through them sexual doors..

Dont try to out play him, he is light years ahead of you...



If you ask me, your relationship needs work, there is something missing and she is going to find it in another dude...

either you try to fill that emotional void or physical void, or move on...


Most dudes think they are ready for relationships but they really arent.... you have to be mentally, physically, sexually, financially

and emotionally on top of your game... to keep that honeymoon vibe !!!


and dont fret, whatever the outcome is, it will only make you a stronger and wiser person.. if you aint a weak ass bitch!!

dont be a cinnamon apple yearnin ass nigga!!!

i agree... drink the tea to be calm

however being calm and having the right to get angry are 2 diff things....

nothing wrong with him getting angry at her for the back and forth with that rotten ass pastor....she trying to turn him into a puppet and pull his dont get mad string when she knows she been doing foul shit...she may not grew up with no father in her life but that is some shit she has seen her mom and grandmother do and she is using it as well

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Thanks for the advice. We both didnt have a father figure growing up and so I attribute most of her actions to that. The thing with this pastor is that, she says he NEVER exhibited anything that would cause her to think that he was trying to get at her. When he texted her that, it was from way left field according to her. Which is why she said she thought she had done something wrong and was embarrassed by it. I really think she truly has /had no idea. Im in school getting my degree soon, and I have a lot of admirable qualities. I have always wanted one woman by my side, which is why I am content with working things out and discussing things. I have nothing to hide, and neither does she. She gave me her password to her phone and computer a long time ago. I really just think its a result of her really not knowing and possibly an ego boost. She is the type of female that grew up without getting much male attention until she blossomed into a beautiful woman. Now the tables have turned, and i do not think she knows how to deal with the attention.

Grats on your degree.

 

[2 ONE 3]

My nigga, TRUST ME. I am 100% against religion. I hate churches, because I grew up in them and seent he hypocrisy. This situation only reinforced my ideas on the black church. The fact that my girl goes to church bothers me enough, but this sent my anger to the next level. My beef in general is with churches and these corrupt hypocrites trying to call themselves "leaders." In no way am i putting this nigga on a pedastal. Its just the fact that black people in general put these people on apedastal is what pissed me the FUCK off.

I feel you famo cuz my grandma is the same way...

Been going to the same church for over 40+ with ppl she can't stand & talks shit about...But everyones all smiles & kisses on Sunday morning...

I know you go to church for the message and not the people...But I really hate that phony shit. But OP you should always be aware of men in positions of power...especially in our community and at a place like church. Those niggas are like bloodhounds looking for new pussy

 

[NinjaspiT]

My girl goes to church for spiritual guidance, and this is what she gets out of it. I feel like my girl is the victim in a sense. She cannot hide her beauty and attractiveness. Im just angry that she tries so hard to gain some depth in her life, but always ends up in a situation like this with fucked up people because of her physical appearance and the fact that women get envious, or a dude tries to hit on her. in a way, i feel kind of sad for her.

 

[NinjaspiT]

I feel you famo cuz my grandma is the same way...

Been going to the same church for over 40+ with ppl she can't stand & talks shit about...But everyones all smiles & kisses on Sunday morning...

I know you go to church for the message and not the people...But I really hate that phony shit. But OP you should always be aware of men in positions of power...especially in our community and at a place like church. Those niggas are like bloodhounds looking for new pussy

REAL TALK

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

I understand completely the way this Pastor is, and the reason I am so pissed off is the reason you stated. Why the FUCK would he continue to ask her for selfies when she didnt respond multiple times on different days? This is what really got me heated, im not stupid.

dude he read her, and he sees a weakness, and KNOWS he can exploit it, thats why he keeps asking for selfies....

you either have to put a monkey wrench in his game plan by having that sit down....(see my previous post)

or admit defeat, conjure up a plan b and move on....

the fact that she aint put an immediate stop to it, should raise an eyebrow...

 

[baboss2212]

U absolutely believe ur girl is sooooo innocent. Smh
When will she ever be accountable for her actions in this, and in life?

 

[BronxBomber]

OP, on the real, I can't speak for anyone else, but I've been played like that once, and it all looks the same, no matter who's involved. We ain't typing this shit just to make jokes, shit really could go sideways, and plus you've gone full heartbreak on this one. If we keep telling you that the butler did it, why are you still trying to see the movie?

Ninja, if you even contact/threaten the pastor, this is EXACTLY what will happen:

The pastor is going to contact your girl, calling you angry and crazy.

Your girl will confront you and say "this is why I can't confide in you, you overreact to everything."

She leaves you and goes to the pastor for someone to confide to.

You'll be pushing her right into his hands. I ain't mad at you bro. I understand anger clouds anyone's judgement. That's why you can't be In love and angry, it leads to irrational decisions that could end badly for you.

Just charge it to the game. Whatever you do just remember it's between YOU TWO.

The pastor should be a distant memory now. Stop obsessing over him.

These brothers are trying to tell you @NinjaspiT

You really have already lost her but I didnt want to go there.

@woodchuck happened to me to lol.

At this point Im pretty much the guy on the other end. I don't have to do much because guys like you will do the work, and push her my way and will take her to Thai spot on a groupon and its a wrap.

 

[2 ONE 3]

Would you consider sitting down with that fuck nigga & your girl at the same time...Let him know about the texts & how BOTH of you are not okay with his advances and mentions of a selfie. I think that would be the best solution...If she truly is uncomfortable with it.

 

[woodchuck]

dude he read her, and he sees a weakness, and KNOWS he can exploit it, thats why he keeps asking for selfies....

you either have to put a monkey wrench in his game plan by having that sit down....(see my previous post)

or admit defeat, conjure up a plan b and move on....

the fact that she aint put an immediate stop to it, should raise an eyebrow...

People don't realize that preachers are nothing but Pulpit Pimps. Their "spiritual counseling" is the same as inviting a runaway to have "a cup of coffee".